Married satisfaction down with kids

I have my way of thinking in this topic. Once a couple has a child, the relationship will be better. Once you look at your child, you are reminded about your the other half. ha! ha! ha! A child from a couple is just a shadow of a couple. He or she will sound, act, think, talk and so on as any one of you. After having a child, a couple will still have time to interact to each other. But their concentration of course will be their children. Children are the future for a couple. Don't you agree?

Hi yspmyl, This research is quite true in families where they believe that upbringing a child is the responsibility of the woman only... I feel (and have seen a few couples too) they get more close to each other when there is a new member in the family - The husband and wife both share the responsibility and there is more of interaction... So I believe that this research is true no doubt but would fail to stand correct with couples who believe in sharing

Well may be you have little time for yourself.But being with baby is great joy esp for mother.You loose satisfaction on marriage front but you have great satisfaction derive from this new relationship.So i guess its worth having baby.

Yeah, you have a point. Having kids is hard to manage. I had a talk with one of my highschool classmates who just had his first baby. He said it seems there aren't much time for him and his wife. The more kids you have, the more busy you'll be, I guess.

Not at all, my husband and I have two children, a boy who will be two next month and a girl who is eight months old. We are closer than ever. When the child is just a baby we were both very tired and I was up most of the night feeding but that only lasts a few months then you can sleep through the night again. When the children go to bed at night my husband and I spend the evening together watching films or tv just like we always did. We actually spend more time together than we used to as we always go out at the weekend with the children, usually just a trip to the shops and out for lunch but always fun. I think it depends on close you are with your partner to begin with and the people who's relationship gets worse with each child, why do they keep having them then?

Well, that certainly have some truths in it. But if the couple will talk down and sit sometime to address the said problem, then they could probably compromise and find the time to be with themselves only to bond. But being with the children , playing or cajoling with them could already make the couples bond also. It's a matter of finding even shortest moment to be with each other maybe during night time before going to bed to rekindle those feelings overshadowed by all those household chores that both of you might share. Here in the Philippines, with the help of maids couples could delegate the taking care of children to them, giving them ample time to bond and rekindle those lost intimacies.

Raising children is definitely a major stressor. The more kids you have, the less time you have to spend on yourself, your relationship, etc. It definitely takes a toll on you and your relationship, but for some people it's worth it and they get through it fine. For some people, it just becomes too much and they neglect the health of themselves and/or their relationship and it just falls apart. I personally never want children. Not necessarily because of this, but it is a minor factor.

I think that kids deffinately can make a relationship more challenging because of less time you have together and the stress that comes with taking care of kids but if you love eachother you try your best to not let that cause problems in your relationship by trying your best to find time while the kids are in bed to spend a little bit of time together watching a movie on the coach together at least every now and then.