looking for a new job... maybe
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
October 23, 2012 10:48pm CST
Next year I hope to be in a new job elsewhere making a better wage when my youngest child is in school all day. Now I'm hesitant somewhat about doing it seeing I like my job BUT I don't care for the wage or the lack of consistant hours.
Now I was wondering if you are considering finding a new job do you tell your employer or do you not tell them you are looking for other employment? I just figure if somewhere actually calls and they want to check references I might get the "so you are thinking about leaving us?....." kind of line from the boss. Which by then one would have to be honest about things. But yet at the same time... you don't want hours cut til you put in your notice that you've accepted a position elsewhere.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
24 Oct 12
Yeah, I've been thinking about that one myself. I already have submitted my resume to a couple places. I was thinking of maybe blaming it on school.. but that would look stupid if I go back later to put in my notice.
But with today's job market, I don't want to say I'm looking for a new job if I can't find one. My husband has tried a few different times to leave his job and get another.. but nothing else came up for him.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Oct 12
You try not to leave one until you have another as it is just too risky any more to be without a job. New ones do not turn up that easily. I have usually seen applications that allow you to not put your current employer, or restrict their access to your current employer, if you give a reason.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
24 Oct 12
I agree GG. My husband has kept his job for 8 years because he couldn't find anything else. So far I've kept mine. Things have not been good lately at my job, but I haven't quit yet.. though I am looking for a replacement.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
26 Oct 12
My hubby has tried previously for a different job. But for what he does there's only a few companies left at all for competition. The one place he looked at didn't even want to meet his current pay but give him $5+ less an hour. One can't afford to loose that much money.
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
24 Oct 12
I would not tellmy current boss that I was considering leaving until I had the new job;s offer in writing. Do not disclose your boss' name or firm until you have gotr the job. Give other people as references.Hope it works as you have every right to look for something better but I do understand yur reluctance and embarrassment of your present boss knowing. I also hope that it all works out for the best for you.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
26 Oct 12
Kat is right though. Most places require all the information mentioned from your current employer so if you apply to a place that does call your places of employment then they will eventually put two and two together.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
24 Oct 12
Our resumes here require previous employment, including addresses, phone numbers, and supervisors names. Some places don't check, but others do.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
24 Oct 12
I used to let my boss know about my desiring to work elsewhere, but I succeeded in leaving the old school three years later. Later when I was working in another school, I did not say anything before I found another teaching job for a higher salary. I think that it might be better to let the boss know about your choice after you have made it. Have a great day.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
26 Oct 12
That is very true. I am hoping for higher pay and consistant hours.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
24 Oct 12
It is good that you're thinking about getting a new job, but it sounds as though you're not too sure. One of the good things is that you don't have to leave your job yet, and nobody is hurt just by the fact that you're looking for a job. This means that you can apply to lots of things while you're still in this job, and then if you don't choose to leave then the company that you're working for now never needs to know that you were looking for other jobs. You never know what is out there until you try to look for it.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
24 Oct 12
NEVER tell anyone at work that you want to leave your job. You don't want to seem disloyal and give someone an excuse to terminate you before you are ready to move on. People at work may seem to be your friends, but they are not.
Employers and managers care about their bottom line first, not what is best for you and your family. If you think you want to change jobs sometime in the future, quietly look around to see what opportunities there are.
You might also consider talking to your supervisor about other opportunities where you currently work. Don't say you want more money and better hours; say that when your child is in school all day you will be in a position to handle more work and responsibility.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
28 Nov 12
This is a good choice, if you think you could get the hours you want where you are. I am torn two ways myself, for basically the same reason. I am working really weird shifts and not enough consistent hours.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
28 Nov 12
You just have to do the best you can until you can find a situation that is more ideal for you. If you can't get better hours where you are, look around quietly to see what else is out there. Just remember if you give someone at the current job as a reference, the people at the job will find out.
