Domestic Violence
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (189819)
Boise, Idaho
December 29, 2010 4:15pm CST
happens in this country EVERY 15 seconds. Can you believe it?! I was shocked. I knew it happened alot but not that much. Women (and men) are being verbally degraded, threatened, stocked and manipulated by their SO. There was one story I heard where a man doused his astranged wife with gasoline and let her on fire. What sick human being can find justification in doing something like this? What one thing would you tell other women(and men) to help them not to be treated this way? I think that self esteem is the big thing here. If woman(and men) had more self-esteem I think they would be less apt to fall under the spell of men like this. And I add men here as well because there are cases of men who have been mistreated this way too. I think this is a very serious issue and we need to think about it. Do you know anyone that you suspect of being abused by their SO? Do you feel the least bit responsible if you did think a neighbor or friend was being abused. Why do you think these people are this way? Do you think they have had something horrible happen in their lives to make them this way? The grand manipulators. Your thoughts--
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@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
29 Dec 10
Low self esteem leads to insecurity so therefore it makes it that much more difficult to get out of this kind of situation.
I do not feel a bit responsible if a neighbor was going through this as I would do several things, try as much as I can to assist the neighbor, if I knew her/him well, to convince why they have to let go and or I would be the first to call the police if I heard beatings and or abuse.
Outside of this there is nothing else I can do as I cannot forcibly change their situation. I would still continue to convince they have to leave.
Most contributed factors is that according to what I have heard has to do with them being abused as children, however this cannot always be the reason as I am lucky to be alive, being a surviving physical abused. I have never had the urge to hurt and or verbally abuse any partner and or my children.
Hopefully people realize this vicious pattern and either seek help and or simply not do.
@celticeagle (189819)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Dec 10
Me too. I would definitely always call the cops if I hear fighting. I am never in any way impressed by a man who mistreats a woman. I am very attracted to gentlemen.
@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
29 Dec 10
Self esteem is a big issue here. Abuse erodes self-esteem and the guilt and shame that many victioms feel for being victims and/or remaining victims makes it a vicious cycle. Continued education and support are very important to helping victims to find the strength to seek help. All kinds of horrible things can happen in someone's life that makes them become "victims" of abuse; but some victims lead wonderful lives until they simply meet the "wrong" partner.
@celticeagle (189819)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Dec 10
So true! Self-esteem is so important. I firmly believe that woman should never even go looking for a relationship if they are not whole to begin with.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
30 Dec 10
Yup know or have known Like the post I made about the desert walkers all that was the feller using mind control over the woman told them its just about 50 miles and we will find work and They were out 3 dys never evn made it to the Arizona bordercame back women stayed with her momma but soon as he found awy to get back here he was afte again telling here he loved her and he was the only one that did anyway she went back to him choose the mind controler and beater over her family that tried their best to show they loved her too.
Then I had another friend we talked for 5 years stayed up thru alot of nights talking and i had no idea she was gettng beat he knew where to hit and she covered it up thought it was her fault.
ast time he went after her she shot him. Sad how things can work out and of some you never know!
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@celticeagle (189819)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Dec 10
I gave up my apartment once to a young woman and her little girl who my mom knew from work. She needed a place to go and mom gave her my apartment for a time. The kid wrote all over my posters and such and I remember how upset I was over that. But am glad my mom did what she did to help the woman out. I stayed with my grandmother and was too young and into my life to understand until afew years later. That lady was pretty brave to have shot him.
@celticeagle (189819)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jan 11
Who is to say what goes through the minds of some people. It is caused by such insecurity and self-esteem issues on both sides that it becomes a twisted mess. Happy New Year!
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
30 Dec 10
It is a shame that so many conuntries will have domestic violence in common. It is not something that goes away without fighting for it. Domestic violence is an issue that we can all identify with in some way or another. Wiping it out would benefit us all.1 person likes this
@celticeagle (189819)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Dec 10
yES, i think it is sad that we all can identify with it so readily. Wiping it out would be nice but how do we go about that?
@mahto1000 (51)
• India
30 Dec 10
I hate violence.. no matter it is a domestic violence or whatever... I don't understand why many peoples don't like to live in peace and don't let others to live in peace :(
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@jhartana (1084)
• Australia
30 Dec 10
I have done domestic violence before and I got the hard lesson. Believe me domestic violence is a big NO. You can put someone life in peril and you could destroy your own life. Before it happens, think what will happen to you or your entire family first. Violence is not the way of resolving disputes. Always use cool head when talking and try to understand before you can take any action. I am now not able to ever get myself involved in domestic violence again. I just can't afford to ruin my life anymore, having to learn the hard lesson once.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
30 Dec 10
Hi celti,
Whatsoever people might not speak about the emancipation of women and feminism they are ultimately the victims of domestic violence. What is the ration there I have no idea but in India it is too high specially among the lower middle class people.
Violence get ignited from dowry, and childlessness on the part of the women. I wonder how come they ( men ) are so brutal to burn somebody alive and kick the house maid?
Is it the reflection of too much of materialism or degeneration of mankind.
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