Intervention update
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
May 2, 2012 12:24am CST
Well, I promised that I would keep everyone updated on what was going on in the intervention that I've started with my husband.
I have to say that things are getting a little bit better. He is still spending a little bit more money than I think that he ought to be spending, but he isn't going to the extremes that he was going to before. As far as his prescription goes, he actually gave me the bottle as soon as we got home from the pharmacy and I've been the one that has been keeping track of the meds this time to make sure that he is not going to extremes on them. So that is definitely a step in the right direction.
As far as our financial state goes, it has really only been a couple of weeks so things haven't really had the opportunity to get better, but I know that is something that is going to happen with time.
The thing that really keeps me going each and every day is that I know that things are going to continue to get better with each passing day and it is also less than a year before we will be out of debt with the exception of our house (we still have a little less than 26 years to pay on our mortgage).
In the past two weeks, I've seen that he is spending more time with the children (he even went to Paul's baseball game last Friday evening). On Saturday, he went with us to karaoke and bowling despite the fact that he didn't sleep on Friday night. I am really starting to believe that it will be possible to have my husband back.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
3 May 12
I do hope that things work out for you and your husband and for all of you as a family. I know how hard it can be to have family problems. My husband and I have had our share. And we are still working on things. It will be along time coming before I begin to see the progress that I need to see for our marriage to be where it needs to be. That is great that your husband is spending more time with the kids and with you as a family. I know that is one thing that I'm hoping will improve our way. I really would like to see us do more things as a family. To do go out and do things together. Time will tell how things will work out for us. I'm so happy though that you continue to have a positive attitude despite all that you have been through. That in itself will go along way in keeping your family together and strong.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 May 12
The time with the kids is one of the things that bothers me the most overall because I lost my father when I was a teenager and I wish that I would have had more time to spend with him. He passed away at 43 years old from a massive heart attack. With my husband knowing that he has had cancer in the past and that it is something that could come back at any time, I would think that he would want to spend as much time as possible with the kids, but there are times that it is like pulling teeth to get him to do things with them.
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@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
19 May 12
Sorry to hear that you lost your father. That is a very young age. I too would think that your husband would want to spend more time with his children considering his health. I hope that he will improve. As it is very important for him to spend time with his children. I want my husband to spend more time with our daughter as well.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
2 May 12
I have not seen your previous post so I will have to look that up. But as long as things are going in a positive direction and I hope things continue to improve in many aspects. Marriage and the issues along the way can certainly be challenging.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 May 12
I know that there is not a married person among us that have not faced some kinds of difficulties in their marriage and I will not make light of the fact that everyone does have hard times. However, these things that I've been going through with him are really enough to make me want to give up at times.
That is most of the reason that I'm so happy that things seem to be getting better, even if it is a long and slow road to go down.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
8 May 12
Well my friend, many of us here have been Praying and know that everything does take time, and sometimes it is the small things that count. I know myself it takes small steps at first to make things happen and better, and it can be a challenge but truly worth it. I will be hoping for continues Good things from here for you both.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 May 12
It is definitely not an easy road to be on. However, I think that the road that we are taking (no matter how tough it might be) is the road that we need to be on so that we can be a happy and comfortable family. I've faced a lot of bumps in the road already and I honestly believe that if I've made it through those I will be able to make it through anything.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
2 May 12
this sounds good news. indeed there is always a way to better things and the situation. thank you for sharing the updates. this makes mylot more personal and community-like forum where members can share and discuss some personal matters without prejudicing the members who voluntarily share their issues. i hope the progress continues in your husband case. wishing you the best.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 May 12
I have to admit that is one of the things that I really like about mylot because I am me, as you can see in my picture. However, I also feel safe here because I'm not being judged and to be honest, if it came down to it, I honestly think that I can ask this community for help.
@thuglove1722 (343)
• United States
2 May 12
that's good to hear that he gives you the bottle so you can keep track, it won't be easy but it seems like he's really calming down on spending best of luck
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 May 12
The spending is definitely down. However, I also have to say that it is not where I think that it ought to be at this point.
Still, the difference and seeing glimpses of the person that I got married to eight years ago is making a difference to me.
