Why can't I see the discussion I started under 'my discussion started'?

The discussion DOES still exist. The URL is: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2618223.aspx I can't explain why it doesn't appear under 'discussions started' in your profile. You should send a PM to GoAskAlice and he will investigate. One possible reason is that the 'mature content' filter has automatically been applied (the use of certain words automatically tags a discussion with it, even if the discussion itself is quite innocent!) This will mean that your friend may not be able to view the discussion (depending on his/her settings here: http://www.mylot.com/nr/editprofile.aspx ('allow mature content' at the bottom must be checked for someone to be able to see anything tagged with 'mature content'). If your friend is not a member of MyLot, they must (I believe) join and allow mature content before they will be able to read the whole discussion. Incidentally, if they are NOT a member of MyLot and they might be encouraged to join so that they can take part in discussions, when you send them a URL, add your referral ID by putting: ?ref=SinfulRose at the end of it. This is the URL you should send your friend (or post on your blog): http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2618223.aspx?ref=SinfulRose