The World Stopped For A Moment Here
By Artemeis
@artemeis (4189)
China
October 27, 2012 1:21pm CST
Though this had happened earlier this year, I thought I'd bring this most bizarre case ever for discussion. A man in my country actually sued his wife for being ugly and the court ruled in his favor making him richer by $120,000.
I really felt out of sort and outrage with how the law is being used on this woman in my country. The husband sued his wife for getting him to marry her under false pretense of her appearance which was being intensively reconstructed by cosmetic surgery.
The lawsuit came about after the birth of their baby daughter whose "ugly" appearance does not take any resemblance to either biological parents. Initially, the husband alleged that his wife had cheated on him but after the wife came forward with the truth of her reconstructive surgery on her face, he went on to sue her.
I don't really understand the justice or lack of it here. Is it a crime to go under the knife to look good? How did this judge actually came up with a penal code to award the case to the husband?
Perhaps the world really stopped for a moment here. What a shame!
6 responses
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
28 Oct 12
What a vain man! But I guess if you marry such a beautiful woman who went through these procedures, you just might be.
It also says to me that no matter how beautiful you want to look your children will still resemble you as they're born.
I don't know, just goes to show for me, there is a God and He still follows his genetic codes.
As for all the rest, nothing to say really, the vain-ness of human kind is just catching up with them. 1 person likes this
@artemeis (4189)
• China
28 Oct 12
I cannot stop asking if vanity is a crime here. Is it?
I could not believe my eyes when I first read this news but it is true that this woman had to go through so much for trying to look pleasing and most of all, acceptable. Her husband and the judge just took the meaning of justice out of everybody's mouth.
I felt really sorry for the wife and so demoralize to be a woman in my country.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
28 Oct 12
Apparently it is there. That is really sickening to think about.
I can understand how you would feel so demoralized from this. But just remember that as a whole women are not made nor broken but as individuals, as humans, as sisters, wives, mothers etc they are built up and respected. Don't allow this one act to bring you so low, you are still important.
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@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 12
Hi artemeis, yes it is really sad to have such judges and law. There are many plastic surgery cases especially in Japan and Korea. I heard my friend use to tell me, since there are so many people who undergo plastic surgery, those who married together will surely face a situation whereby their baby isn't as handsome or beautiful like the parents, but rather looking ugly. As such, the baby grew up will continue to take the route of plastic surgery. These process will never ends.
However, in the case that happened in your country, both party is at wrong. The wife should not have keep the secret from her husband, if the husband really loves her, he will not care for her outward looking, but rather be understanding. No one is perfect, and we should not try to go against what we already have. Being contended and thankful of who we are and what we have is very important.
The husband who has already married the woman, and having a baby together, should take the whole situation calmly with proper thoughts. Since he decided to sue, that does mean he is not going to take responsibility to care for the growth of the child? This is ridiculous. By suing his wife does not solve the matter. The fault of the parents has befall to the child is really a shame, and poor child has to go through such hardship since young.
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@artemeis (4189)
• China
29 Oct 12
I think there is one part I have to disagree in your response here and that is about revealing oneself for having gone under the knife for reconstructive surgery. For one, it is really dependent on the person whether she wants to reveal or not it is her right. Such surgery is permanent and does not hold any similarity to wearing a "temporary mask" which has a "Cinderella Effect" - back to original state when the clock strike 12 at midnight.
Besides, all medical records including cosmetic surgery are private and confidential which does not have any consequences of endangerment to parties outside other than the subject herself. Also, when she chose not to reveal and remain silent does not mean she is dishonest, lying or deceiving anyone including her husband here. As for the judge, I simply cannot find any law that could actually make cosmetic surgery to be on the same platform as cheating through deception.
Personally, I feel that the wife is being victimized and that the husband is picking on her after giving birth to a baby girl instead of a boy which is the bias preference of most Chinese families.
@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 12
Sorry, typo error at the last second sentence...
