Why Lover Creates Barriers To Their pair..???
By Dassodils
@Dassodils (2010)
India
December 5, 2012 12:10pm CST
hai dear friends...
I had seen many lovers.Love is a special feeling.But some times, I feel very bad by seeing them in some special times. The lover creates barrier in all matters.a lot of friends had told me about this same matter. The lover makes barrier in the matters that wearing modern dress,joining tour,having food,interacting with other people.I think that these all are important in a persons life. Love is good.But it should not affect to the other ones life.All of the people need some freedom in their life.So,they have to allow the people to do what they like.My lover always allows me to be in my own style.He will suggest me some opinions.He know the value of enjoying freedom.I like such people very much.Some time she will advice me to do anything.But also I like it.He is realizing me.I think that he will be a cute matching pair for me.He like to see my naughty character. I think that the reason why I love him is his caring and allowing me to enjoy the maximum limit of freedom.This is the first time that I meet such a lovable,sweet person.I also wish good partners for all my friends.I hope that god will help all of them..What is your opinion????As a Citizen every one need freedom.Do you agree with this?? Do you have sch experiences??? Please share...
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12 responses
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
7 Dec 12
Hi friend, Most of the lovers are very possessive about their pair and don't let them to do various activities mentioned by you. But they must change this activity and allow them as per their wish. Trust and understanding is important in love and we must give freedom to our lover. Good to know that your lover gives more freedom to you. Enjoy it with the limitation.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
7 Dec 12
Thank you dear friend.My lover gives me freedom so that I love him so much..The truth is he believes me. and do not think that I will do some bad things. You are right.but some times it becomes irritation.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
5 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Yes u are absolutely right, even i feel irritated when lovers have restrictions on several things. No doubt there should be certain limits but if those limits are too much which might endanger the relationship then there is no value in having those restrictions.
Each of them should enjoy the space between them and also the freedom given to them. This will help them think openly and there will be no scope for the development of the misunderstandings and tensions.
What say?
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
6 Dec 12
it is fascinating how you start all your comments with "thanks a ton..." you must be in the tonnage industry or something...just wondering, nothing important though.
i believe she is fortunate to have found a man like that. many persons would want to be in control. freedom for the partner is a foreign word not until much talking and arguments.
@sriroshan (2584)
• India
6 Dec 12
You mean to say some sort of restriction or barriers. I think it should be some sort of restriction. I had one friend and she was in love with the boy. She was happy go lucky type and likes to mixed up with other boys and also use to do social work. But seeing her mixing up with other boys and doing social work where she use to meet and help needy old aged people, he started asking her to stop what she is doing. But she took it lightly and once he shouted on her in front of other people who were in social work committee. To this at that point she remain quite and then she met him in person and asked " Who you are? Even my parent have never asked me to stop doing this social work. If you don't like I am doing this work then you are free to go in your way and I will go in my way. Good Bye".
Why I have mentioned the above story because being girl you should never bend in front of such a called Lover before he has become your partner. You too have got the respect in the society and you too have got the right to do what you have, that too within the limit
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
7 Dec 12
I think that what you have said is truly needed when you are in a relationship- that you do not lose your identity. Unfortunately, I did not enjoy much freedom like that. My boyfriend didn't allow me to go with my high school friends so I am literally detached from the group for more than 10 years. Thank God for Facebook that I am able to reconnect with them. Also, my boyfriend would always be keeping an eye on the clothes that I wear. I could not wear shorts, sleeveless shirts or tight-fitting blouses that would emphasize my chest. He always wanted my hair to be long and he doesn't want me to talk to guys.
@kokomo (1866)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Yes, you are absolutely right. You are very much lucky with your lover. He is very supportive with you. I always ask that character with my boyfriend. I am an outgoing person and I love to socialize and my boyfriend and I is a total opposite. He loves to be alone and just in his room all day long if he doesn't have work and if I ask him to allow me to go to a gathering or party, he got mad at me. Even if we are very distant with each other, he is still very strict. But it doesn't make any sense with me because I just do what I want. In fact, he cannot do nothing but to get mad and that's the start of our fight. I do not know why he cannot understand me.
@Ashokraghute (158)
•
22 Dec 12
Hi Dassodils,
It is true that most of the lovers,particularly boys put so many restrictions of girls. But, I as a question is it correct. It is true that Love is special feeling but at the same time it is confidence, faith & trust on each other. There must be this special feeling amongst each other that where the are they will be honest to each other no third person can come between them in their life. I hate putting any restriction of my love mate. If I put such restriction, then I do not trust her & I have no faith one her. If it is so, then I have no right to say that I Love her.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
6 Dec 12
The ‘possessiveness’ become the villain in love affairs usually. There might be a fear in mind of the youngsters he/she will loss the partner. I felt trust is the base and giving freedom is the best method to keep the love alive.
Same time I have seen some girls, they are very much sincere and sacrificing and they do not even ready to do anything against the wish of their love partner. There was a girl like that when I studied in college. After many years I met that ‘boy’ in a place unexpectedly. Surprisingly I learnt that they got married and living together. To be very frank I didn’t know that they were serious with their love. I remember the girl’s attitude in that time towards the guy and I am sure she is the best wife for him.
Same time I have seen some girls, they are very much sincere and sacrificing and they do not even ready to do anything against the wish of their love partner. There was a girl like that when I studied in college. After many years I met that ‘boy’ in a place unexpectedly. Surprisingly I learnt that they got married and living together. To be very frank I didn’t know that they were serious with their love. I remember the girl’s attitude in that time towards the guy and I am sure she is the best wife for him.
@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Dec 12
Freedom is very important and love is a specal feeling. I think it is VERRRRY important for two people to get to know eachother before they just into a relationship. And, if they don't know themselves, what they need and want in a relationship then it is going to be tough. Too many people jump into a relationship and just expect it to work without really knowing the other person very well at all. THen you are a year into it and find that this person isn't what you expected at all. It isn't fair. It takes time to get to know someone. I hope you will give this time and go slow. See if this guy remains loveable and sweet. Good luck!
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
6 Dec 12
Oh, he's so kind and understanding. Do you also give him his freedom to do what he wants? Like seeing or hanging out with his old friends or classmates, etc? For me, even if I allow him, most of his friends are in other place. I guess 5 to six hours away from us. He grew up there. I guess he couldn't hang out with them anymore unless he goes there in their reunions. He's a strict husband to me. I sometimes can't wear the clothes I want to wear and my time with my friends and relatives is restricted. :(
@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
5 Dec 12
I agree with you and am noticing/are aware of that already since years. Strange thing is at the moment people met they fall in love with that person the way she is (I say she since mostly it's the man who is trying to change her into the dull house wife). As soon they go steady something is changing (is it jealousy or?) and you have to change your clothes, you are not allowed to go out with your friends (esp. the opposite gender), etc etc. And the end of it is mostly the same: the one who wanted the partner to change is complaining that partner is dull, was way more interesting as they just met, etc.
Sorry but I find it also weird your lover suggest (???) you some opinions. Why suggesting you at all? You can advice someone if asked for but for some reason men also always seem to think you (women) are not able to decide themselves or if they tell something or share something they are asking for advice. I hope your lover will stay that way. Without freedom, respect and accepting your partner has a life, dreams, goals too, no relationship will last.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
6 Dec 12
Well in my opinion,I think everyone should respect others,so lover should respect their partner even more,if you really love her,just let her be herself,and what you should do is to support her.
@zzorro (1)
•
5 Dec 12
Because opposes the affair.
Besides the lover is always wanting to be like the wife.
People who love always has prepared a series of obstacilos in marriage relationship.
