She's not biologically his

Who cares about who the father is? The only thing that is for sure is who the mother is and that is what counts. Also to my opinion the parent is the one who takes care of the kids. In this case your husband. My ex never accepted his biological kids, he is not what you call a father. My kids even say they don't have a father are not interested in him at all and completely happy. I lately re-married and my husband is black. I am in between my kids are white, but my kids don't care, I don't care, he doesn't care. We are a family and that is all what counts. Stop pulling yourself down, or saying you screwed up. You did not, you have fine kids, a great husband and there is surely a very good reason why it went the way it is. And do not accept any critic of other people! Who are they to judge you?

It is nice to know that you have a great and happy family. We make mistakes sometimes, and we learn from it. I have a friend who is in a similar situation. Her husband is white and so does her first baby, but her second baby is half black and half filipino. She cheated on her husband while her husband was working overseas as a navy, but then her husband accepted her mistake and he is treating her second baby as his own.

I think its very amazing of your husband to take in someone else child. She is part of the others in the family so he is right to not treat her any differently then his own. I had friend that took in his nephew which really wasn't related to his two sister because they where half but no one has the heart to tell the boy and I don't think its anyone's place to tell him other then his own parents that don't want him. So my ex friend adopted him for a while. I would take in anyone's child as my own weather they where related to me or not. You messed up so what he forgave you and moved on, not many people would do that. I"m not sure if I would be able to do that but if we truly were meant to be together then things will work out the way it should. I know my family gets eyes looking at us all of the time. Its hard for people to believe that my mom is my real mom. She is white and my dad well he is a very dark Hispanic. Now one of my brother is as white as my mom and my other and my self are darker but not as dark as my dad. Now I'm a mom and my daughter she is has like maybe 35% Hispanic but more white then anything. So she looks white has blond hair and blue eyes. We get looks all of the time some are good and others are bed but I know as she gets older she will never think that I'm not her mom because I am I gave birth to her after all. When I was growing up I didn't see myself being any different from either of my parents it just seem normal because it was what I was use to but when we moved I was warned I would get treated differently and asked millions of questions. Still to this day its hard for some people to be open to biracial children. Especially where we live right now its so not normal for someone that looks Hispanic married to a white guy and they have kids together. I don't know how people can look at my daughter and think or give her mean looks she is just a child some times I want to turn and deck them but I don't. So I feel your family is great the way it is. If your happy about the way things are that is all that matters. You look at your kids every day and know that they have two great parents that love them all every much. What more could a child want or ask for then to be loved by there parents weather they are biologically theirs or not. It makes no differences. We are all just humans do things some times that we regret but its what we do after we have done things that is more important. Your husband has done a wonderful thing that not many people I feel would do. He is truly her father in her eyes and in his own she is his daughter no matter what. That is the way it should be.

Hi SissyRose, I think Live is about moving forward and not moving back so what matter today is that you and your family are happy. Your husband is doing great job take care of you and the children regardless and so do you. So I guess nothing to criticize about, be happy, and stay happy with your family I wish you luck and you and your husband stay in love in many more years to come.