"Renewing Your Vows" or Something - Wearing the same dress?
By LifeGuru
@LifeGuru (922)
Canada
July 10, 2011 8:20am CST
I don't know how to exactly put this but I'll put this in point form...
- Two people are married, and they want to marry each other again
Should the two wear the same thing at their last wedding or have something completely different to wear because of that wedding superstition where the groom is not allowed to see the bride in her dress?
- Wedding I: Private wedding nothing ultra ultra spontaneous and fancy since the two are saving up money but yet want to marry each other...
Should they get creative with the theme of the small private one and stick to something nobody's seen before (wear something else)? But yet still do the wedding superstition thing?
- Wedding II: This is what I mean by wearing the same thing... Should they wear the same thing from the wedding before this one or stick to wearing something else? The first wedding's still gunna have the bride wearing white and the groom wearing the regular colors except the outfits are themed for another thing in their fantasy land.
So what I was thinking, since the 2nd one will have family friends and whatnot there, they should just go all out and extravagant with the gown and bridesmaids dresses. Since she'll be designing most of the outfits anyways...
Should I stick to the idea of wearing something for one wedding and something else for the next?
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5 responses
@Galena (9110)
•
11 Jul 11
well it's up to each couple to decide.
it's a good excuse to re-use what are often very expensive clothes.
I'm not too sure what you're getting at though. a wedding blessing? or one of those situations where someone marries elsewhere, and then has a party to celebrate with the people that couldn't be there? in which case, yes, it's a great idea to re use the wedding clothes, so the guests get to feel like they're a part of it.
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
11 Jul 11
My husband had a vow renewal. This was the big family gathering. The first wedding was at the court house because we decided it was better for us to be married when we moved to another country than to go together. A lot of countries would not our relationship if it was not legal especially if it was a matter of making medical decisions. We had our parents and siblings at the first one along with the judge and that was it. i wore a simple white sundress and had fake flowers(which i still have). For the second wedding, the vow renewal, I had a real wedding dress. I walked down the aisle and had all the friends and family there.
This was just me, but I wanted the vow renewal to be a big event, not overly formal, but I did not want to wear the same thing.
We did not have anyone stand up with us at the second wedding, but that was because the "best man" passed away the week after we asked him to stand up. i had not asked my friend to be my maid of honor yet, so we decided instead of trying to replace the best man, to just stand up by ourselves.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Jul 11
It's really up to you. I don't think there is any hard and fast rule to this, people really just do what they want. It depends on your budget and what you like, as well as how many people are involved.
At my first wedding, we did the photos PRIOR to the wedding, so I don't really put much stock in that whole 'groom can't see the bride before wedding'. At my second wedding we only had one person there by choice, and again we had definitely seen each other before the wedding lol.
I think for a vow renewal and a big party it would be fun to design a dress and rent and cater something, but I only say that because I didn't know anybody here when we got married. Now I'd have a guest list of at least 100 plus family lol.
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
I guess it depends on the couple.
If the couple are sentimental than it sounds like a good idea. But after some time, it may cost much more to use the same clothes... If the couple want to remember the feelings they shared the first time they got married and enter into nostalgia, then this would be a good way to start.
However, of the couple's personalities are "modern" or future thinking then they may want to have different attires.
I don;t think superstition plays much of a role. Its more their personalities I guess.
I for one would love to wear the same clothes as before for the bride at least since she was wearing the proper gown the first time. The groom could wear what he believes he should have worn that first time. Its a chance to correct what was missing the first time right?
@bouncybug (613)
• South Africa
10 Jul 11
What a novel idea to marry the person you're married to again! I personally think that it would be better to wear something completely new for the second wedding - to mark that this is a fresh start and a renewal rather than just a rehashing of the same situation as the original wedding - I'm sure the people involved have changed and their reasons for getting married again are different for the original reasons they got married, so their outfit choice should reflect that!
