There's hope for world peace...
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85137)
Shingle Springs, California
November 22, 2011 9:57pm CST
R pulled another shenanigan Sunday. He told the children something again behind my back, which got Dearra very upset at me, and later at him. I got quite angry, told him he had crossed the line, and to get the h*ll out. Which he didn't do, no surprise.
He was all sorry and feeling bad yesterday, and today he called some help line that they have at his work.
Well when he explained to the woman what had happened, she basically called him a moron, and told him to look at it from my point of view. Which was, "she doesn't love you any more, so stop trying to do things that you think will fix it"...
R? Reaching out for help? Admitting that he may be the victim of wrong thinking?
Maybe there is hope for world peace...
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22 responses
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
23 Nov 11
I hope so, for your sake, because my husband has been told many times from his counselor that his words are not good. Then last night I tried telling him he was being too critical on our son, and he denied it..He does that because his father was critical, but he doesn't see it in himself..
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
24 Nov 11
If anyone has a degree, according to my husband, they know EVERYTHING!!!
Of course the real test is, when I get my degree, will he finally listen to me??? Probably not...
Of course the real test is, when I get my degree, will he finally listen to me??? Probably not...1 person likes this
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Why do men do that for? Well, good thing he is seeking help..but a talk line doesn't seem to be the right place. Has he tried counseling? He knows it is over since you've told him many times. Next time you tell him to get out he should or follow it up with a call with the police. Or pack his bags while he is gone take them to a hotel pay for 1 day then when he comes home tell him u gotta surprise and take him to the hotel..and leave him..bot so easy since he seems to be really persistent he would just pack back up and come back home..change the locks on the doors change the numbers on phones..
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
8 Dec 11
Well, now there's an idea..have you given it any thought? Write a note saying..I'm returning your son to be further raised because the first time didn't work well..lol
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Dec 11
He went to counseling with me, but never alone.
My aunt Rita says I should just mail his stuff to his mom's.. lol
@BarBaraPrz (51811)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 Nov 11
And the Easter Bunny brings green sheleleighs on Dec. 24...
Sorry... I experienced a recent "incident" and am even more disgusted with monkey boys than usual.
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@BarBaraPrz (51811)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 Nov 11
Thanks for the BR. It doesn't cancel out the "incident" but it makes me feel a bit better.
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@BarBaraPrz (51811)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 Nov 11
Sorry, I'm not the Easter Bunny.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Nov 11
WOW!! I actually think that he.ll could freeze over now. R. seeking help. Interesting. His gender never ceases to amaze me. I think I have called him a moron too afew times. Ugh! Well, I hope this helped and made him think. World peace? Does sound nice.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Nov 11
Wish he could forget the address there as easily......Just my opinion.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
23 Nov 11
If Dawny says so, it will happen bcoz Dawny is the most logical person on face of earth that I've come across.
On the other hand, my sympathies to R. 
He love you and it is one sided. Sad state of affairs at his end. He truly needs to get out of touch with you to notice others.
He love you and it is one sided. Sad state of affairs at his end. He truly needs to get out of touch with you to notice others. 1 person likes this
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
29 Nov 11
Vandy Hi, - some men think they love their wives but the reality is they don't. They are too selfishly wrapped up in their own needs and wants and totally unaware of their partners needs and wants. Eventually, the marriage falls over and withers in the dust...that's when this particular husband has stepped up to fix the unfixable.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Nov 11
whether it happens or not, I'm moving on...
@vandana7 (102698)
• India
30 Nov 11
@Dawny - your situation is understandable. You have kids. You must have given him ample chances to change. But he took the situation for granted. It is also difficult to judge whether he truly repents for his past behavior or is merely acting to get you back.
@MsTickle - I do understand what you are trying to say. 
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Nov 11
No wait! He called for help and got a... wait for it, a woman And he listened?! And she said Exactly what he hadn't heard all these months? There is a G-d! So whatever he tried Backfired! Good!
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
27 Nov 11
Honestly, I don't think that there is ever hope for world peace. However, I do think that there is plenty of hope that people will be able to grow as individuals throughout their lives.
It is great to hear that he is trying to get the help that he needs that might be able to help him to move on in his life. Without that kind of help, I really don't think that he will be able to move on.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Dec 11
I keep telling him that, but he seems to think only me staying will do...
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
29 Nov 11
I guess it's a sign that he's moved on to the next phase, which is acceptance. That he can't do anything about it by himself and has to go ask for help. The next phase would be complete acceptance for him that it's not time for 'fixing' anymore, but to go and move on.
And world peace!
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Dec 11
Maybe, idk, but the true test will be when the house is sold and it actually comes to moving...
@13tyates (1606)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Wow, I have heard a thing or two about this guy over these last couple of years and that does not sound like him at all! That sounds completely crazy that he would actually go to a help line. Sounds like that lady really laid it out for him, which is awesome. Well, maybe this will open his eyes, I sure hope it does. Happy Mylotting!
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Nov 11
He probably wanted her to tell him he was right! 
@fabsprecious (1565)
• United States
28 Nov 11
Wow, apparently there is a god out there if "R" was actually reaching out for help and the most ironic part is that he was actually getting help from a WOMAN. That should give him a hint, we are the ones with common sense and reality. I can't believe he still doesn't get the picture it's over. Things will never be what they were before.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Dec 11
He'll get the picture when the house is sold and we are not living in the same place...
maybe
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
23 Nov 11
this is very nice to know Dawn
I love it when someone realizes their mistakes, taking steps to improve their lives
there is always hope :)
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Nov 11
World peace...it is quite a myth..unachieved ...unrealized. Just hopes only and that too vanishing ones.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 11
When wars between nations can come into an end in a ceasefire agreement then I don't see why peace can't reign in a domestic affair. People are fickle minded, what they think now might not be the same in future. No matter what happened in the past, give love a chance to come back to its glory.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Well this is great news! Maybe R is finally on the right track! I still can't believe you have been putting up with him yet! I hope R moves out soon because you don't need him around back stabbing you and the kids! I hope world peace comes soon! You serve it!1 person likes this
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Nov 11
me don't thinks he's going to move too fast even so, but maybe I'll be wrong
@Hydraloth (185)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
There is still hope, my friend. If only people from around the world would have a broad mind and think things over in a nice, calm way, things would go nice, and greed should be released from their hearts.
A Pleasant day to you my friend.
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