The maidservant played foul
By Kalyni2011
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
India
October 12, 2011 5:57am CST
My house was full, my elder son had come with his wife, 2 daughters and twin sons, my daughter came with her husband, mother in law, son and daughter, my husband’s brother came with his wife; we had so many celebrations in home one after another. The twin grandson had the 2nd birthday, Subhee had the 3rd birthday and the youngest in the family, Subhee’s brother Bishu had the 21st day ceremony.so we had feasts, puja etc.
Our maid servant knows this, so she told me in advance, you must raise my salary to 2000 rupees per month with immediate effect, because of my health issues I agreed to it, though it was kind of black mail for me.
But when all assembled, she didn’t come, though hubby Professor personally went to call her. We suffered like anything. All ladies in the house worked, I too washed dishes etc, I fell ill for 3 days because of exhaustion.
Today after almost a week we could get another maid for 2500 rupees per month. It is very difficult to get an honest maid here.
The previous maid used to steal soap, detergent powders, tea powder, rice, wheat flour etc , I was aware of this, but had to bear it.
Now I feel relaxed.
What about your home, do you depend upon maid servants or do house chores yourself?
[b]Well do the maid steal things too, just want to know?
Please respond, share and comment.[/b]
Kalyani
God bless you
What about your home, do you depend upon maid servants or do house chores yourself?
[b]Well do the maid steal things too, just want to know?
Please respond, share and comment.[/b]
Kalyani
God bless you5 people like this
17 responses
@sreekutty (1051)
• India
12 Oct 11
My dear Kalyaniji, I faced the ame situation last June. My house was filled with relatives who had come for my brother in laws twin sons upanayanam. he maid servant backed out and I as the daughtr in law was suffering bcause I had to do all jobs, I hav six ldr sis in laws and some of hem helped but most of he time I as in kitchen making food and coffee. If one person wants coffee, then all want it. By the evening of he function, I fell ill, vomitted and laid down and was also criticized by my nanads. Hope they dont read this. I can imagine your plight. Hope you become healthy again. Never do work if you are too tired otherwise see I collapsed.
@sreekutty (1051)
• India
12 Oct 11
forgive the spelling mistakes because now only I noticed that I typed in haste and the E in keyboard is not working properly.
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@marguicha (230334)
• Chile
12 Oct 11
Hi sister,
I am so sorry this happened to you. I understand you perfectly well because it is very difficult everywhere to have a good maid.
This is why, when my grandson had cancer, 11 years ago, I told my wonderful maid, Leticia, if she could go to my daughter´s house to help as they needed her more than I did. Now that I´m ill she came back, after over 10 years and having helped to raise my grandson Vicente.
I am very happy with this arrangement because I knew I needed a maid, but I did not want just anyone in my home. I have nothing locked and maids usually steal what they can.
I have been doing my chores alone for the past years with an occational help from Leticia on Saturdays. Now she comes everyday and as she doesn´t have much work to do in a house with only one person, she is also taking care of the garden so that I don´t have to bend.
I´m lucky, but I know this is not a usual situation.
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
12 Oct 11
Most people I know cannot afford household help. Or they pay a cleaning service to come in periodically. Cleaning services are usually bonded and insured so their employees are honest and have gone through background checks. We all wash dishes and clothes and sweep the floors. Many women work full time outside the home, care for all of their children and do most of the household work as well. I suppose some very well to do people have maids. I know that sometimes they do have issues finding honest help in their homes. I have also heard of dishonest workmen and construction people. It is a shame. People need to be honest in their dealings.
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@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
When we were in the province we dont maid househelp at home as we were seven children and we help out in all things at home. When we went to the city while studying and working at the same time we have to get a maid but ultimately we manage as some just didnt help at all, and as if already a member of the family. Later when we have this child we got a maid for her but ultimately when the child grows old and can stand by her own and when she asked us to go home we allowed her to go. But as if she is a member of the family already. Right now it is also difficult to have one, they are selective of the family they like to live with and most of them are trying their luck in some other countries. We can manage without them anyway.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
hello ma,
Maid servants here is paid with high salary ranging from 3,000-10,000(pesos/rupees) a month.
I do all the houseworks and never depends on house maid.
I only hired a nanny when my kids are smaller, but now that they are grown ups,we helped each other with the house works.
My kids clean their own rooms and can even wash their own clothes and cook simple dishes so nothing to worry about.
Let me come there and I will take care of you and pa
Maid servants here is paid with high salary ranging from 3,000-10,000(pesos/rupees) a month.
I do all the houseworks and never depends on house maid.
I only hired a nanny when my kids are smaller, but now that they are grown ups,we helped each other with the house works.
My kids clean their own rooms and can even wash their own clothes and cook simple dishes so nothing to worry about.
