Love vs. Obsession

Tweet

I always been curious what people understand by love. And where is the line they cross between love and obsession. I always tried to give myself a definition and I think I failed to do it. I have a personal opinion about the love-relationship dynamics that maybe it's not very common. I don't think romantic love is different in essence from other types of love. It's, maybe, a feeling that you put the other person equally as you put yourself on your priority list. So you may love more than somebody, but for a relationship you don't look only for love, but also for common values, compatibilities, a similar sexuality. There are so many details that could ruin a relatioonship, and it's better to avoid all the trouble if there are many signs it will not work out. But besides this... I also experimented some feelings, that some people might call love, but I refuse to do it. That kind of obsession with somebody that stirs you and troubles you in the same time. When you are the most happy person from the world when you are with him and the smallest change in his attitude to you gives you the deepest sorrrow. You can't refuse any of his wishes. You can't do anything else than silly smile. He has total control on your happiness, tranquility and living. Because you are just to trapped in his being. And you may not even like him as a human. But you look into his eyes and say "You are perfect... you are the Man". Do you think this is love? (I find it as a horrible obsession that anulles myself for nothing, for something that I don't understand. I can bear it sometimes - and there are wonderful moments - but I would die of all the intensity in a relationship). Would you want this kind of love in your relationship? What do you understand by love? And when is too much, if you think it can be?