Popularity

I sacrificed my sleep to be popular here... I have not attained that status and I can say the same with my life offline. Yet, I have enjoyed this site immensely as I am enjoying my life being unpopular.

Hi allknowing! Good topic. Who does not like popularity? And a bit of admiration on the side would frost the cake too. I have been quite popular and I would attribute this to one very important thing. I am good listener and can always see things from another person’s point of view. I do not jump to conclusions or pass judgememtns whens someone needs a shoulder to cry on. I always knew that people did not want any solutions suggested to their problems but just wanted to let go; I had no problems remaining silent. This made me very popular with my friends. I could give words of comfort; that is all.Asfar as compromise goes I think I would have given a lot of time and this was something even my close family members would find strange. “What is there that you could t alk about for such a long hour”? would be their surprised question especially if it were a person like my mother-in-law or so. One important compromise that I remember is a loss of a few thousand rupees—one day I as so engrossed in friend’s misery [she had to be in tears and I soothed her with a cup of coffee after listening for one hour] that I missed seeing one important bit of business news ;this resulted in a loss of about 30 to 40 thousand rupees which in the normal course of action may not have happened.Neverhteless I always believe that ‘what has to happen will happen and if I am fated to gain it will happen” and so I did not lose much sleep over it.

To be honest. this discussion baffled me! Why?? It's been a very long time since I wondered, worried whether my decisions/actions were about to be popular or not? Seems in these latter years of my life, I have spent most time negotiating or compromising and mending consequences created by others. I do remember being somewhat energized by popularity in my younger years. One might say, I have re-directed those energies to what I deem more important at this stage in life, dear friend! HUGZ!

popularity doesn't mean anything to me, unless I'm popular for the right reasons. In my current career, I am popular because of my intelligence and research skills, and dedication to the job, among other things. I would never want to be popular for something I hadn't worked for and earned. Respect is more important to me than popularity, as is my self worth. If people don't like and respect me for who I am, then I don't waste my time with them. I never bothered with the "in" crowd, the latest fashions, or trying to out do my neighbors. People use things like that, and physical looks as crutches, in my opinion. I have always been a loner, though by choice not circumstance asd I am now, and I have never regretted it-- because the friends I have that crave popularity usually have serious self esteem issues.

Yes, I have compromised here and there because everyone is not the same. I don't expect everyone to behave or act like I do or even think like I do, so I compromise and we have fun. I make my friends laugh a lot and I love that! I only have very few people whom I consider "real friends." We have been through thick and thin, argued and disagreed and still had a lasting relationship..that's my idea of a friend. I don't care whether I'm poplular or not..I try to be tackful when talking with people but sometimes they still take it wrong. What's a person to do. I just feel if you like me, great..if you don't, that's ok to.

It's nice to be liked but it's not worth the price to me that some people pay. People are funny and one of the questions that bugs me is who really likes me and who is liking me just because other people are liking me? I think it is much harder to find loyalty when one is popular than it is when one is not. I just try to be myself and if people like me because of it, great. If not..well...I am still living my life and doing things that I like to do with people I like to do them with. I think I have one of those personalities where people either like me a lot or not at all. There is usually no gray areas for people where I am concerned. I am true to them and myself though so I guess that is ok. I want to be liked but I know that everyone is not going to, so I guess popularity is not something I worry too much over.

Honestly, not at all.. I wish people would let me be. I know what its costs, and basically being a loner, I am terrified of the prospect. I would rather people not misunderstand me, but be there when I need them..and would be there for them, if I can be of help. That is all to me as a human being.

I think the most important is really happy. The attitude is what you express to other people. So just be happy and life is short,right? Only not to think too much and you will be generous to people.I care how people think of me, but still care to be true me.Have good day.