Let me come there and I will take care of you and pa 
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 11
Hi Kalyni2011,
They first walk into your home looking so humble and naive and when everything sets in it's place they will start to show their true colours. It is a shame how some of these maids take advantage of their employers in time of need. When it comes to honesty believe me their metre will strike zero. I hope you have found a better helper now.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
12 Oct 11
Kalyani! Do you know that servants have a "guest" sense ? I always knew it and this was validated recently when one young teenage girl came home for lunch; the most insignificant person arrives as a guest and I don't know from where this "guest" sense is given to our servants , they just would definitely take leave. And when extra people come it automatically happens.I have also faced this. I am largely depenent on the servantto help me because I do all buying of vegetables, groceries, [any emergency purchase ]myself apart from my regular work. I have two servants, one in the morning and one in the afternoon ; the morning servant is a bit irregular and I keep giving ultimatums to her./I just cannot manage without a servant.
Your servant did blackmail you and it is good you have changed her. Irregualrity is alright but dishonesty is really bad.I had one servant eatrlier who was known for her stealing things. Here there is no backyard and they ahve to work in the kitchen.SHe used to gobble up CHocolate Horlicks when I was not aware. I got rid of her one day.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
12 Oct 11
Hello Ma
How is your health now, I know the mother of the house should show more concern when there is celebrations and guests at home. It is really difficult to get servants for home now a days especially a trusty one. It is the situation of everywhere. I know you need somebody to assist at least for washing cloths, utensils, preparation of food, cleaning house etc. I hope the new lady will do her duties and won’t disappear suddenly.
I don’t have a servant at home, I tried to keep somebody at home but don’t get a trusty person, as I won’t be in home in day time. My kids are going to day care when coming from school. I am doing the works once I reached home after the work.
How is your health now, I know the mother of the house should show more concern when there is celebrations and guests at home. It is really difficult to get servants for home now a days especially a trusty one. It is the situation of everywhere. I know you need somebody to assist at least for washing cloths, utensils, preparation of food, cleaning house etc. I hope the new lady will do her duties and won’t disappear suddenly.
I don’t have a servant at home, I tried to keep somebody at home but don’t get a trusty person, as I won’t be in home in day time. My kids are going to day care when coming from school. I am doing the works once I reached home after the work.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
8 Jan 12
It sounds like you had a great week with all the family there. It is too bad that your maid flaked out on you like that. I think that getting rid of that maid was probably the best thing you could have done. Do you have a good one now? Most of the time in America, people do their own cleaning and cooking. If they are very well off, they might hire a cleaning service. In some cases they will have a live-in housekeeper, but I have never experienced such things. My family was always too poor to even hire a cleaning service.
@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
13 Oct 11
The maidservant's behaviour was really shocking!Leave stealing soap, detergent powders and so on aside for the moment,this time when You had so many guests and happy events,she seized the opportunity to ask for pay rise,but after you agreed to that,she unexpectedly took French leave.Hope that the new maid is unlike the previous one.
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
hi! how are you? I hope your health is getting better each day.
I too have a stay in housemaid. We have no problem with her stealing things. However, I am not satisfied with her work. She is not good in doing chores. I have to always repeat myself whenever I give instructions. And she eats everything in the refrigerator! I am not that strict about her eating food but I think she is going beyond what is proper. But since it is also hard to find help in our place, we have to tolerate her shortcomings.
@sanofer (525)
• India
12 Oct 11
feeling pity for the situation of yours.every home is having this maid problem. Maids knows well about our health issues and they are demanding more money like they are working in an office. On top of that they want bonuses in festival times too. Many maids are not trust worthy and they try to steal many things. Nowadays it is very hard to get a maid who is truthful to their bosses like a decades before.
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@murkie (1103)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
when i was younger, i remember we have had several maids at a time.
and i also remember that they were relatives' relatives. or at least has been recommended by somebody my parents know.
it's true that one could not find a trustworthy help. and it's just too hard to leave your home to somebody you don't really know. there are a number of cases in my country where the maid (or any other hired help) would just vanish, taking valuable things with him/her.
anyway, hope you get well rested enough so you'll get to enjoy your feast.
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@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
You know it is better to get another maid than bear with someone who steals from you after you have paid them wages. My mother used to have a maid to keep her company while I was working and we never knew that she was stealing until my aunt, my mother's sister, lost a big amount of money from her purse. Only the maid had access to the bags and even I lost money. When she left, I started looking for my expensive bags only to find out that they were gone. So were some of my clothes, my mother's clothes and also of my brothers. To think we did not treat her any differently. I guess in these times there really is no one that you can trust your house to.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
13 Oct 11
I don't have a maid or servant. Most Australians dont. It is a shame that they are so unreliable where you live, as surely they would want the employment. Stealing is even worse. Do they get the sack if they steal?
I can understand your maid wanting extra money for the large number of visitors you were having. But she should have asked for this wage rise only for the time you had the visitors, not for ever.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
When we were still living separately from my in-laws and our child is just a kid, we have a helper to send her to school and fetch her. She also feeds her, bathe her and cleans the house and cook. Luckily, she was an honest one and also the replacement when she left.
But now, that we are living with our inlaws and they are retired, they don't want maids anymore because we help each other in doing the chores at home, when my husband and i comes from work. Our daughter is already big now and can also help whenever she's home for a vacation.
