How Dare You! (rant)
By AidaLily
@AidaLily (1450)
United States
February 21, 2012 9:41am CST
These are things that annoy me about some people nowadays.
1. How dare you have an opinion that differs from mine!
Has anyone felt like this? I know people have differing views and its nice to discuss them but has anyone felt like 'oh my gosh.. why?' when talking to someone at work, a neighbor, online, over the phone, etc. Of course most people wont come out and say that but yeah.
Have you also ever noticed that for some strange reason if you don't agree or point something out, you are suddenly the world's worst person. Especially, if you ask them why?
2. Pro-choice is NOT the same as Pro-abortion. (Abortion Issue)
Seriously, this is something that annoys me. When someone is pro-choice for some reason most pro-life people say its the same as pro-abortion. Let's clarify it and maybe people will realize what they are saying.
Pro-life means you don't believe in taking lives and that the fetus is alive from conception. You believe that the baby deserves a chance to live and the mother should have the baby.
Pro-abortion means that you believe abortion should be legal and perfected. Some people believe this for population control, birth control, medical reasons such as both the mother and child will die, etc.
PRO-CHOICE means you realize that a woman/couple has the right to choose one of the above two options. They can choose to believe their baby is a precious gift and keep the baby or they can believe the best thing is to get rid of it.
No pro-choice people aren't on either side truly. They just believe its a person's choice. Believing in a person or couple's right to choose does NOT mean they believe murder should be legal, they are heartless, or any of that. It just means they realize that it is another person's choice not their own personal preference.
I am PRO-CHOICE in that I believe its THEIR right to choose what they want. I do not think murder is correct or anything like people will say because they do not understand what it truly means to be PRO-CHOICE. I PERSONALLY don't believe in abortion. I really don't, but its not my life. I could feel disgusted by it, but besides that I don't have to live with it. Everyone has choices everyday.. this is just one that they make. Whether it is right or wrong, is how they feel about it when they make the decision.
Which brings me to my last bit...
3. HOW DARE YOU NOT WANT TO TELL OTHERS HOW TO LIVE THEIR LIVES!
Seriously! This is one of the biggest issues I see with people nowadays.
Logically speaking we come into this world alone even if you are part of a set of twins or more. One child is born at a time.
Throughout your life you make friends, have family, find someone you love and maybe have your own family.
When you die, even if its a horrific accident and others die too, you leave this world alone. You do.
The problem: I am pro-choice which as I stated means I believe the women/couple have the right to a choice. Pro-choice yells I am heartless and it should affect me. Pro-abortion yells that I should agree with abortions all the time.
The fact: I am neutral on the subject because I don't need the sick satisfaction of telling people how to live their lives.
The problem: If you tell people 'this' is ok, then they will believe 'that' is ok.
The fact: Regardless of whether you say 'this' is ok or 'that' is ok... you have to realize that people live their own lives. Especially in America where people talk about how horrible other nations are and yet they might as well be lining up in droves to become one of those countries they speak bad about. They want everything to be controlled and regulated. They no longer want the freedoms that people fought for. They want everything to be controlled and regulated to their own personal lives and not think, truly think or know, anything more than what they personally believe. On top of that, most people are so interested in jumping on the new popular bandwagon that they don't pay attention to anything else but themselves or the so-called 'mission' of the latest popular topic.
You are born alone. Not matter what you do... you die alone. Which means focus on your life, your family and so on. Do you really want the regret of being so focused on everyone else that you miss important things or one in a life time chances. No life is better than another's regardless of how you were born, whatever you decide to believe in, etc.
5 responses
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
22 Feb 12
"...I believe the women/couple have the right to a choice." What about the child? Does he have any say in this right to choose? After all, he's a part of the equation.
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
22 Feb 12
Do the women/couple believe that their child has a say? Do they? It is still their choice sadly. People don't like it, some people don't care, but the child is part of that woman's body. If they decide that the unborn child doesn't have a say in their minds, then that is their decision.
I believe they have the right to a choice. Its their life. I am not going to tell them what to do or fight to force them to do something or not. It is in their mind what THEY want to do, and no matter what they will do it. Whether they get it legally done, or they find a way to get it done and call it a -miscarriage- since they didn't want it, they will still do it.
