Who wants to be pitied?

Plenty of people want to be pitied, esp. those who discovered that it's a way to get what you want, like money, food, clothes, shoes, etc. Many people make an income with that without the need to work. It's already ages like that. There are time to feel pity with one self or some other people should feel some compassion or pity with someone and help them out (it's better to help someone who is not asking for help as those who always are since they are selom in need). If a lot did happen to you, if you had a hard time, you should be allowed and allow yourself to feel sad, unhappy, pity yourself. Why? to get over it, to give it all a place. If you always stay strong, don't allow yourself to be weak, or feel the way you feel, it will eat you. I don't mean to say you have to allow yourself to suffer for the rest of your life or pity yourself for the rest of your life but there are times you need it to heal the "wounds". By experience I know that one can be too proud also. That if you don't allow yourself to ask for help or accept help you won't get it in the future either. Why? Because people will say you always managed so you will manage it on you own again. So one day you wake up and discover no matter how miserable you are there is nobody to turn to. Even not you helped out others for 30 years or longer.

I don't think that you can really respect someone if you pity them.

I'd rather see you get yourself out of whatever bad situation you have got yourself into. Unless you are ill then I can do nothing, again it's up to you to fight and take care of yourself and follow instructions and get well. But I will pity you if you are in pain or suffering.

Hi! Yes, no one wants that others should help them because they feel pity on us. Help should be genuine and from the heart. Having said that I feel your mothers had a point when she was trying to talk about your behaviour. Our friends/relatives etc. help us on reciprocal basis. Meaning thereby if we do not come to their rescue in their hour of need, they won't reach us when we need them badly. It is, therefore, maintaining good relations with others and this should be a conistent endevour. All the best.

Many people do not want to be pitied. To them this is demeaning. I think it is pride which makes people dislike being looked upon as someone who is not doing well and therefore should be pitied.

Yeah, I think no one likes to be pitied anyway. However maybe your mom meant that you should start to care to others because even though she said "pity" maybe what she meant that no one will care about you and help you. Now you're right that care because they care or out of pity is something different, but maybe your mom truly meant not "pity" but "care which is similar but different partly because when people care they will truly help the person they care about, while pity will make people just pitying that person and don't really do something to help or even help with half hearted efforts.

Can't talk about everyone but I personally don't like to be pitied or sympathized. I've seen some physically impaired people who do like to be sympathized, I'm not talking about everyone though. I've seen a lady who had a memory problem and she liked to be sympathized. Actually we all need sympathy at some point of our lives especially when we are not responsible for our misery. But in a more general context we should always try to be strong enough to not feel contempt in sympathies.

hi, of course no one would not wanted to pitied,of course even me don't like to show that pity attitude,i am a kind of person who have that personality too being an aloof,i want that people will see me as a confident like a fighter.its better to be like that rather than to be pity at all.

There are people out there though that DO want a pity party. They want people to feel negative and wallow in pain with them.