[And i believe "many" Chinese families nowadays has improved and are more educated. I have many Chinese friends, they love baby girls as much as baby boys.]
Like i mentioned above, Really, if you do have the heart of wanting to do something for the woman in your country, you can try to check out the China Women's Organisations and see if they can help her out. Hope you would not take my response in a negative way again. Have a good day. =)
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@artemeis (4189)
• China
29 Oct 12
I believe when one does not reveal the past or had a reconstructive surgery to look good does not mean that one has lied or is dishonest. Liken to keeping secrets which is every each one's entitlement, I really cannot fault the wife. It is a fact that the reconstruction is permanent and different from putting on a mask, I cannot find and agree that it is a form of deception especially when medical records including reconstructive surgery is private and confidential.
To me, the husband is trying to pick bones to walk out of this marriage and what better time to do it than now. Much more, when the baby turns out to be a girl instead of a boy, which is preferred by most Chinese families.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
I am shocked to hear such news. Here, I only hear celebrities undergo reconstructive surgery but a very minimal case. And once someone was noticed some changes in her personality, it will be in the news until she denied or confirmed it. But usually, they deny it.
I am not satisfied with my own face or body but I haven't really taken into consideration to have reconstructive surgery. But I really won't blame those people who undergo this surgery as they may have suffered from humiliations from the past. I've seen the photos attached in here, I think that if was her, I'd rather have a brace to correct my teeth and jaw. Her nose is even far nicer than mine 
Seriously, I think that this could have not been an issue if the woman told her husband before they decided to get married that she actually undergo reconstructive surgery. I truly think that the guy deserves to know that. But on the other hand, I think that to be sued for having an ugly face is not right. That is morally degrading.
Seriously, I think that this could have not been an issue if the woman told her husband before they decided to get married that she actually undergo reconstructive surgery. I truly think that the guy deserves to know that. But on the other hand, I think that to be sued for having an ugly face is not right. That is morally degrading. @artemeis (4189)
• China
28 Oct 12
To me, I just felt the world had just stopped and justice simply does not exist anymore. I simply do not know how and why this woman can be found guilty when she is trying to look her best to the man she loves and marries to. Is it her fault that the baby does not resemble any parent the moment she came into this world? Anyone who has had babies would know that babies will need some time to grow into some resemblances. I don't know how the father could actually be so unreasonable and mean to ever consider his wife had cheated on him and later sue the wife for deceiving him with her cosmetic surgery enhanced appearance.
What a load of rubbish!
The judge is equally disappointing and disgusting to actually rule this in favor of the demeaning husband when cosmetic surgery could be regarded as a tool to cheat here. I am sure no one would ever admit going under the knife otherwise cosmetic surgeons with the exceptional skill to conceal surgical scars would not be sought out. At the end of the ruling, I am wondering if the judge had considered the consequences of his ruling and the effects it would have on the woman's family and her future.
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
28 Oct 12
Looks like the law makers of America are irresponpsible to women.
@natliegleb (5173)
• India
28 Oct 12
its the most bizarrest of the things which i have heard,its informative and this kind of things must come to an end
@artemeis (4189)
• China
29 Oct 12
For this to end without another incident, I felt that our women should band together and protest against this judge and his judgment.
The case is a bad bearing for things to come especially for women who go under the knife to look good. Looking good is not a crime and certainly not done to deceive or cheat anyone.
Also, I felt that it is mean and unreasonable of the husband to single out that his baby daughter to be ugly resembling the mother before her cosmetic surgery. Since when does newborns have any resemblance upon arrival? It is quite obvious here that he is picking bones with this where the husband is another of those bias Chinese who prefer a boy than a girl in the family.
@artemeis (4189)
• China
28 Oct 12
I can assure you that no matter how good looking the husband is, he is really the ugly one in this episode. He has be uncharacteristic and insensitive here.
I don't know about you, but I felt that he had no right to go ballistic. The sentence is another disappointing one. It is unfair here.
