Speak up SPEAK UP!!
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
September 16, 2012 4:35pm CST
Why don't people speak up for themselves? After reading these discussions about idiots taking lunches away from kids and people whose inlaws meddle in their relationship and people whose siblings cause drama or coworkers snub them and talk down to them - WHY don't you all speak up and tell these other people their behavior is UNACCEPTABLE?! Tell them they are NOT going to treat you like that any more, in fact, they are not going to treat ANYBODY like that any more because you are going to let everybody know how they treated you!!
What is the reason any of you just 'let it go'? Do you think you're being nice, that you're being kind, that it's okay to disrespect YOURSELF and let yourself be bullied? You do realize that allowing people to get away with this is ammunition for them to continue acting this way, right? If you don't say anything to them, 90% of them see NO problem with how they act and they likely treat EVERYONE they come in contact with this way.
Man up, woman up! If you're annoyed or irritated or feeling hurt about it enough to say something, SAY SOMETHING TO THE OFFENDER! Do it sooner rather than later!
4 responses
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Sep 12
People are so worried about what other people think that it interferes with good communication. We really should just say what we need to say and forget about trying to impress anybody or get approval about anything. I've never seen how impressing someone helps in any non-superficial way, and of course approval is just superficial and petty in lowest terms as well. Who cares? Not me.
@McCreeper (777)
• United States
16 Sep 12
Not sure why you're venting about this.. People act in their own way. I personally don't want to speak up (too often) because of the reaction of others. I also think it just desensitizes oneself.
But yeah, telling the truth is definitely better than waiting for it to bite your rear.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Sep 12
I am tired of seeing people act like doormats and then they complain to me when they should confront the offenders. When they never confront the offenders, the situations just repeat themselves and it gets old.
I have noticed that when I go off on somebody about something, many times they don't even know how to react, which tells me that NOBODY ever confronts them or lets them know how they acted WASN'T okay. It's my hope that they REMEMBER so in the future they think twice before being stupid! So many people don't want to rock the boat. I was born a boat rocker, get used to it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Sep 12
Well, I know that I am one of the people that you are talking about here and I can give you the reason that I don't speak up for myself. The reason that I don't speak up as often as I should is because of the fact that I was brought up to be a non-confrontational person. I'm not thinking that I'm trying to be a nice person when it comes to these kinds of things and I'm not trying to disrespect myself. Instead, it is simply because of the fact that I've never been a person that has been able to speak up for myself, I just don't know how to do it.
@Gracia2010 (282)
• Thailand
16 Sep 12
Oh, it will not happen to me personally i am a type of a person who never let anyone speak bad things nor abuse words for me. I can't let anyone throw some annoying things towards me. I am a fighter, and i will always fight as long as i knew i am in the right tract.
We should not let anybody to degrade us and let them be the one to control or rule over us. We are all human and entitled for an equal rights, we must treated right and just.
