Are my friends right?

You are such a thoughtful person nita. i think your parents are very proud of you. i think it is indeed time to also have time for your self.it doesnt mean that when you give time for your self you will not anymore give time for your family,its just that you must also think about your happines,we all need that to know more.i hope you will take your friends advibe.be happy!

From how I see it, it just cannot be helped. You were born and raised that way, and it has become a part of your character, which is actually a good thing. Your selflessness is a trait that should be admired and not discouraged. I'm sure that even if you wanted to, you couldn't do things without considering others. I just hope that you will continue to be this considerate and thoughtful person, may no harm be ever at your way, and may your life be filled with happiness and blessings.

I think we should always consider others always when we make a decision. But the key word here is 'consider.' At the end of the day, we still are the ones who decide. So whether it's for or own good or for the good of others is up to us. So I guess what I'm saying is that we should not make decisions solely for and in consideration of others, but also in consideration of ourselves.

You are definitely a great family member. You sacrifice and put other family members first. However, what your friend said also have some truth in it. At times you must reward yourself for all the effort you have put in. Give a pat on your shoulder for a job well done. Sometimes other people might take advantage and take for granted of your kindness.

I have always been the kind of person that feels like there is really no time in our lives where it is appropriate to only think about yourself. Before I was a mother, I would always think about my mother and my siblings because I wanted things to be as good as possible for all of us. Now I've been a mother for less than a week short of ten years and since I was pregnant with my daughter, I've always thought about what is good for not only myself, but also my children and my husband. It would never be a good thing to think about only yourself.

There's nothing wrong with helping your family. But before you help others, be sure to help yourself first.

Yes, you must have time for yourself too. You have your own life to live. It is great that you are a good family member that help to support your family. I hope you will become a good role model for you siblings to follow, to help each other. Have a good planning to have your time, money and focus on both families and yourself. All the best :)

We are sometimes "burdened" to put more effort into giving our share of responsibilities to our family and barely have anything left for ourselves. It is kinda sad sometimes coz we sometimes do feel we need to have our own time for ourselves. But the need to extend help to them just seem to be a must and if we fail, we do no feel right about it. We love our families so much that we are willing ti sacrifice our everything just for their sake.

Yeah it is important that you make time for yourself. But like you mentioned that is easier said than done. We only have 24hrs in a day. That is not a lot of time to get everything that we need done. I hope that your schedule will lighten up so that you will be able to have more time for yourself.

nita04 I think it depends on what you have given up to help your family. I find it admirable for you to help support everyone but I don't know what personal sacrifices you make. I would listen to my heart and do what you personally feel is right rather than completely listen to your friends. All the best..God Bless..

Agreed, you have to take care of yourself before you can help your loved ones. By taking care of yourself, you will be stronger both physically and mentally and will be able to help your family in the way you want to help them.

But they are right. If you don't give time for yourself or don't put yourself in the focus ever, you are going to be burnt out and sour and basically you're never gonna be content. Everyone should understand that you've always helped out loads of people, now it's your time to have some fun.

you know, you can always have time for yourself without giving up support for your family. you can decide for yourself compromising your family. you are the one earning for them, so the decision should be from you. but of course you wouldn't make decisions that aren't good for them right? i appreciate persons who are very responsible to support their families. but it is not bad to think of yourself sometimes.

What your friends said is right nita, our personal life is important in connection with family, focus on yourself most and think on your family more. Good luck.

Your friends are right and you know it. Otherwise you would not have start this discussion. I don't know why you find it hard to think about yourself first, to set your own goals and work for that. Might be it is the way you are raised? Or perhaps you want people to like you more? But I can assure you, you can never keep everybody satisfied or help out everybody. Also.. one day you will feel empty since you can't help out others anymore.. nobody is there for you no matter how much you did invest in them. Family should be able to take care of themselves. Everybody is responsible for his/her own life and it's natural that if kids grow up they start a life of their own! You have to develope yourself, that is the meaning of life. Develope, grow, gather life experiences, live your own life. Make plans and only help out others after you helped out yourself first! If you want to change the world you should start with yourself.