Loved or needed?

Aren't the two intertwined?

Are the two really separate? When one is rally in love, they need the other person lest their hearts break thus causing great agony. To be needed is to make one feel unwanted. To not be loved is to make one feel as if they are just being used. In my view love can not come without need, but need can be independent on of love. With loves comes a need to be with the person. However need does not have to involve love. A doctor needs the nurses help him, but he does not need to love them. An ex may feel as if they need their ex-partner by may no longer feel love. I find myself mostly needed. Friends who are still in high school or college will come to me for help occasionally. Then there are people who just need an opinion or an extra hand. I don't mind though. Love is only involved when it comes to my family and close friends.

I believe that I am with them/friends with them because I love them. I am not really a needy person and I can just live on my own. I want to be loved than just being needed. Because love already encompasses all good things.

I prefer to be loved and not to be needed....I want my significant other to love me and not just to need me....loving and needing are far too different...being loved is a great feeling, it gives me a feeling of self confidence hence I return the love given to me. I have known some people who gave up their happiness and chose to be with the people they need to serve their self interest. I feel sorry for these people.

I prefer being loved as this way I can see that I am appreciated. Being needed as opposed to love would cause me to feel taken for granted. I can understand someone having a mutual agreement to be helpful towards someone, but as far as a relationship for me there has to be loved in the equation. I am all for helping when needed but the love has to be a factor also for me.

When one truly loves, one wants to give all one has to make the other happy. It should work both ways, but it doesn't always. Sometimes one who loves is used by one who has only lust, not love. Sometimes two people can become infatuated and think that it's love -- even when they are adults. Or maybe one loves and the other lusts. Or infatuation disguised as love turns to lust in one person. A woman is often trying to have emotional needs met by a man who is only interested in having his physical desires met. After a while, it no longer works and she will realize she is just being used. Loving and being loved in return makes people bloom. Loving and realizing that one is being used merely as a toy can break one's heart in a romantic relationship. In families, though, especially as parents grow older, they want to be needed to have a reason to keep living. I saw this in my mother. She was most unhappy when she thought she was of no use to anyone anymore because she couldn't do all she once did. She needed to feel needed, and when, at the age of 76 she let her five-year old grandchild move in with her because his parents were in jail, it was hard, but she thrived knowing that her life had meaning again and that someone really needed her. In case you might be wondering why I didn't take him, our house was only big enough for his older brother who was about to turn 13. We thought might be harder for her to handle than a five-year-old.

Well...that's interesting. I think that loved...no needed...no loved...well...needed is important. Everyone wants to be needed but it can border on being used too. I think that loved and needed can come hand in hand and that is nice too.

I think when people are in a relationship, that they both love and need each other. Why I say that is that they each compliment each other as a whole. I think they go together hand in hand.