Bone Chilling Read

United States
January 12, 2011 2:53am CST
I just read something that chilled me to my core. ~ "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior" is an essay written by Amy Chua claiming hyper strict Chinese mothers are superior to other mothers. Other mothers include Western mothers and more relaxed Chinese mothers who allow their children to do the following forbidden Amy's own children: ~ [i]sleepovers playdates school plays complain about not being in school plays watch TV or play computer games choose their own extracurricular activities get any grade other than an A not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama play any instrument other than the piano or violin not play the piano or violin.[/i] ~ http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html ~ Amy Chua is raising her children in a pressure cooker. I most certainly hope she is watching the little pots for cracks. ~ When I say cracks, I say mental illness or learning disability. If you relentlessly force a child to do what they cannot do the pressure will explode. Suicide can happen, as can homicide, or some other destructive or self harmful act. While there is great brilliance the education system in China and Japan, the suicide rate is sky high.
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@NoWayRo (1061)
• Romania
12 Jan 11
Heh, I love the beginning of the article: "how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids". I think most European parents dread the thought of their kid being a stereotype, even if we're talking about a stereotype of success. I friend of mine who works in China often told me recently that this mentality is beginning to change, due to the one-child policy implemented by the Chinese government. Parents are now more tempted to spoil their single child, and children become more individualistic and egotistic, now that they don't have any siblings. I don't know if this is true or not, it's just an opinion, but it makes sense to me.
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• United States
12 Jan 11
Spoiling is a problem too. The spoilt child is unable to deal with life at all, thinking that the rewards of life will be handed to him/her on a platter with zero effort at all. Balance is a key. ~ There is more than one style of child rearing cropping up in China. One is the 'Little Emperor' style where the child is given everything. The other is rigid, demanding upbringing knowing that the one child will have to care for four sets of aging parents style. I can't pin point where in China these styles are, as China is HUGE. It's also very late here... ~ Amy Chua makes no bones about being a militant.