I am supposed to have a retentive memory but.......
@allknowing (153544)
India
September 21, 2012 11:07pm CST
I have a good memory but when it comes to myLot why is it that I forget that some users have hurt me and my decision to never go anywhere near them is all forgotten and there I am interacting with them! Has this happened to you? Have you succeeded in keeping those who have hurt you at bay forever?
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
22 Sep 12
I guess it all depends on what the hurt was. If you're talking about just a total disagreement on a subject, that doesn't bother me so much as everyone doesn't agree about everything anyways.
But, if you're talking about nastiness and sarcastic talk which is hurtful, I'd be the first to use the delete button if it was a friend. If it's just a particular myLot member, I normally do not forget these people and refuse to discuss anything with them.
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
23 Sep 12
I think personally, people in general just want to be liked, and that's why we keep going back trying our hardest to be friends, because we can't understand why they don't like us. 
I can see putting up with off the wall comments once in a while because people do have their problems, and some take it out on others unintentionally. But when the attitude is demeaning or intentional and it happens more than once, goodby, goodby, goodby. 
I don't need that garbage in my life and I'm not going to be someone's dumpster. Like I mentioned before, there is a delete button but some people are really afraid to use it because they don't want to start trouble. But, if you think about it, you didn't start it now, did you. 
I can see putting up with off the wall comments once in a while because people do have their problems, and some take it out on others unintentionally. But when the attitude is demeaning or intentional and it happens more than once, goodby, goodby, goodby.
I don't need that garbage in my life and I'm not going to be someone's dumpster. Like I mentioned before, there is a delete button but some people are really afraid to use it because they don't want to start trouble. But, if you think about it, you didn't start it now, did you. 1 person likes this
@allknowing (153544)
• India
22 Sep 12
Someone who I thought was my friend stabbed me in the back and yet I see myself interacting with that user. Ugh I say!
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
23 Sep 12
I always thought time dilates and diffuses but not with this person. I am always targeted and badly too. So goodbye, goodbye, goodbye
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
I've learn a lot here in mylot.
I've learned to keep a distance to those who doesn't like me.
It's better that way to avoid more issues...
@allknowing (153544)
• India
22 Sep 12
It just happens sometimes as it has happened to me. I will be careful now.
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@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
There's a lot of mylotters who are more matured- I go with them 
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
22 Sep 12
When you say more matured do you mean number of years in myLot?
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
22 Sep 12
Hi dear,
I think time heals the wound.
I had minor hurts mostly but once I got a major one, to be honest, I cant remember the use name or I can identify that person at present. It is in the beginning of my mylot life and in between, during the fiver years, I have never interacted with that person again, Now I forgot that person completely, don’t know that user exist in mylot at present.
On minor hurts, I kept distance for sometime, then I decided to forgive, I mean, now I don’t stay away from them intentionally. 
I had minor hurts mostly but once I got a major one, to be honest, I cant remember the use name or I can identify that person at present. It is in the beginning of my mylot life and in between, during the fiver years, I have never interacted with that person again, Now I forgot that person completely, don’t know that user exist in mylot at present.
On minor hurts, I kept distance for sometime, then I decided to forgive, I mean, now I don’t stay away from them intentionally.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
22 Sep 12
You are lucky that you are not even sure if the one who hurt you exists here. But it is not so in my case!
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
23 Sep 12
I think it is because you are bigger than the issue. That makes it easier for you to get past certain things. I have put things behind me and had to work or be close to someone that has hurt my feelings before. I think the way I interact with them is much different though. I have one friend here that once made a very stereotypical comment about the area that I am actually from; about the people in this area. It wasn't even directed to me but when I read it I remember being so disappointed. I still interact with them occasionally but not as frequently as before.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Sep 12
all knowing thats sad and I am sorry as its no fun
being targeted like that. I went through it once and just left the other person strictly alone. she made it clear she thinks I am horrid so let her think that. I no longer care.Just stay away from the person and do not let him or her upset you again. mylots supposed to be a social
place not a cat house with back stabbers.
being targeted like that. I went through it once and just left the other person strictly alone. she made it clear she thinks I am horrid so let her think that. I no longer care.Just stay away from the person and do not let him or her upset you again. mylots supposed to be a social
place not a cat house with back stabbers.@allknowing (153544)
• India
23 Sep 12
I was targeted once and also stabbed in the back. I stayed away but not for long and now once again I see I am targeted. I have learnt my lesson. I shall stay away now forever.
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
23 Sep 12
i gave them time to realise the hurt they inflicted on me and I started interacting and they are back with the same attitude. So goodbye it will be forever!
@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
23 Sep 12
I have only been here less than a year and happy to say that most interactions I have here are friendly and pleasant. There is only one user that I try to avoid because he/she decided to single me out in one of his/her discussion. He/she may well had his/her own reasons for that; but I just had the username in the back of my mind and I manage to stay away so far... (perhaps the feelings were mutual that's why we never interacted with each other since although I know that user is active)
@allknowing (153544)
• India
23 Sep 12
Good for you. I have decided to do likewise.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Sep 12
hi allknowing I do the same thing as some who insulted me have come back to respond to my discussions with no evil intent. one whom I cannot stand just leaves me along and so I do with her. She let me know a year back that she disliked me so I just do not go
near her and I am sure shes happy with that too. This was the only one who really hurt me.most things can be settled between friends so its only someone who refuses to be a friend that I just avoid.
riend that I just avoid. @Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
23 Sep 12
Getteing angry and angering others is unexpected and inscientific. We should confute others by logic and with being nice as well.
