Is It Easier For You?

ya know, once someone has made me that mad, its hard to forgive them... I'm honestly pretty mad at myself most of the time too

yes, i too think a lot. when ever i do anything which i don't like, i cannot for give my self . I blame myself all the time. In some moments, all sorts of non sense thoughts comes to my mind, which makes me mad. So i start reading some or the other book ,which interests me that time. so that i can for get and get involved with the book.This helps to maximum extent to come out of my pain.

I have a hard time forgiving others. I can say the words, I can think the words biut I just don't really and truly mean it. It's on-going hurt and I just can't continue to hurt and forgive, hurt and forgive. I am getting to the stage though where I am becoming stronger about accepting myself and knowing that I'm OK and it doesn't matter what others think.

I think I can usally forgive others easier than myself. I live inside my own head and i should know better. I am supposed to know myself better and be able to make the right decisions and do the right thing. Others not so much! Forgiving others for they know not what they do but we should know ourselves best.

Hi LovingMyBabies Forgiving is only one part of the equation. The other side has and must be balanced by forgetting. (That is my personal view though) - Unless I dont forget, I will always keep coming back to the hurt that I (or the others) caused, which at times would make me unforgive and I believe that the moment I unforgive, it starts all over again.

I find it hard to forgive others and even harder to forgive myself. I will beat myself up for a long time for something until I forget about it. But if it comes back in my memory I realize I just can't forgive myself. Usually it goes away after a long time because life goes on and other things replace it. But I think that's better than not caring. I used to know someone who would just say "Oh, well. Too bad. So I screwed up." That's a worse way to be, IMO. Just try to take it easy on yourself. You are a good person but you're a human being and you're bound to make a mistake once in a while. Try to look at it as a lesson learned and promise yourself to be more careful next time or think about the incident from a rational, practical point of view and you might see you had no alternative other than to do what you did. Sometimes this helps.

I don't! The only time I forgive others is when they apologize, genuinely apologize. But myself? I never forgive.I hold on to every mistake I have ever made. I'm a perfectionist! Each mistake hurts. And that hurt Never goes away.

I think it's about equal....you see when you get older things like that are easier to shrug off...there is not alot that gets me excited anymore...the last big thing was my ex DIL...ripping apart their family. It took me a while to get past that. At first I still just loved the heck out of her.....still do as we spent alot of time together. But when we had to sell our camper etc...then the hurt set in. Now I am fine for the most part. But have forgiven her....and I usually forgive myself or chalk it up to temp insanity!

hi lovingmybabies yes its harder to forgive your self as we are harder on our o wnselves than o n others. we willblame ourselves even when we are not really to blame. A man came out of the elevator and shoved past me almost knocking me down,. what dit I do? I said oh I am sorry.Myg for what for being almost flattened? why do we do those things?we are somebody too so we ought to be kinder to our selves. its called self esteem .I have no problem either forgiving someone else but I go over and over somethin I think I have done wrong.its so hard for me to forgive myself. why? I really do not know.

I have a heck of time forgiving myself! I have not forgiven myself for stuff that happened years ago! I have been battling with this for years and it gets so old! I keep on doing it though! With some people I can forgive them right away but there are some who I still have not forgiven and maybe never will. Not a good thing to do but I do. This is part of who I am.

For me, I find that it is much easier for me to forgive someone else as opposed to forgiving myself. I believe the reason that it is the case is because of the fact that I know that human beings are prone to making mistakes. However, I also know that I know better than making the mistakes that a lot of people are prone to making. I've been able to forgive almost everyone that has crossed my life that has done me wrong in some way or another, but yet there are still things that have happened in my life for which I still haven't been able to forgive myself.

I expect too much of myself. I always put my standards way above everybody else. So when I do make a mistake, it takes longer for me to come around. It gets harder for me to forgive myself. Like you, this is something I too need to work on. I think it would greatly improve my disposition if I get this sorted out.

For a time, I also had a hard time forgiving myself. I think it took me about 3 years before I got over it. But I guess the best way to make things easier for you is to think that by forgiving yourself, you are able to become a good person not just for yourself but for others as well.

Isn't it The Lord's Prayer that states: [i]"Forgive us our trespasses As we forgive those who trespass against us"[/i] So I guess it's up to others to forgive us, not ourselves. So if someone forgives you for something naughty that you have done, you should accept that, as guilt can drive you insane.