Double Standard

I agree w/u 100% Cat. Don't like that double standard stuff either. I have had trouble lately w/people to. Not on mylot but in my neighborhood. I hate it but i'll be darned if i'm going to kiss their butte to get along w/them. They do wrong but get mad at u. Go figure, grrrr.I hate a racket w/people but can fall in there w/the best of them if i have to.U hang in there sunshine, don't figure people that act that way are your friends to start with.

I do not agree with double Standards either Like you I expect my Friends to accept me the way I am but I also accept them as they are If I have something to say I will say it in the nicest possible way and well if the Friend does not like it then that is up to them

Well this is something I have seen, and been there done that myself many times, and all I can say is "GIVE IT and THEM TIME." If you truly had a good friendship and had many Happy times hopefully they will see the error of their ways and in time want to be friends with you again. The problem could be many times they know you are right but not wanting to accept your advice and then learn from it themselves to prove just how right you are. There are other people out there I am sure wanting to be your friend so just move on.

I post on here to get peoples opinions. We don't always agree. That is just life. That is one reason that I do. It not only gives me support, but sometimes makes me look at things differently. I do not attack people for their thoughts, they are entitled to their opinion. I also will not beg someone to be my friend. I love to hear from my friends, but I have learned, that there are so many more important things to worry about, I try not to let little things bother me. I would go crazy if I did.

I also hate double standards and not a lot drives me more nutz than people I consider friends not liking each other... especially when they have so many things in common! I honestly don't care any more if people decide they don't like me, I have enough friends that I don't need two faced people around. I do try to mind my tongue, but I will say the truth, tho I do try to temper it with kindness.

I am sorry your friend treated you this way and just for the record, you have been nothing but sweet and nice to me and if I feel you have said something off, I will ask for clarity before making any judgment..

Well, Cats, you know I do not take offense. This friend must have really high expectations of you and even if everyone else fails, thinks you should be perfect. I am sorry that they have chosen to be touchy about the things you say.

Seems to me that some people can offend anyone, friend or foe and say and do whatever they like, but if someone does the same thing back to them then all h3ll breaks loose. Some people will say...I'm a nice person. Be nice to me ...or else (insert threat here). Isn't that a double standard? Or is it just a simple contradiction?

Well pretty much the same as you....everything should be the same for everyone...And we should all accept everyone for what they are and not fly off the handle when something is said....or misconstrewed!

Hi. CatsandDogs. Well, you know that me and you have an understanding that if you ever offend me, I will ask you about it. I have gotten to know you, and I have to honestly say that you are a wonderful person. I don't want you to ever think that you have to be on egg shells when you are around me. I know when someone is trying to hurt me, or make me angry. I know that you are not doing that to me at all. I am nothing like this friend of yours. I have mercy on people because I know how it feels, to feel like a person wants nothing to do with you, because of something petty that they think about you. Being a great friend to you, means that she should come and talk to you like a woman. She should be honest with you, I am sure that once she hears your side of the story, she will come to understand that you don't mean her any harm at all. I am glad that you are like this, CatsandDogs. Why? Because I know many people, especially women that have offended me, on purpose, and they never had the audacity to apologize or explain themselves to me at all. But you are nothing like them. You are very thoughtful and you believe in clearing up any confusion that you may feel like you have towards a person. This means a lot. I wished that these women carried the same attitude as you do. God has made all of us different, but what I appreciate the most about you is that you are kind and you are out to get someone, unlike many women that I know of. You are very mature and kindhearted. So, if this girl never comes around, just know that you have us here at myLot, that believes in you. I am glad that I got to know you and I appreciate you still being my friend, even if we may have butt heads a little. None of us are perfect at myLot, but what matters the most is that we are able to appreciate and recognize the genuine friendships that we strive to keep and to hold onto.

most all of really good friends are like that. they let you know and have a chance to over come a disagreement. but i've found that some dont. they dont let you know whats up with them and just ditch you with no reason you can think of. they are not real friends, i think so sorry. i recently have had a supposed "friend" like that and all i can think is shes going through something i cant tell and she dont care to tell. so i just left it go. sometimes you have to.

Double standards stink! Friends like that aren't very pleasant either. I know all about that foot in the throat. I have been working on thinking about the things I say before I say them, but they are not lies. That is my personal friend preference. I would rather have a friend that I could trust to say what they mean and mean what they say. I like to know that when I need advice..they aren't sugar coating it or trying not to hurt my feeling. I don't want someone to be purposly hurtful..but honesty is appreciated. Some people are not like that and are all about hearing what they want to hear instead of what they need too. Never ever change..who you are is just the kind of friend that alot of people are needing and looking for.

I can't stand it too. Nobody can. Whenever that happens to me I just walk away rather than drool around that 'friend' hoping she will change. Such an attitude is there to stay and so what's the point in seeking justice eh?

I can't stand double standards because I feel like society shouldn't tell one person they can't do something but tell another person they can. So what if that other person is prettier or stronger or whatever other trait you want to pin on the person, how do you know what is right for another person isn't right for some other person.

I don't believe in double standards. The biggest ones, the ones that annoy me the most are gender related. If something is good for one, it's good for the other.

I hate double standards too. I hatecompeting for friendships or wlking on eggshells to keep a friendship. It is just not worth it to me because it keeps my nerves tore up and I sure do not want or have time for that.