Hows your married or unmarried life? Do compare.

i dont have plans in getting into marriage yet. can't imagine my life being tied to someone forever (for now).. in the future i will for sure. having someone (boyfriend) is good, sometimes. hahaha.. you know, you get to talk about lovelife sometimes but im really not into it. i mean im single and dating for years now and enjoying what i do. i guess im going to settle for that for now. i wanna be ready once i decide to tie the knot.

I am not married at the moment, and I will admit that I like it to be this way. I don't understand why people feel the need to get married. If they want to be with someone then that's all well and good, but if they love them then they're going to be the same with them whether they're married or not. I would never want to change my name to take a man's, as I don't see why the woman in the relationship should have to do that when there is no way that the man would ever do the same thing. I do believe in love, but I don't believe in marriage.

I just wrote about this in my journal because my life has been terrible since I made the decision to be with my first husband. I was 25 when we married and because he was abusive I should never have married him. He left me in a financial lurch. Then I met my current husband. A fling at first. Met another guy. Got pregnant and didn't know who the father was. I ended out with neither guy and alone raising my baby for two years. That first fling after my first marriage came back into my life and I got pregnant again and we moved in together eventually getting married. Soon after the birth of my second child I developed fibromyalgia (a chronic illness) and have been unable to work for the last 15 years. I have been dependent on my husband whose priorities include golf and visiting his family in another province every year if not more often. He spends money we don't have. I continue to have health problems. So what has come to mine to me recently is that the best years of my life were the two years I was alone raising my daughter. I was independent and able to provide for both of us. I had no man in my life, no father for my daughter, but I was strong and loved my child to pieces. There were bad times that I didn't handle very well but overall I have to say it was the best time of my life. My daughters are 19 and almost 16 and they feel their father is "oblivious". He has been active in helping them get to sporting events and such, but he lives in his own little world most of the time and has to be told things 3 or 4 times. Like last night he asked where our 15 year old was. I told him (for the third time) and then he nodded acknowledging that he remembered. He didn't remember; he remembered that I told him, and she did too. Unable to work and with no income, I have no choice but to continue this life as it is. I love my husband and hope and pray he will change. I know I can't change him; that's God's job. I will be 50 this year and struggle with the fact that I have been struggling all my life and want to start being happy and enjoying life. It's bucket list time. Of course, both my husband and I could have put more effort into our marriage and hope we can still strengthen it, but there are times where I feel I would be better off single... unless I were to find a REAL prince charming like my father was for my mother. Unfortunately I'm too old for Prince Harry.

I'm divorced. Let me just throw that out there. When I was married I was deeply in love with whom I married, but a lot of things were give and take on both ends but not the right kind of give or take. Now that I am not married anymore, I feel more free. I tell myself I won't ever get married again, but I honestly don't know. I know that my marriage did show me a lot of things about myself, things I was doing wrong and also things I was giving too much of but not getting too much of in return. Demoralizing myself. Marriage is a learning experience. A lot of people choose not to get married, and that's sometimes for the best. I won't say that I never will, but I will say I don't think about it either.

Hello Anand, No one can compare both the lives as in unmarried life one has the freedom as there is no responsibility of anyone on that person unlike a married person where there are lots of responsibility of family but then there is someone who can share your feelings so both the lives have its advantages and disadvantages.