Parking space or flowers?
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31365)
Denmark
May 9, 2012 8:05am CST
In our front yard there are pebbles in the middle and flower beds on each side. The front yard looked that way when we bought the house and we haven't changed much. Now my husband wants to change the front yard. He wants to remove all of the flowers and fill the entire front yard with pebbles. That way there would be room for 4 cars instead of 2 cars, and our friends would be able to park close to our house instead of parking on the parking lot.
I am against the idea because I want to keep the flowers. When we have more than one visitor they are able to park in parking lot instead, and I don't see that as a problem. You can walk from the walking lot to our home in 5 minutes and it is free parking lot.
What do you think? Would you prefer to remove the flowers and make room for 4 cars? Or would you prefer to keep the flowers? Why?
What does your front yard look like? Are you happy about the way that it looks or would you like to make some changes?
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16 responses
@KOSTAS499 (1624)
• Greece
9 May 12
Flowers! Flowers! Flowers! Who would want a parking lot and not a garden? Take a broom and hit him on the head. That should wake him up :)
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
10 May 12
That might work
No, seriously I need to find a way to convince him, because I am not ready to let go of my flowers. Fortunately my mother-in-law is on my side. She also thinks that it is really bad idea to remove the flowers and make a parking lot, and maybe my husband will listen to her if he doesn't listen to me.
No, seriously I need to find a way to convince him, because I am not ready to let go of my flowers. Fortunately my mother-in-law is on my side. She also thinks that it is really bad idea to remove the flowers and make a parking lot, and maybe my husband will listen to her if he doesn't listen to me. @jazel_juan (15745)
• Philippines
10 May 12
awwww keep the flowers my friend, we need more of it plus it adds beauty to the place!
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
30 May 12
Yes, the flowers add beauty to the place. I have tried to explain that to my husband, but he isn't interested in beauty, he only looks at things from a practical perspective...
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
10 May 12
Please don't move the flowers, plants and flowers are natures gift we need that to clear the air. It is like killing someone if you moved it out. You already had a parking lot which is for your car, so I think it's your visitors problem where they will park their car. I don't have cars but I do have a dooryard with lots of flowers too I invested too much to have a small garden with lots of flowers, my friends who came to visit that has cars park their car on the lot. 

@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
20 May 12
I still hope that I can convince my husband to forget the idea about the parking lot. I think that it is a really bad idea to remove all of the flowers. I want to keep them. The previous owner of our home was very interested in gardening and there are a lot of different flowers in front yard. It is true that you say, we already have a parking lot for our own car and for one visitor and I think that is enough. If we have more than one visitor they can park their cars at the parking lot in our street. It is not far away at all, and I don't think that it is a problem that they have to park there.
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
9 May 12
Hi, Porcospino, I'm voting also for the flowers. I've lived in a house with a yard for about ten years. The garden was neglected when I went there and I had no time to take a proper care of it. But we had lilacs and grass and a beautiful Glycinia. Nothing could compare with this. Your friends could take this little walk, it'll do a good to them. If you remove the flowers your front yard will become a parking lot. I hope that your husband will listen to you :))
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
14 May 12
We were in the opposite situation when we moved into our house, because the previous owner was very, very interested in gardening, and the garden was extremely well-kept. I think that is sad that my husband want to ruin all the work that she had put into the garden, and I want to keep the beautiful flowers in the front yard. My husband isn't interested in flowers and gardening and he only looks at the practical things like the advantage of the big parking space in front of the house. I don't think that it is a problem if we our friends have to walk from the parking lot of our house, it is only a short walk, and a bit of exercise wouldn't hurt...
@befrindwithme26 (5805)
• Philippines
10 May 12
Oh i love the flowers around to give us oxygen support the air,and the beauty around.The man are not most like the flowers and woman are the most like that and even me i want the house surround..
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
20 May 12
I also love the flowers in the frontyard, but my husband is not the least bit interested in gardening, and he thinks more about the practical things. We still haven't made a decision about the frontyard. We want two different things. I want to keep the garden the way that it is (a combination of parking space and flowerbeds) and my husband wants to remove all the flowers. I think that is true that women and men often have different opinions about this topic. I think that many women would pick the flowers just like me. I can also see from this discussion that many members understand my point of view. I hope that I can make my husband understand it, too.
