Tantrums too late
By jureathome
@jureathome (5361)
Philippines
April 24, 2012 7:20am CST
I've noticed my daughter has been throwing tantrums lately, and its quite unusual, because she's already turning 4 by June. I had thought tantrum periods are only for kids at 2-3 years old. She always cries for no reason and would not listen to me when I try to pacify her.
This morning, she would not put on her shoes because she doesn't want to go to school. As much as I wanted to give in to her pleading, I can't have her miss another class. So, I thought of giving her some coookies and told her she could munch on them on her way to school. Unexpectedly, she stopped sobbing and smiled at me and took the cookies then stood up and got her shoes. I wasn't really expecting that to work, but at least now I know what will help with her tantrums.
4 responses
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
26 Apr 12
Sorry to hear that your daughter has been throwing tantrums. I can imagine how hard that has been.Perhaps there is some sort of change that is happening in her life that is causing her to throw tantrums. I'm glad that you have figured out something that will work. It's nice to be able to find a method that works for our child. Since each child is different and responds differently.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
21 May 12
Yeah that is true. She is probably facing a lot of anxiety about the new baby coming. Sharing attention and the adjustment of another little one in the family is hard on children. With time she will learn that even with the new baby she is still loved and will get attention.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
21 May 12
And, it would be our, as parents, responsibility to give her the feeling of security that she is and will always be loved.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
You know, that may be true. She's going to have a little sister very soon, and that may have caused her some insecurities. She used to be the only baby we have, and now she has to share the attention. 
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
24 Apr 12
Probably, but she never tells us if she's hungry. I think she is not yet capable of voicing out what she feels inside, so she cries it out. I have been trying to encourage her to speak out why she is in such mood, and sometimes she would put words to it, but most of the time, she just really keeps on crying. I just hope she'll get off this phase soon. It's really annoying, and I don't want to lose my cool.
@jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
Well i have a son who just turned 5 and even he sometimes do some tantrums whenever he is not in the mood or more often when i know i have not given him that much time.
Just be more patient i guess as children are really like that, we do not know sometimes what they are thinking, all we need is to have more patience 
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
26 Apr 12
You're right. Stretching our patience more thinly usually does the trick, on both ourselves and the kids. 
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
3 Oct 12
I think you should not give rewards to your daughter in trying to stop the tantrums. Because by giving their demands it will become worse. This is the way to teach a child to use tantrums for manipulation, and will cause the behavior to continue indefinitely, even into adulthood. You should stay calm and ignore the behavior to the extent possible.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
She has stopped having those tantrums episode. I think it is really just a stage. She is being hard headed this time... Ohhh.
