Please explain this to me (Virtual Memories) [Psychology not Computer related]
By boyuancy
@boyuancy (1708)
India
November 1, 2011 3:35am CST
So I've been trying to find an answer for soooooo long. I cannot talk about this with anyone for being misunderstood as stupid.
Whenever I listen to a love song wit ambient trance effects in the background I remember something. I REMEMBER going to a place where I live with a girl whom I supposedly LOVE. But the crazy part is I have never been in love. I guess I will never fall in love either as I'm very much a loner and I do not expect some girl to be attracted enough to fall in love with me. Don't be sympathetic about it and give answers like "Don't worry someone special will come along one day and blah blah blah" as I don't want that. I have accepted a loner life. All I want you people to do is explain why I experience this MEMORY?
I mean it is not like an imagination. It is perfectly coded, all the incidences that happened, all the places we went, all we talked about and a lot more. Also I have never hurt my head enough to have forgotten an incident like that. I have been in some accidents but nothing serious.
My best guess which may help you guys answer is it is made up of a part of my fantasies and a part of my reality. I have been to those places with my friends and on school picnics. I wished I would go with a girl but that never happened. Also during that time I had crushes on quite a few girls. I guess it all gets mixed up and comes to me in the form of a MEMORY!!!
But can something like that be this detailed???!!!!!
8 responses
@Bluedoll (16770)
• Canada
1 Nov 11
True. We are not a computer nor is our brain built like one. Memories are born using both the conscience mind and the sub conscience part of our existence. Some refer to this part as our heart. True we can choose to be a loner. I think this is not character trait but a choice of free will and I am not debating it either way. Being alone has its advantages as well as its disadvantages.
I think we nurture our heart. The feelings we have, help that part of us grow and mature. Though we can tune it out and try to prohibit the emotional part in ourselves, the sensitivity to our heart condition can not be reasoned with and it is difficult to access. Memories are there for our awareness. We can either choose to seek out our emotional strength or ignore it but I think it is a part of us and therefore is there for a very important reason. In these memories we are not alone.
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
2 Nov 11
With all due respect Blue, did you actually read the OP? Your response completely ignores the sense of the question.
Lash
@Bluedoll (16770)
• Canada
2 Nov 11
grandpa_lash with all respect to you as well, I did read what boyuancy wrote. I may or may not have understood completely what boyuancy was expressing but I was directing a response solely to what boyuancy had wrote not you. I think we responded around the same time because I did not see your response until presently. I will discuss more on this topic perhaps but I do believe the sense of the question is better defined by the author boyuancy.
Best regards,
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
He is talking about false memories and the computer connection was simply to stop people confusing his term Virtual Memories for a computer term. Not how to use his real memories because they ain't real.
Lash
@rmendoza123 (637)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
I think it is a product of your fantasies, it is something you want to happen in your life, your love life. Don't confuse yourself into something that you know it isn't real. Deviate your ideas from fantasies, make it real my boy.
@leeloo (1492)
• Portugal
2 Nov 11
I can't give you an answer, and I doubt anyone can give you a simple and easy answer. Dreams can sometimes be quite realistic and at times when waking up it seems a memory rather then a dream. The fact that this is a recurring event is odd. Then again it may be when you heard the song with that beat for the first time, you imagined what it would be like and as time goes on every time you hear the beat your brain fills in the 'memory' further. Our sub conscious is quite powerful and works differently to our conscious mind, many people talk about how they sometimes have a problem they can't solve and in their sleep they figure out a solution that not only works but has nothing to do with what they assumed would work. If you find that it really annoys you or that it becomes distracting maybe you can talk to someone. I hope you find a solution that works for you.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
2 Nov 11
You could possibly be having a dream or memory of a past life, I'm Not a buddhist but as I get older I'm becoming more open to other possibilities regarding spirituality, and what happens to us after we leave our physical body, and the more I think about it the more I think it's a real possibility why not? if you believe that you have a soul beyond your body then it's possible you can be reborn too
And if rebirth is real then your dream or memory of love could be from your past but I'm no expert on the subject of the after life or anything related to spirituality, but I think we should keep an open mind who knows we could learn a lot from the buddhist faith philosophy there is truth in all faith practices and books open mind, open heart, open life.
Cheers! hope my post was helpful in some way.
@rivengodwind (369)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Well, you might be surprised to know that a memory doesn't exactly represent a complete record of past events. A lot of studies about the phenomenon had lead to the direction that we co-create memories every time we retrieve something. To put it simply, it is very possible to 'create' a memory based on a hodge podge of what's real and what's not.
Having said all these, I'm afraid I can't really say what that image of yours mean. Is it part of a vivid dream perhaps, or maybe a recurring deja vu? What would help though is to keep a journal of these images. I would also suggest that you keep a dream journal (a notebook where you write down whatever you dreamed the previous night) so that there's a comparison between the two. Doing so might shed some insights as to why you keep seeing these images.
Tell me what happens and I'll give you something else to do to help you out.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
As we have priorities in life, we don't care about controlling which memories that we think of. Thus, like a criminal whose prison cell is not locked, those memories are saying are free to flourish and pull one's attention. To disable, less time must be spent on visualizing fantasies or get away from anything romantic whether music or literature that I do not think is that easy to stay away from as we can't control our neighbor playing music aloud or the girls gossiping about the latest romantic movie. The formation of memories is like that of adrenaline, they won't be around without a reason.
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
1 Nov 11
No doubt there will be someone(s) telling you it is either a past life memory or precognition. Now to a real answer.
I can't give you one, but perhaps more context might help. Where does this happen, are you alone when it happens, how do you react in the moment it happens? It may just be a very powerful fantasy driven by a need which you have yet to recognise?
Lash
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
Hi! boyuancy, there is a stage in our life that we spend most of out time in daydreaming or fantasizing. This is usually during our puberty till adolescent stage. Daydreaming is an activity we indulge especially if there is something not satisfied in us like our interpersonal relationships. You said your a loner and most loner has a tendency to daydream or fantazise a lot. On daydreaming, you create characters in which one of them is you. You chose a place, of course places where you have been to and you create a script or a dialogue. It is like you are creating in your mind a scene or a story whrein the characters are your girlfriend and you and other supporting characters. Your girlfriend in your daydream can be your crush or someone you admire whom you could not express your feelings to. She maybe someone you created and whom you have given a name. This daydream have been so impressed in your subconcious that when you heard a tune that brings back those times, this memory of your dream comes back. I think it is just normal to recall such incidents or dreams. You can even play it back again and again if you want to.
