My son kept pulling his pants down
@shaggin (74988)
United States
December 18, 2010 9:24pm CST
Tonight I took my children to see their father and go to his side of the families Christmas party. My son decided he didnt want to keep his pants pulled up. I have no idea why he did this but he kept running around with his pants pulled half way down. It was so embarrassing. I am so thankful that he at least kept his diaper on while he did this because at home he wont leave his pants or diaper on. Twice people pulled his pants up and twice I did it. I told him if he did it again that he would be in time out automatically. He thought it was funny as anything and of course pulled his pants down again. I grabbed him and set him on this tall stack of chairs that was about as tall as my face so he couldnt get down. I made him sit there for 3 minutes while he screamed at the top of his lungs. When his time out was over I took him down and told him that he is to keep his pants up because if he pulls them down again he will be right back in time out. It worked he did not pull his pants down for the rest of the night!
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
19 Dec 10
You neglected to mention the age of your son, but if he is not toilet trained he's probably under 3. Why were you embarrassed by a child of 3? Obviously your little son was able to see your embarrassment, and use it to his advantage. Kids are very good at this!
Its always best to let a child be a child. By doing this you will not embarrassed when the toddler pulls his pants down, and then he won't be able use your embarrassment against you.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
19 Dec 10
I dont know I guess its just that our kids are a reflection on ourselves. So if people see him doing that they might think that I am ok with it or I dont know really I just get embarrassed sometimes with the things my kids do in front of others. Yes my son is 3 I'm sorry that I forgot to mention that. My son just thought it was funny so he kept doing it until I made him sit in time out for it then he realized that that mommy wouldnt put up with him doing that.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
22 Dec 10
I also don't understand this fondness for being naked by little kids. A few months ago, my 4 year old was also into running around without his pants. He would use the washroom, and before I could put his pants back on, he would be running down the stairs laughing!
At the back of my mind, I also have a nagging suspicion that it is a reflection of me. But after thinking it through, I've come to accept that it was just a phase.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
19 Dec 10
What you did up there is called reinforcement. Reinforcements can be of two kinds positive and negative. Usually there is a positive reinforcement for a desired behavior and a negative reinforcement for every unacceptable behavior. I remember writing an article http://www.bukisa.com/articles/358162_childs-psychology-how-reinforcement-helps about reinforcement to shape a child's behavior. In my article I mentioned a thing called differential reinforcement where you only give positive reinforcement for good deeds and a silent discouragement for bad ones. Punishments really help most of the times. However it gives optimum results when it bears a relation to the behavior it's meant to modify. For example, if you want to punish a child for not doing homework, you can ask him to do it in front of you without a break. Best punishment for doing something bad is undoing it or rectifying it.
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
19 Dec 10
I according to what you are saying that I used a good way or discipling my son. Pulling his pants back up wasent working when the second he was out of arms reach he would just pull them down again. I told him he would be in time out if he did it and he just laughed so when he did it again I had to make him take a time out. I'm glad that he accepted the punishment and stopped his behavior.
@kodukodu84 (1567)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 10
Some of my little cousin used to do the same too when they were very young and still wearing a diaper. Maybe they were not comfortable especially while running around. At least your son did listen to you but my cousins would not listen at all and they will even end up crying trying to take the pants of and start running around again
Have a nice day
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
19 Dec 10
At home he just takes his diaper and pants and socks off. There he was just running around with his pants pulled down his thighs. I dont know how he didnt trip really. I'm just so glad that he didnt take his diaper off and run around like that. He used to do that all the time it was so embarrassing lol. People are good about it though they just laugh.
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 10
Wow..you have some kind of smart kid :) Haha! It reminds me so much on my nephew. He is just so naughty and he really thought it was fun to have his parents 'chasing' him all over. So I guess that actually children do not and will not always react the same way we expect them to. All they have in mind is fun, fun and fun. Therefore, parents have the hardest job which is to educate and teach them to the right path.
Sorry if I am wrong but just my observations :)
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@shaggin (74988)
• United States
19 Dec 10
There is no need to apologize for what you said. You are correct. It is hard work teaching our children the proper ways to behave. Sometimes it seems like all we do is tell them what they cant do. I try to make sure if I tell them what they cant do I also tell them what they can do. Such as you dont have to wear your pants at home if your hot but you at least have to wear underwear.
@jacky9538 (78)
• China
19 Dec 10
Kids may not know that pulling pants down or diaper off is embarrassing for them. In my country, boys wear pants whose middle part is open for them to pee. They can't do this or that independently. They need help all the time. When you go out for an event, you'd better not take him with you. He's the king.
@moondancer (7431)
• United States
19 Dec 10
lol, he is at that age when clothes just don't seem important and they are a hassle for him too.
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
19 Dec 10
Well sometimes he will get cold running around without any clothes on and tell me that he needs his clothes and socks because hes cold. At other times I cannot keep his clothes on. Yesterday was like this at home. He did not want to leave his clothes on so I was worried about how it would go at the party. It went as I had figured it would with him pulling his pants down lol.
@Nadinest1 (2016)
• Canada
28 Dec 10
Good for you....you did the right thing....and he learned from this.
Maybe he did this because there was a lot of people around....and it only takes one person to laugh at him and he will do it again.
|Great job, mom.
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
29 Dec 10
LOL oh probably. Of course so many people saw this and they all laughed. So he probably kept it up after that thinking how funny it was. Today he went all day without a diaper on and didnt have one accident. I think when he pulled his pants down there at the party he was trying to go on the potty chair like he does at home but then after that it just became a game.
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
28 Dec 10
I know it must not have been funny at the time for you, but I'm having a chuckle over it none the less. Thank goodness for time outs! And that was clever to use a stack of chairs so he couldn't get down.
@calpro (930)
• India
20 Dec 10
Hi,
I know it really embarrasses us when our children do something which is not normal in public. But at the same time we need to first find out the reason for their behavior before scolding them and punishing them.
[i]The reasons for your son behavior could be any of the following.
1. He felt funny running pants half way down.
2. He might be having an itching or irritation with the material of the pants.
3. He might be having any kind of discomfort with diapers on.[/i]
Before making him sit on a stack of chairs better check all the above. I can understand your feelings and I am also a father of a 4 year old naughty kid.
Take care
Happy Living
Calpro
@shaggin (74988)
• United States
20 Dec 10
He didnt tell me why he was doing it he just kept running away as soon as I got his pants up and laughing pulling them back down. Today was worse. I took him to the school with me to drop off some things to my daughter. While I was talking to my childrens aunt she stopped and told me to look at my son. You should have seen the look on her face lol. She is very proper and I think that she just couldnt believe he would do that. She said just tell him no. He didnt care lol he bent over giggling so I couldnt pull his pants up. I managed to get his diaper and pants up and carried him outside. I told him he cant just pull his pants down that if he has to go pee pee he needs to tell me. At home when he has to go pee he will just pull his pants and diaper down and then walk into the bathroom. I think that was kind of what he was thinking when we were at the school.
@glamgirldoll (313)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Maybe hes just uncomfortable with his pants. Dont take it seriously because hes just 3 and he still didnt know the value of clothing.
