Partner telling you what to do

I can perfectly understand your annoyance. He seems to be treating you like a baby, needing to remind you all these things every time. It's as if he doesn't think you have a mind of your own. Anyone who is treated as if they don't have a mind of their own would be upset. But you can't take it all out on your boyfriend, because if you behaved carelessly or was forgetful in the past, then that would give him the very impression that you he can't trust you to do things on your own without his reminded. I believe your boyfriend cares for you but is also annoyed with your habits and your being forgetful. The only thing I can suggest is: you talk to him carefully about this. Tell him that you are independent and will try to do things based on your initiative without the need of him telling you what to do. Tell him to give you the opportunity to take your own initiative and doing things and tell him to stop bossing you. Tell him it will help you learn more to be learning taking the initiative on your own than him bossing around. Both of you just need patience. Hope that helped!

i think if that was me, and my partner would be talking to me like that, then i would probably too annoyed myself too. I think i do have had that a lot times with my boyfriend, but his was minor and i think he's learned to not do those things that annoy me. =) the incidents were those times he would ask me to get something without saying please! haha it bothered me because i felt as though he was just telling me to get things for him and it was not a request! so there i told him about that of course... and now he's really changed and improved much on that. i really understood that he was like that, because he was used to getting all the things he wants - being the only son, he gets everything. hehe and well at least now he's a bit different and i like it - we talk about the thing that bother us.

I had someone that thought they needed to tell me things like that and one day I got really annoyed and asked him if he thought I was stupid and let him know that I can certainly think for myself! He said he was trying to look out for my own best interests and I told him that is what my Mom was for when I was younger and now I use my own good old common sense, I can think for myself.

Sometimes it could really be so annoying, especially if you already knew what needs to be done and felt like as if something's wrong with you, lol. but anyways simple concerns like that should be appreciated, if done in a subtle way, and especially if there's a sweet smile after being told, lol.

This is nothing but they want to prove that they are concern about you very much and not only this this shows how they are particular about the things. I know this is very irritating one when somebody tell you do the things that you know or do almost everyday. I am sure almost all ladies who are in love or who are in relation or who are married must be getting such instruction or guidelines or reminder from their men

I should say the point is that you are a independent girl but your boyfriend still wants to treat you as a kid.If you argue with him,he may even feel wronged because he thinks all he does is out of concern,but how come you are not grateful for it and get annoyed about it. I suggest that you two should communicate with each other.You ought to let him know you are strong enough and can take good care of yourself.If you are in need of help,you will let him know.Or can he not be your teacher always,which will make you feel you are a useless person.Try to show your true feelings to him,if he is still stubborn to keep on,you should consider if he is the right person to you.

My friend does this!! It not only annoys me but it angers me. I feel by his statements that he is being inconsiderate, thoughtless and downright disrespectful. He also doesn't listen to what I say,then questions me about the issue I just told him about. Sometimes I want to slap him, sometimes I want to tell him I'm fed up with his stupidity. How do you get used to this horrible male trait. I will never be able to do it.

Hi! Your boy friend appears to be your concerned well wisher and he does not want that you should land in any unpleasant situation, therefore, he keep advising you. Take it on your stride and give him a patient hearing so that he could feel that he is being respected and acknowledged.

It is very annoying. While reading your post, I was thinking that it is a good thing he is only your boyfriend, not your hhusband. Unless he changes his tone, he is not very good husband material. I believe that your choices are: 1. Ignore him. 2. Tell him how annowing he is and start a fight. 3. Give him a dose of his own medicine. 4. Get rid of him.

ideally it should be bidirectional,getting tips from them on what to be done and what should not be and ways to help us and not get irritated or boiled down simply by mad remarks.just take it in the head and then grasp over it

You know, it really depends. If I want to make sure I don't forget to do something, sure I would let my partner know to remind me about it. If I am sure I will get something done, however, I don't like to be told and repeatedly. Your man doesn't sound like he's doing it on purpose to annoy you. You said yourself in your post he says "or you will forget like always." If you have a tendency to forget certain things, he simply is trying to make things easier for you. Don't be so harsh on him.

I agree. The attitude to always patronize from your partner or even rule must always prevail in every conversation, is also a great danger which threatens the harmonization life of the loving couple. It's rare for loving couple to still love each other when one always want to win, wanted to be obeyed, not to be denied. Occasionally accept, that there are mistakes they have made and do not always answer every question with a simple sentence length with a high tone as well. Too much talking is also very annoying. It is better to act than just talk a lot.

It was embarrassing he feels that he is taking care of you, at every step, but your feeling that you already know what to do for you, it seems to me your are a matured thinker but your partner didn't identified, that is the reason he gives advice to you for small things. Tell him that you know what to do, and you can take care of yourself. This may bring a change in both of you.

Do you want a relationship with someone in which you have equality? Sounds like he is dominating you. He is fussing over you and treating you like a child. It is generally annoying. You may not be able to stop him from always reminding you to do things. I think it is time to sit him down and had a long talk with him, instead of just getting annoyed at him. Tell him that when he becomes a dad, then he can remind his own children but that you are NOT his child. Somehow, you need to get in control of this situation or it will drive you both crazy.

Personally, it isn't what is said. But how it is said to me. If it is meaningful advice, and has sencerity behind it. I welcome it with open arms. But it has a tone like it must be done or implies I am stupid. Than there is a problem.

In matters that affect both my husband and I, we work together and come to an agreement. On issues that affect only one of us, the other may give imput if asked, but ultimately it's up to the individual involved. Also, there is no attitude in these conversations. That is to say, when we speak to each other, we speak with respect.

It is just you. He probably thinks he is helping you by reminding you what you do plan to do. It is as guy thing. Most men are like that.

I know this is annoying because I am often tell my partner what to do your discussion make me realize that I have to let him just the way he want to

Please don't take it seriously, most men are like that, he loves you hence said this. THANKS FOR SHARING.

Yeah that is annoying. I had started a conversation about my husband doing this. He usually tries to do it with bigger things. It is my decision and my life and I want to make my own decisions. For example I don't want to have anymore children so I have the right to make that decision since it is my body. Let him know how you feel about what he is doing.That you will make decisions yourself. And like you mentioned that it is your responsibility.I feel the same way about my decisions and chose.