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
10 May 12
I will go for the flowers. I love gardening and I have a lot of flowers and plants in my garden and I don't clear them at any cost becuase I love. They are as my sisters and my brothers and how can I kill my sister and brother.
For me I give more importance for my flowers than to fin a parking place and I will never allow any one to do this in my home.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
30 May 12
I also to keep my flowers, I have some beautiful roses in the front yard and many other kinds of flowers. The previous owner of the house was very, very interested in gardening and that is main reason why there are so many different flowers. My husband wants to remove them and fill everything will pebbles. I don't want that, but it might end with a kind of compromise. Maybe I will be able to keep some of the flowers close to the gate and let my husband remove some of the other flowers. I would prefer to keep all of them, but my husband is very stubborn and he wants his parking spaces.
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
9 May 12
In our front yard there is green grass I have 5 rose bushes along the front side of our house. Some of the roses are red yelloe pink and white. I have a large driveway. 4 cars can park in it. There is also parking in front of our house in the street.It would take a person parking in the street a half a minute to be at our front door. I would not give up my flowers tell your hubby that you want your flower beds.your friends can park in the parking lot. thats what I would do... good luck.....
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
11 May 12
Your front yard sounds beautiful, roses are my favorite flowers. We also have some roses bushes in the front yard. We have many different flowers in the flower beds, because the woman who lived in our house before was very interested in flowers. It is sad my husband just wants to remove all of those flowers. I want to keep them. Like you say our friends can park in the parking lot, I don't think that is a problem at all since the parking lot is close to our home. It is a free parking lot so they don't even have to pay for it.
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
9 May 12
i would prefer to keep the flowers. it's keeping nature around your house. it accents your house with nature's beauty. your guest don't live at your house, they will only be there sometimes. why change up the beauty of your house just for guest. you have to make your home comfortable for you.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
11 May 12
That is a good point. We live in the house and the guests are only there sometimes. My husband wants to make it easier for our guests to park their cars, but I don't think that it is neccesary to create a parking space for 4 cars. We have room for one visitors and when we have more than one visitor for instanse when we have a party our visitors can park at the parking lot. The parking is close to our house, so I don't see the problem. Most of the time we don't have that many visitors at a the time, and I don't think that it is neccesary to change the front yard.
@rajaiv0810 (1012)
• Philippines
9 May 12
We got quite a big area here so it is not much of a problem. Our garage can accommodate 6 cars and we still got a yard. The yard got fruit trees and flowers but no grass since grasses can't grow because the area is shaded. When our friends would come over we can also park the cars outside without any problem. i guess we are just blessed to have a large area.
In your case, I think it would still be very nice to retain the flowers there. It would give more beauty to your place and would feel very homey. Just try to convince your husband about this. Unless, he would prefer it to become a parking area for safety purposes. But if there isn't much of a problem parking outside then you shouldn't take out all those flowers. Just be calm when you speak to him. 

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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 May 12
Your yard sounds very nice. My parents had fruit trees in the past, and it was nice to have our own fruit. I also think that the flowers make the surroundings beautiful and that it would be a shame to remove them. I hope that I can convince my husband. I don't think that there is a big safety problem in our area. In the big cities it is sometimes risky to park the cars far away from the houses, but on my island, we don't have to worry much about that and we haven't experienced that kind of problems.
@meapas (2436)
• India
9 May 12
Hi,
Life has become a way of convenience, the more we have the less we got. Not very long ago when we got the first car we would be happy to park it anywhere because there were no driveways. Then we got a garage into our house for our only family car.
Now we have a car for every member along with a SUV and suddenly our terrace and garden vanishes under the canopy of car hoods. Now every guest would prefer a drive-in while going on a visit to their neighborhood. This is only one part of the story.
The other part unfolds in some Rotary or Lions meet uptown, where we wax eloquent about Global warming and the need to do something about it post haste amidst animated hand claps and we also throw in some vague terms like offsetting or leaving carbon footprints for the future generations so that Siberia does not occupy our living room. KUDOS.
Dear lady, if only you could convince your dearest hubby that with every flowering plant we destroy, we are actually contributing to the global warmth and along with every car we park in the place of the flowerbeds we are actually increasing the carbon footprint whereas with every flowerbed planted we are offsetting the carbon footprint.