It is their choice over all. No matter how much one side agrees with them wanting it and the other side argues against them wanting it.. they will do it.
I, once again, say that it isn't right but its their decision.
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@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
24 Feb 12
"...the child is part of that woman's body." It makes one fear for conjoined twins. If one hates the other, according to this way of thinking, he or she can kill the other.
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@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
10 Mar 12
In other words, a woman who wants to murder her child, whether in or out of the womb, is going to do so. The difference is, the child has a chance out of the womb but no chance in. The child can speak for himself outside the womb. Someone else must speak for him inside the womb. Inside the womb, he's totally helpless. Outside, he has the law to protect him.
You forgot E. She puts the child up for adoption and he gets a loving family.
@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
22 Feb 12
I can not tell anyone how to live their lives. Everybody has a different story of life, and once somebody is grown up and able to think responsibly, I think they have the right to decide what to do with their life.
Abortion is a very sensitive topic. Nobody asks the baby if he wants to be born or not, that's true. But pro-life is something that is for the baby's life, but doesn't always care about the mother's life. Sometimes having the baby risks the mother's life, and not only because of a complicated pregnancy.
Often those who judge others and want to tell them what to do, know nothing about others life and the way they have to live it.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Feb 12
aidalily I think that here in mylot we all have a right to our own opinions and even if you disagree with me I will respect your right
to your own opinion but at the same time do not ridicule it as is my own opinion., as it is my opinion and must also be respected.
AS to what you have said about my country the USA thats your
opinion and I respect your right to it, but I will disagree
whole heartedly and ask that you respect my right to have my
own opinion even though it differs from yours. all I am saying
is nobody is supposed to flame others just because they might'agree with our opinions.
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I respect your opinion. I live in the USA, born and raised here and yeah most of the things in this country in my opinion are full of crap. And while I respect everyone's opinion before saying things like my country, it helps if you check the country of the person posting/responding. I wont say anything bad about countries I know nothing about.
This rant was also because of a few responses I have gotten because I didn't agree with people here on mylot including one that told me to "go die" because I had a different opinion (that has since been taken care of), the general lack of knowledge about certain things, and the fact that the moment an opinion is different the person as I have been called must me a 'heartless killer', 'doomed to hell because of different beliefs' and so on.
This was literally taking a stab at all that especially on the topics I mentioned.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 12
Hey Aida. =)
I am not going to go into the abortion topic because I don't want anyone else to start a debate on my opinion of it.
But I see a different side to what you were saying here. I don't care what others do with their own lives or choices in most cases. I am not a very judgemental person at all. I do however try to help people. Like for example if I know someone is going to be hurt by another person emotionally I tell them try to stay away from that situation. Well I tell them and most of the time they do not listen anyway. Then I feel responsibe when they get hurt, like maybe I didn't try enough to keep them from being hurt. When reading the last couple of lines in your discussion I realized something. I do not want to be so worried about everyone else's problems and concerns all the time and ignoring my own happiness...
I know this discussion was meant in another way so I'm sorry but it just hit me this way like it was speaking to me differently. Thank you for starting this discussion! =)
@winston90 (296)
• Romania
21 Feb 12
Hello, AidaLily!
Sometimes I feel the same as you do.
Let me tell you my opinoin on these three topics you have brought into discussion, if I may.
1.Having a different opinion. This one is a delicate subject, just like the other 2.
It depends mostly on the education given by our parents when we were little. The problem is not having a different idea, or opinion, but how far will you go on imposing your point of view to the others. There is a saying in our country, that is traduced something like: "The smartest man will give up fighting". The question "why" has a "war-starting" role. It is just a bad word to use in a converstion in general, an in a fight especially.
2.These two terms are oftenly confused, mostly by people tending to have an abortion, to give them some kind of leisure, or I don't know.
3.I never wanted to tell people how to live their lives. At most I give some advice, if asked, but I never say: "You should do that, or that, and don't argue with me, because I know better." That is a thing my parents thaught me, and I believe it is for the best. That way no one can criticise you, and hate you, because you made them do a bad thing.
