Is it so much to ask?

ah, this seems like a problem that i am familiar with. i have made similar post. one difference is that my husband is not only understanding to my feelings on the matter, he also agrees. thank goodness! also, it is both our names on the lease. so, he has a stake in it too. in my situation, it is my husband's brother. i sympathize with you. i know you were trying to do what you thought was the right thing, because you love your boyfriend. i also know how rough things can be when you are living with someone. you are not crazy or anything. when people come to stay with you, even for a few days, it changes the flow of the atmosphere in the house. your day changes (and possibly even your life, if it is a long term situation). i also know that you feel kind stuck now, because you really didn't want to do it in the first place. this is the situation we are facing now. my brother in law wants to leave his job and his living situation to be homeless and chase something else. he wants to be at our house while he is doing it. what is he doing is going to take 9 months! now, we feel obligate, on hand. he let us stay with him when we were homeless, but we already let him stay with us once. you are right. it really changed things around the house. i also work from home and homeschool my kids. there is no where else in the house he can sleep except for our room. all of that really changed the flow of the atmosphere. i had to change the way my kids did school. everything changed and it was really a drag to share the intimate space called my home. i really couldn't see that situation long term. what i suggest is that you talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you are no longer happy with the situation. can you do that? when you do it, don't do it with an attitude or with anger. you can catch more bees with honey than you can with vinegar. this situation must change, because it with will do nothing but cause you more stress and resentment toward them both. i don't think your boyfriend will refuse what ever request you make in the long run. after all, where else is he going to live. his friend has no where to put him up either, obviously. so, he better ride with your wishes. that's my advise to him. good luck to you. i hope he moves out soon. i wish i had more to offer, as i am in the same situation. for what it is worth, you are not a bad or selfish person. the situation you are in is just annoying, and anyone can understand that.