Maybe if you could convince him then the next Rotarian or Lions club meet would find a new host and a new venue, you and your home, in that order. ALL THE BEST, and God bless.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
10 May 12
My husband has never thought about the thing with the carbon footprint, but I think it is a very important thing you mentioned, and I hope that I can convince him to see it from that point of view. I think that I will show him your response. Many trees and flowers have been removed already and they have been replaced by buildings and roads and I don't want to contribe to that development if I don't have to do. I hope that he will let me keep my flowers, we still don't agree about the topic, but we will keep on discussing it and hopefully we will find a solution that both of us can accept.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 May 12
Hi porcospino
Flowers definitely. friends can park their cars at the lot if you have that. Here it is not a problem today but in the near future, it will be a problem. But I have my reasons to opt for the flowers - They are better and environment friendly, dont pollute, and most essential - they refresh me even when the friends cannot. They also add to the beauty of the house and also are considered a little more posh on this part of the world. Moreover, if I had those flowers, I would have cared for them like I would have cared for my children and even pets.(Right, I do not have any is beyond the discussion right now).
And not providing friends with enough parking space I can also ask them to avoid car travel - or even share the trips like they bring cars in turns. And still if they have a problem (as I see on this discussion, it is not them complaining but hubby being more friendlier). The logic that I will have space for 4 cars will be void and useless if there were more friends invited/visiting and all decided to bring their own car! You cannot provide everything for everyone is the base idea of my thinking here.
Flowers definitely. friends can park their cars at the lot if you have that. Here it is not a problem today but in the near future, it will be a problem. But I have my reasons to opt for the flowers - They are better and environment friendly, dont pollute, and most essential - they refresh me even when the friends cannot. They also add to the beauty of the house and also are considered a little more posh on this part of the world. Moreover, if I had those flowers, I would have cared for them like I would have cared for my children and even pets.(Right, I do not have any is beyond the discussion right now).
And not providing friends with enough parking space I can also ask them to avoid car travel - or even share the trips like they bring cars in turns. And still if they have a problem (as I see on this discussion, it is not them complaining but hubby being more friendlier). The logic that I will have space for 4 cars will be void and useless if there were more friends invited/visiting and all decided to bring their own car! You cannot provide everything for everyone is the base idea of my thinking here.1 person likes this
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 May 12
That is true, the flowers don't pollute and they are environment friendly. I think also think that they make the front yard beautiful. I don't like the idea of an entire yard full of pebbles. My husband is thinking about the practical things and I am thinking about the things that I like (the flowers) and that is reason why we disagree.
Yes, you are right, our friends never complained about the parking lot, but my husband wants to make things easier for them when they visit. If the parking lot hadn't been there, I would understand his opinion, because it is illegal to park on the road outside the houses, so it would be been a difficult situation for the visitors without the parking lot. But since there is a parking lot I don't think that it is neccesary to create a parking space for 4 cars.
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 May 12
I would also choose the flowers, but my husband disagrees with me and we still haven't made a decision. I hope that I can persuade him to leave the flowers. So far he insists on removing them, because he wants to create a parking space for 4 cars. I don't like a front yard without any flowers, I think that would be a sad sight. It may be practical, but it isn't beautiful, and I really like the flowers.
@amy77824 (147)
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9 May 12
hi
In my view if you remove the flowers you are basically killing yourself. We all need flowers and trees to live because they provide us with the oxygen needed to live and they get rid of the carbon dioxide in the air so they also stop global warming. I also dont see the problem with walking for 5 minutes to get from the parking lot to your house it not that far to walk.
Blessed you be
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
9 May 12
That is good point. Many flowers and trees have already disappeared and been replaced by houses and roads, and that development is going to continue. I hope that I can persuade my husband to keep our flowers, because I don't like the idea of a front yard where there is nothing but pebbles. I know that there would be room for 4 cars, but I still don't like the idea. If there wasn't a parking lot the situation would have been different. We are not allowed to park on the road outside the houses, and without the parking lot it would have been hard for our visitors to find a place to park, but there IS a parking lot so I don't see the problem.
@tkonlinevn (6427)
• Vietnam
19 May 12
Try to explain to your husband. you'll live with the yard everyday. But your friends will go then turn back. They only visit you some times. So you should keep flowers.
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@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
11 May 12
Hi Porcospino, I choose to save those flowers. Those cars can park any where, they can be moved without being destroyed.
I lived in a rural area where there a lot of trees and flowering plants. There is fresh air and a lot of butterflies. It's really nice to be in a place where I can be free and relax.
But I would like to make some changes - plant more trees and flowering plants.
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