It's a whole thing!!!
By Humbug25
@Humbug25 (12540)
January 30, 2011 4:03pm CST
My eldest son turned 10 earlier in January and is going on at me to let him have his ear pierced. He is even willing to pay for it himself. I really don't want him to have it done, I just don't like to see it with boys personally. When I was younger I too wanted my ears pierced but my dad told me no until I was 16 and was able to look after them myself. Needless to say when my parents got divorced when I was 11 the first thing my mum did was to take me out and got my ears pierced for me. 
Has any piercings caused any problems in your family? Do you think I am being a bit of a sour puss and think I should cut my son some slack?
Has any piercings caused any problems in your family? Do you think I am being a bit of a sour puss and think I should cut my son some slack?3 people like this
11 responses
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 11
Hiya sweetie! I do personally think that children grow up far too quickly nowadays, certainly when I was 10 I had absolutely no inclination to get my ears pierced in my days, ear rings were for girlies, showing my age here! Although I did get my ear pierced at 16, I personally think 10 is a bit young! He doesn't want a tongue piercing or a belly button piercing does he? PMSL. Don't let him read this, don't give him ideas! I think you are being very reasonable. Have you seen his classmates with ear rings in? I wonder where this idea has stemmed from? Do you think it might pass, you know a passing phase or do you think he'll continue to go on about it? I have got my inner ear pierced, and my eyebrow pierced, both ears obviously and that's it, but nothing more.
@Humbug25 (12540)
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30 Jan 11
Hey there wolfie hun
Well he did start on about it before Christmas as his birthday is just 10 days after but I bought him the snake he wanted instead haha. He also stopped going on about it until today. He even suggested I did it for him can you believe?!! He does have a few classmates that have one and I don't think they look good on them either, gives a certain impression doesn't it? Wow you have your inner ear done? I want that done but I have heard it hurts, my triangle bit there isn't very big either. I have the top of my ear done, my lobes, nose and nip. I used to have my eyebrow done too and at the time I had my nose, upper ear, lobes and nose done but then I met 'him' and so took it all out when I met his family and we got married. The things we do for love eh? LOL
Thanks for your continued support
and hopefully he will have forgotten about it by the morning - yeah right haha
Thanks for your continued support and hopefully he will have forgotten about it by the morning - yeah right haha2 people like this
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
30 Jan 11
OMG? Did I er read that correctly, you bought him a sn, sn, snake???????? Wolfie screams! The inner ear didn't hurt, but the thought of going any lower and it brings tears to my eyes. I don't wear the eyebrow piercing any more it's a damn nuisance, the amount of times at the gym when I sweat I go to rub the sweat away and the hoop goes flying, not nice! Love? What's that PMSL. Always willing to support a friend in need just promise me you won't mention the S word again LOL!
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@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
30 Jan 11
In my opinion 10 years old is not an appropriate age to be deciding if he wants his ears pierced. Tell him come back in 6 years when he has thought about it thoroughly. I do not think your being a sour puss. Let him think about things that will enhance his knowledge and skills. Today his ears, what next? As parents we need to create environments where children can make age appropriate decisions in mature and responsible ways to help them prepare for their socialization. At this age many children begin testing their parents to see how they can manipulate them. Show them that you are the parent and your decision is final. My daughter wanted to at that age but was not allowed to do it. She was allowed to pierce her ears when she was 16. Funny thing is that at that time, she no longer wanted too. Now she has nose piercing instead. Who can figure. lol
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Jan 11
hi humbug I am elderly and really I too do not like to see kid that young with piercings already. I saw one youngster with ears and tongue pierced and one eyebrow pierced and he cou
ld not have been more than 12. not i think you are right. tell him to wait until he is 16 if he just has to have it done.Also tell him gently that he may get razzed as being gay too as kids can be cruel. I would say 16 and maybe by then he will have forgotten all about it.
ld not have been more than 12. not i think you are right. tell him to wait until he is 16 if he just has to have it done.Also tell him gently that he may get razzed as being gay too as kids can be cruel. I would say 16 and maybe by then he will have forgotten all about it.2 people like this
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Jan 11
My mom wouldn't let us get ours pierced until we were 18. When I was 18, I went and did mine and took my sister and did hers too. :D
My son is 10. If he really wanted to, I probably wouldn't have a problem with it, but I think his dad would.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Jan 11
He doesn't like him doing anything that he thinks of as "girls only".
