Ending a Friendship???

@leighz (456)
April 6, 2012 12:30pm CST
I had this circle of friends that I really enjoyed hanging out with. I describe them in the past tense coz I'm currently contemplatng whether to keep our friendship or not. Thinking about what we used to be, hanging out just having fun makes me smile all the time. We're a big group about 15 people, composed of guys, girls and a gay. One of our friend's cousin works at a big department store, wherein she scores free movie tickets. So, as group we used to watch 2 movies on Saturdays. Imagine how awesome that is. We occupy one row (5 are mostly absent during weekends coz they have dates), cheer on the main actor, booed the bad dudes, munch on junkfood and creating a big chaos. Then we eat out and go dutch all the time, unless its someones birthday. We were in our early 20's by then. By mid-20's, we no longer work for the same company. Most of us got promoted and were busy with our own lives basically. We used to joke, "We can't stay in one company coz nothing good happens with our careers if we do". You see, we work in the call center industry, we used to have lunch for two hours and sneak out the office to celebrate New Year or Christmas. Then get reprimanded. I dunno what changed. Eventually, there were only about less than 7 of us who kept in touch. One of our friend started to become condescending, obnoxious and just plain annoying towards me. One incident made me decide that was the last straw. They text or call, I always say I'm busy. I'm bailing out on them, I don't know why I don't feel the guilt. I guess its because I'm expeting them to stand up for me if I'm being ridiculed for fun at my expense instead of just keeping their silence.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Apr 12
Some friends remain the same even the time passed. We cannot assume that when the time passed all of your closed friends will stays the same. The saying says, Life is a constant change. So, like what happened also to some of my friends they have change and I accept it.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
14 Apr 12
To be close with our friends we should exert and effort to communicate with them not wait until one of them communicate us. I always did it with all my closed friends. The result is positive, even many years passed they are still close to me.
@leighz (456)
15 Apr 12
Thanks for your advice, it made me reflect on a lot of things. It's great to hear that you were able to keep such good relationship with your friends. I will do the same thanks.
@leighz (456)
13 Apr 12
I totally agree with you, change is the only constant thing in this world. I've accepted it, but I can't keep up with the bashing and other things that we don't normally do. So yes, we're still friends but not as close as before. I have not seen them for a few months now. I think we're better this way :)
@GemmaR (8517)
7 Apr 12
I have had to end several friendships in my time and I have to say that it is something that is never easy to do no matter how or why you're having to do it. One of my ex friends spread a lot of nasty rumours about me and I just knew that I couldn't have her in my life anymore because she was causing that much trouble for me and the rest of my group of friends. In the end I had to tell her straight that I didn't want to be involved with her anymore and it upset her because she didn't really understand the amount of trouble that she was putting us through, but I stuck to my decision all the same.
@leighz (456)
7 Apr 12
thanks for sharing. You're right, its never easy. I'm glad you were able to tell her straight. I will do that when I'm ready hehehe.
• United States
6 Apr 12
Sometimes, you just have to because you two are going in different directions, or they did something that you didn't approve of. I have had many friendships end over the years because of several different things.
@leighz (456)
7 Apr 12
Yes, sometimes distance can make a difference. We don't hate each other, they just don't know why I no longer hang out with them. I hope they realize that what kept our friendship was our sense of humility. But this works for me...