Confession: I go through my husband's things

Lol, you don't come off as disrespectful. But I do respect him as a man, but I don't trust his or any man's for that matter, ability to NOT take attention that they get from other women. It's in their nature. Unfortunately for them, God only gave them enough blood to control one part of their body at a time, you catch my drift? Lol. But I see what you're saying, and like I said, if he would learn to put people in their place then I wouldn't have a problem. When you disrespect my marriage, you disrespect me and that's just the way that I look at it. =)

OMG u made me laugh sooooooo hard my stomach hurts lol!! Yes I do know what u mean! I still think we're twins from different parents...have u talked to him about it? My husband is the same way. I feel more like his mom bcuz I'm constantly telling him no this no that and it's like what would u do without me. I don't want to be like that with him but little by little he's comin around! And I like it. Except he does it backwards like the laundry and the dishes. He puts them in all the wrong cabinets and he doesn't put them in the right place, whew it's exhausting! I talked to him about it but time will tell if he takes it to heart.

Hmmm I wonder if our husbands are twins from different mothers as well because that sounds like mine! Lol...I feel like I have 3 children in the house instead of two. Not that he's stupid or anything, he just does things like a man. I'm sorry i don't care what any man in this world says, they NEED us more than they know!! Lololol! =)

Thank you! I'm glad to see that at least one or two people see where I'm coming from! And you're right, I'm not really causing any harm or accusing him of anything or acting all psycho about it. I just want to know what he's up to and who these women are and why they're sending him messages about how sexy his profile pic is and one even said "if you ever decide to leave that wife of yours, you know where to find me", that one he did put in her place. He told her off, but when women compliment him he just says thanks and moves on. He's like your husband, laid back. He's very friendly and doesn't like confrontation. Me, on the other hand, I don't care lol. If a guy says something like that to me I immediately go into defense mode and tell them they need to respect my marriage. And I'm sure I will get bored. I know he's not doing anything wrong and I DO trust him, sometimes it's just that fear of the unknown I guess because the possibility is always there. Thank you for sharing! =)

I think every woman want to see her man take a stand up for her . and your right maybe he dont think it matter because they a state away. Some ex just never want to get the picture and they hang around our profile to keep track on our relationship . I one time tell one of my friend to not add my boyfriend and send him PM because I know she is a boyfriend stealer friend .

I don't think that he will cheat, it's the principle of the matter. I've seen him shoot women down before if he gets approached out somewhere, so why is it so hard for him to do it online to women in a completely different state? Maybe because he thinks it doesn't matter, I don't know. In reality it doesn't matter, because like I said, he sleeps with me a nighttime.

I feel you @courtknee. The reason I ever did it in the first place was because I kept hearing rumors about him and some girl, which proved to be false, but it was when we were together for only like 4 or 5 months I think, so he left it logged in one day and I took a peek. And it's not like I do it all day, every day. But when the opportunity presents itself, yeah I look. And he knows that I have done it before, he just doesn't know that I do it or have done it more than once. I confronted him with something that I saw one time. He was pissed, but I told him if he wouldn't have been having conversations like that to begin with then he wouldn't have to worry about it. That was almost a year ago. He's also been cheated on before, but he has also been the cheater. Not on me, but he told me that he cheated on a girl before. @giftsandbags I don't trust ANYONE, hell, I don't even trust my own self sometimes. And being the fact that men are feeble minded creatures you have to stay on your toes with them. Being the fact that he's a man automatically renders him weak. I don't care how good of a man you think you have or how faithful you may think that he is, I don't put anything past anyone. And the whole point is, if they're going to cheat, they're not going to tell you about it, that's why it's called cheating. There's one way and one way only to find out, and that's to go about it yourself. Men don't always cheat because they're not happy, they cheat because they can. They don't always cheat because they're trying to upgrade, they cheat because they want to have their cake and eat it too. They don't always cheat because they don't love you, they cheat because you can only throw your "punana" in a man's face for so long before he eventually gives in because men are WEAK when it comes to women. I understand that what's done in the dark will eventually come into the light, but I'm not going to be the fool that wastes half my life staying with someone who had an affair behind my back and I was so nieve and "trusting" that I didn't know anything about it. I'm sorry, but we women wear a lot of hats and sometimes you just have to put on your "investigation" cap and keep your eyes and ears open for what may or may not be going on around you. I don't feel bad at all for looking through his facebook. In this day and age if you want to know something about someone that they may not be telling you, it's phone first, facebook second. People don't cheat outside the house anymore without having any contact with them else wise. In this day and age you can be cheating right under your mates nose. They could be texting the mistress right in front of you and you know nothing about it. So if you trust your guy enough to never wonder or take a look through his e-mails, hey that's your business. But, me? Nah, not happening. Like I said he goes through my things too. I know that he does because I check internet history (Not to see what he's up to, but to see what my kids are doing online and to make sure they're not visiting any sites that they're not allowed to be on) and when I see my FB name and messages pop up at a time that I know I wasn't home or in a browser that I don't use, there's only one other person in this house who would be interested in looking through my messages and it's not one of my kids. So there you have it. Judge me if you choose, but I have my reasons. Have a good night.

Men don't always cheat because they're not happy, they cheat because they can. They don't always cheat because they're trying to upgrade, they cheat because they want to have their cake and eat it too. They don't always cheat because they don't love you, they cheat because you can only throw your "punana" in a man's face for so long before he eventually gives in because men are WEAK when it comes to women. I agree with you 100% on the above, MsControversy. I had been in a situation where a guy I loved betrayed me because even though he said he loved me, he didn't even have the balls to tell his ex-girlfriend that he had someone new. He led her on, she was so naive about what was going on, she thought she had not been replaced since the time they broke up. Because he was such a sissy, she visited him without the knowledge that some other girl had already slept with him. After two weeks I got fed up with what happened and sent her a message telling her about my relationship with the guy. She told me she wished I had come off with the truth before she visited him. You see, he was so weak. Very weak when it comes to women. I don't want to generalize but what you said about men being weak, well, I have really experienced being with one. It broke my heart.

The thing I meant to say about the couple who divorced was that when the wife did something, acted like an a**hole to him Which was quite often), he never said anything. Instead of talking to her about it or telling her I can't put up with you treating me like this, he repressed everything. For 22 years. After all those years it came out. And he was a nice guy, laid back, friendly, a good guy. That was my point.