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
30 Jan 11
Well it used to cause some fights in my family because since i was 14 i always wanted to get a toungue piercing. But as the years passed by my mother just stopped fighting and now i have 7 piercings on my ears, one lip piercing, 1 toungue piercing and nose piercing. I even have a tattoo.
I did all this starting at the age of 13/14. Now she doesnt really care because piercings are something that you can do but after if you dont want them you can just take it out and let the hole shut.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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31 Jan 11
Hi there Absinto
I wanted to get my tongue pierced but would need to build up a lot of courage to get it done hahaha. I too have several piercings in other places and am going to get a tatt later this year but am still deciding on what to have, taking my time on that, like you say, piercings you can just remove and there is very little indication that there was every anything there, tatts, however, is another ball game!! LOL
Thanks for responding
Thanks for responding 
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
30 Jan 11
No, i would feel the same way u do. I think since he is ten u should be still calling the shots around your house.My youngest wanted a tat when he still lived at home & was in high school. I said no. He has them now & i don't like them but at least they are on his back where i don't have to look at them.
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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31 Jan 11
Hi there ANTIQUELADY
Oh I definately still call the shots in my house and will continue to do so until my kids no longer live with and they are old enough to make the right decission for themselves. Once they are adults there is very little I can do, I know!!
Thanks for your response
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
31 Jan 11
i think its your business how you raise him as you are the one has to live with him and you likely know whats best since hes so young. i did let my youngest get his pierced when he was around 10 or 11. only problem we had with it was he was always "borrowing" one of my earrings. he borrowed one of my set of tiny pistols and lost it so i ended up giving him the other. he lost one of my tiny sets of gemstones at a time and a set of cross earrings. finally i just told him, no more!
either buy your own some how or borrow someone elses. ..lol
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
31 Jan 11
At least in my part of the US, there is still a bit of a stigma attached to guys with earrings. It's kind of a "rebellious" look here. Not necessarily a big deal but just something that is frowned upon when a guy goes out looking for a job. I believe he is not taken very seriously. There is absolutely NO stigma attached to girls with pierced ears here. For that reason alone, I would discourage my son from getting one. I wouldn't give my permission while he is still a minor.
Also, I think that kids ask for things one day, then forget all about them the next. Maybe he will not even be thinking about this a year from now. Kids are fickle. At least mine are! LOL!
No! I don't think you are a sour puss at all!
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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31 Jan 11
Hi there rocketj1
Well at least he can't just go off and do it as they would need my consent beforehand, phew. I don't think that there is too much stigma here where I live but I just don't want him looking like a thug as many boys tend to especially as I keep his hair short.
Thanks for your response
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
31 Jan 11
I think that it is important for you to stand firm on this one. Perhaps he is just testing you but he is still a young kid. The culture out here is for young girls to get their ears pierced soon after birth. My daughter was five years old and she was the only girl in her class that did not have studs. They could ear a small hoop or stud.
Boys would not be admitted into school wearing an earring or any other type of body piercing. It is still frowned upon although a few are doing it. It is still associated with homosexuality. Sorry but this is the way it is. I live in a very homophobic society.
No you are not a sour puss. You are a sweetie
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@Humbug25 (12540)
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31 Jan 11
Hi ya cynthia
I understand that in some cultures they pierce girls ears from birth and it is not something I agree with bbecause that is someone elses body and what right do we have to do that to someone else, they can make that decission later on in life, but that is just my opinion and that is another discussion haha. I don't any fingers being pointed at my son saying he is a thug or of the homosexual persuation, not at the age of 10!!
Thanks for your response, support and kind comment XX
Thanks for your response, support and kind comment XX
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Personally I would not have had my son's ear pierced at age 10, I do realize everyone is different but at ten I think it is too young. What I use to tell my kids and was able to get away with was that I would say that if at 16 they still wanted something then I would reconsider.
I would tell them that I knew they only wanted it because others had it and I did not want them to have regrets later in life, so my hope was by 16 if they still wanted the something then I would reconsider, hoping by then they outgrew the want. LOL..
I think that with all that goes on in the world you ought to wait a bit and hope he changes his mind. Best of luck to you and your son.
