When you do not feel for your partner what will you do..
By sammy14
@sammy14 (834)
Philippines
January 7, 2011 3:25am CST
When you are in a relationship and don't feel anymore for your partner or that you feel that your partner do not love you anymore... how do you want it to end... Will you tell your partner that you do not love him/her anymore or you just avoid seeing him/her because you do not want to hurt him/her...
On the other hand, if you are the woman in this case... when you see signs that your partner don't feel anymore for you... will you still want him to say that dreadful word in your face! or you just avoid him and look for another man..
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4 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
hi sammy,
Looking for another partner will not be a solution if i am in that situation i will give him enough time so he can think if the same feelings like before is still there, if he decided that he doesn't love me anymore even it hurts i need to accept it rather than fooling myself and believing to all of his lies.
happy posting 
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
8 Jan 11
Well i just want to be in a honest relationship and i think it is better to get hurt and accept the truth than to be hurt with all lies. 
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Jan 11
If I felt my partner was no longer in love with me I would want him to tell me that and end it there because I would not want to live a lie. If the situation was reversed I would like to think that, difficult as it would be, I would communicate how I feel to my partner and, either work things out or call it quits and then deal with the emotional pain.
@maean_19 (4656)
• Philippines
7 Jan 11
If I would no longer feel the love for my partner, I think I would tell him the truth. It is hurting and painful, but I know he deserves to know. If I would avoid him just because I don't want to hurt him, is not proper. Why? Because you are giving him the idea to wonder what happened. Hence, it will not help him to move on. Unlike when you tell the truth, there is closure though it hurts. The hurt will not last for long because it would be easier for him to realize it that it is over.
If I found out that my partner no longer love me, I want him to tell me the truth. It is hurting of course, but as I said, I deserve to know the truth and I know what would be the reason of the break up. Avoiding me will lead me to hold on and wait. Hence, it would be harder for me to move on because of the absence of closure.
Truth hurts, but it frees you from holding on.
Why is it hard to move on? Because the break up did not end well, no closure. Hence, the tendency is that the other person will feel anger and bitterness because he/she does not know the truth or the reason of the break up.
@sammy14 (834)
• Philippines
12 Jan 11
yeah i think you gave the best answer to my query.. Others really would not like to put closure because of the hurt that it will cause on the other party but I agree with you it should be put to closure.. On the other hand some would not like to put closure because of for future reference purpose... i mean the other party could come back easily on the ground that they were not officialy separated...
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
8 Jan 11
if you feel that your lover dont love you anymore just talk with him. you need to tell him that you think that he doesnt love you and that you need to know if he loves you or not. you need to be honest with him. the best in a relationship is to be honest. if you tell him how you feel im sure that he will be honest with you. and if you dont feel happy anymore dont look for other guy.just say to him that you want to break up bcs you are not happy anymore.