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
24 Oct 12
At the moment, I am not looking for a new job as I found one recently. But usually, when I was looking for another one having already a job, I did not tell to others my intention to leave until I already found what I was looking for. As I don't know when I will find, the time I rest in the old one can get very nasty until I leave. People always want to know and start with stupid questions like: when do you leave? Where are you going to? Why do you go? and if you need more time to find one (as it's not easy to find a job nowadays), others might think that you are bluffing and your intentions are others than leaving.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
26 Oct 12
That is true you don't want anyone in your face asking you all sorts of questions that you don't have an answer for other than to make your life miserable til you leave.
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
24 Oct 12
Definitely do NOT tell your current employer that you are looking for alternate work, what I have done in the past is to ask the employers of a new position I was seeking not to ask for references or contact my current employer because it would cause embarrassment, most will not ask for references until they have decided you are the right candidate, it's all time consuming having to contact your references etc... Don't burn your bridges, keep all options open, that way you won't put your current job in jeopardy.
@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
24 Oct 12
Often times when you are filling out an application they ask if they can contact your present employer. You can always tell them "no" and be ready to explain what is going on. On the other hand, if your current employer knew you were considering leaving, do you think they could find consistent hours for you?
@ram_cv (16513)
• India
18 Nov 12
I would say it depends on your relation with your superiors. In some cases if they are ok with it you might want to tell them about it. Especially if the organization does not provide you the challenges you are looking forward to. But in most other cases, you tend to get a job and then notify the current employers once you have made up your mind in this regard.
Cheers!
Ram
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
24 Oct 12
If I was you I would avoid telling my employer , until after you get the job . I would still only tell them if I want a recommendation from them . Most jobs want recommendation latter so you can ask your employer for one before leaving but only if you actually get true .
@savypat (20216)
• United States
24 Oct 12
It's really a difficult choice. It use to depend how and why I was wanting to change. If it was short hours I would let my employer know, by doing this maybe they would be able to give me more. But if it was conditions then I would apply with references given on request, that allowed the new employer to interview me and if they were serious to let me know, then I could tell my employer.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
A pleasant day to you,
With regard to your main topic, for now, I am looking for more ways on how to earn extra. Especially that Christmas season is nearly coming. And with the situation that you have posted, it will be best to observe what might be the pros and cons before jumping into the final decision. Anyway, wishing you the best
@rotloi2 (321)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 12
better don tell your boss. as your boss flag you or mark yo as probation employee. you will get the probation for 3 months . employer will more likely fire those who said something like that at interview . the relationship between boss at first interview is significant
@jeanneyvonne (5500)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
My friend is also interested in gong back to the workforce after taking care of her child. She badly needed one but I admire her for doing and prioritizing her role as a new mother. I hope that she can get the best job with her role in life.
When it comes to references, I don't usually put current bosses as references because like in the situation you described it's really awkward. As much as possible, former bosses or clients are fine. Objective friends are sometimes also acceptable. I don't tell my current clients if I am looking for another job until have confirmation that I am going to make the transition. I do understand that bosses will have to be informed but if there is no deal and offer, I will not sacrifice something that I can still have (my current job).
If you are planning to have two jobs, then you could explain to your boss that you needed the cash. In these times, people have two jobs. Sometimes, bosses are very understanding if they know your situation. Some even don't care if you have the 2nd job as long as it does not interrupt your work with them.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I think it is a wise idea to get a new job next year. Because the cost of living nowadays is so high that we tend to make both ends meet. Especially that you have a child to feed. I think, you may not inform yet your current employer not until everything will be positive and settled. Good luck to you. 

@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
24 Oct 12
Hi friend, wish you to find a good job in the near soon. Don't tell about your job searching activities to your employer until getting a good job. After getting your new job, you can tell it to your boss without hesitation.
@amna66 (1)
• Pakistan
24 Oct 12
Do not just hope. Have faith in your skills and guts like me. I believe that like you I am going to get in a new and big one job. Its not too easy, even though I am computer masters. Home based jobs are quite easy to do but not the best way to rely on it. So these days, everyone needs to earn himself/herself.But here, I will say and wish you good luck for your next year's job.















