Would you . . . . . in public?

United States
January 20, 2012 7:11pm CST
Scenario: You are in a public place and hear a conversation where a couple of people are condemning and/or bullying a gay person because he/she wants to marry their partner. What would you do?
3 responses
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
Though I am a lesbian and I know how it feels to be ridiculed by others, I would not do anything if I were in that situation. These are my reasons: 1. First of all, who would want to get into a fight with strangers? :D I don't have such strong personality so I know even if my argument is right, I would not win any fight/debate. 2. Don't take this against me but those kind of people are stupid. Are you familiar with the quotation "Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people." It is a common notion to us that you cannot argue with stupid people because you would just stoop down on their level and of course they would win in the end because of experience and you would get tired of defending your point that they cannot seem to grasp. 3. I don't think any gay person would need a stranger to look after him/her. We actually don't care much about what other people has to say about us. They don't understand our situation, we get it. As long as we have our family, friends, and loved ones, it is more than enough for us. We are happy on what we are and though some people are still homophobes despite of the modern ages we are in, we don't care. For people like me, people like that play the role of 'background noises' in the epic movie of our lives.
• United States
21 Jan 12
Wow! I love your outlook notmuchofablogger! What a great mindset to have!! I don't know that I have a strong personality, but people are people and no one has a right to tell someone else who they can and can't date/love/marry. I appreciate your comments, although I'm not talking about winning or losing in this situation. (I will number them 1,2,3 as you did) 1. This may sound small or even stupid, but it's about letting the mean people know that what they are doing is wrong by telling them to 'be nice' or telling them 'that's mean'. Being strangers in a public place, they would probably walk away in disgust. I don't know what the answer is. It's a scenario, but it happens. And just one time isn't going to change everything, but it does have an impact no matter how small. 2. I think I've heard those quotations before and I like them! We don't have to argue or stoop to their level just by saying a small 2 word statement. They don't win, they have never won. They think they have won, but it's only because most people think that what they are saying is stupid (and it is) and don't even want to talk to them anymore. 3. You are right and I am sorry if I offended anyone. But the hate and anti-gay slurs aren't going to just go away. 'Background noises' LOL!! Thank you so much for your honesty.
• United States
22 Jan 12
LOL!! Thank you! :D
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Hey thank you for that wonderful compliment HeresTheScoop! I appreciate it. :) Based on your response I guess you would give them a quick lecture about minding their own business, am I right? :D I would suggest you to not waste your energy with trivial things (or people) like that but hey, I bet it's going to be fun to watch you smack the faces (with your words of course :)) of those mean people. :D
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
i dont judge people as long as they dont harm other people, sometimes gays have good heart than true man and they are more responsible to their family, i have a lot of gay friends who become the bread winner of the family coz their siblings got married and no one is helping their old parents nor younger siblings. though sometimes we misjudge them by having guys in their life but they are like women and men too they fall in love and if their behalf is willing to take their side then why not give them a change somehow they already know that they cant have kids with the same gender so its their problem and not ours.
• United States
21 Jan 12
Thank you for your response, homeshoppers. It sounds like you choose people to be your friends because of their personality, their heart, and for who they are, not their dating gender preference. I commend you for that! I am still wondering what you would do in the scenario that I gave. Thank you!
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 12
I rarely interfere with someone's problem too much as I don't like others doing that to me. But if this was too much, I might yell at them (those who do the bully) and ask them to mind their own business. I mean, they're not that perfect anyway. Who knows what kind of life they're having? Sometimes I feel sorry for those who bully as I think they're just jealous. This gay couple might have a happier life or warmer relationship than they do so they don't like it. So again I might yell at them, and maybe please myself to give them a little kick. Lol.