How to mediate between two fighting friends?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
Philippines
August 31, 2011 11:05am CST
I have two (girl) friends who are having misunderstanding or miscommunication. One would tell me that she gets offended by the talk of the other and then the other one would also tell me (on a separate time) how bad she felt because she was offended by the other.
Both of them are my close friends. However, their personalities don't jibe. One talks so frankly and the other easily gets irritated or hurt by simple criticism. I want both of them to learn how to give way with each other so that they would understand how the other one thinks. But it is so hard to hammer some sense to their heads and I cannot let them see the point of each other.
What do you suggest I should do to get them together and have a talk?
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
31 Aug 11
That must be one of the toughest things about being a friend! As a friend to each of them,they're both confiding in you about the other..But they both see themselves as being right,the other one is wrong,and your position with them could only get bad if you openly agreed with either one...but as you say,it's could be all a misunderstanding between them..do all 3 of you hang out together when things aren't working between them? they must have some common ground between them in friendship (Apart from You!) if they haven't fallen out and fought by now..how long has this been going on? Hopefully,remaining a mediator between them will help sort things out..as long as you're a good listener and don't mind being there for them..Maybe the quieter one could use some confidence boosting?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
Before, we used to go out. But now, we seldom go out together. I hope they would just both cool it off and then get back to the old happy days. You are right... they tell something not so nice about the other but I don't accept it outrightly. I would always rationalize with them. I'm a good friend and good friends should not take sides.
You are right again that sometimes you have to tell white lies just to fix friendship.
Have a nice day.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
1 Sep 11
I've been in this situation before. My group of friends from school re all girls, so girl fights are typical. I remember two of really close friends had an fight and both refused to talk. I was in the middle and both would try to have me on their side. I hated being the middle person and by not taking their side, they thought I wanted to have a fight with them too!
I told them to patch things up as it's their issue, something that no one else should get involved. They didn't talk for about year, after while they got back as good friends. Only time will tell. =)
