Coping a rivalry between siblings.

Me and my younger brothers do have some conflicts and fight, but as an elder brother I always make sure that any conflicts or problem are solve and the love for each other dominates on us. We value respect and loyalty because with this, we can show our parents that they have raise us well even due we are only a poor family. I am proud of my brothers, and i love them all.

I think I had undergone this sibling rivalry thing when we were kids. I had an elder brother, less than two years older than me so there was somewhat of a competition between us that always took place. But we were kids back then, and we thought that by outdoing one another was the best way to cope with it. Sure, one would be outdone, but I guess these made us stronger and smarter. This rivalry bit ended though when we were both in high school. During that time, the rivalry turned to, well, team work :)

It is very hard when siblings don't get along with each other, but sadly this is just something that is a fact of life and is an issue in every single family that has had more than one child. The best thing to do is to sit them down and ask them why thy behave this way towards each other. You might find that there is a genuine issue that can be resolved. You should also let them know just how upset it makes you, and ensure that they try to put their differences behind them. Family is very important and we should not be taking them for granted in this way.

Yes, this happens usually to growing children. They envy their brother if their mom or dad, bought something for him, even if it's because a requirement at school. That's why if you have two children, you have to buy two for both the children. But in your case, if you are the eldest, learn how to share what you have with your younger sibling. Usually, it's the eldest who always get to be bought something by their parents.

I think rivalry in the family is just but a normal situation. Even though they are born on the same genes people vary or being raised differently. Especially if one of your sibling has more intellectual than yours even if you are the eldest there will always be a disagreement between what was really right or wrong. Treatments of Parents varied from eldest to second to youngest. In our family we do have this rivalry thing. I am the eldest but then because I am not that TOO SMART and not TOO WISE me and my second brother are being compared. Because I am the TOO EMOTIONAL type of person the reason that they called me the youngest. They don't know that in all that TOO EMOTIONAL I am trying to resist and to be brave to face them without even crying. I really hate myself when I am trying to contend my tears will follows. :( Now I m still trying to be more braver.

Hello bembzee, When I was young I used to fight always with my younger brother.I do not know why is that happening to us though that was a simple arguments only. We fought just for a simple household chores like washing the dishes and cleaning the house. Both of us really an irritation in those times. But when during our college, things got worst. My younger brother next to me became very distant with me already for the thought that I was the favorite of our father knowing that I am the only girl among us as off springs.Though for me, I think our parents was fair enough among us and there was no favoritism. For me to be able to get close with my brother right now that we are getting older since I was the older one, I always find time to communicate with him and help his financial needs in school.Sometimes, I am also telling him that when he needs peace of advice in terms of love life I am just here.