Do you think birth order makes a difference with your personality?
By Nursefrai06
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
Penrith, Australia
January 6, 2013 3:25am CST
Some people say that when you're a middle child, you automatically become the problem child or the "black sheep" of the family. While when you are the eldest child you are the most responsible one. Being the youngest child however makes you the spoiled one.
They even make a fuss on their compatibility. Like for example, if you're the eldest child, it's better for you to marry someone who is the youngest child and vice versa.
There are so many stereotypes on children's roles. Do you think there are some truths to these? If you are the eldest child, would you consider only marrying youngest children? If you are the youngest child, would you consider having an eldest child as a standard for choosing them as your partner? Are middle children really the problem children?
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5 responses
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
6 Jan 13
I don't think there any truth to it. I"m the youngest of my family and I"m anything but not spoiled. I didn't get everything I want and I go the same treatment as my brothers. My oldest brother he wasn't that responsible he is actually the least responsible of us till he got married to his second wife and she is also the oldest of her family. My other brother well he is the middle child and he doesn't have the middle child systerom. Now my husband he was the oldest of his family and he was always treated as the problem child.
Now to me who I married it didn't matter if they where the oldest or the youngest I don't think it would make that much of a difference at all. My husband still acts like a child. We do have two kids. Our daughter is the oldest and our son is the youngest as of right now.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
7 Jan 13
That's good to hear that there is variation in the stereotypes they say. I am a middle child and I hate people that think I'm a problem child and that I'm the family's blacksheep, I do my beat to prove them wrong but all the names stick to just because of family order, it's not fair. Anyway thanks again for this, take care
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jan 13
Now that is just silly for people to judge someone because of there birth order. Maybe they don't know what it's like to have cool parents that treat everyone the same.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
9 Jan 13
They probably don't, I understand that maybe they just use this as a conversation starter, but I find it rude that it's what comes to their mind immediately after they find out that I am a middle child. I dont think it's in any way my fault that I was born this way. Indidnt choose this too. I kinda wish people would just quit it sometimes.
@Professor2010 (20156)
• India
10 Jan 13
No i don't agree, though it is true that as the eldest in the family i have to share more responsibility when other brother was young, i am proud for what i did for my family.Thanks for sharing
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
10 Jan 13
Yeah, most eldest children are expected to take care of their younger siblings, maybe that's what makes them the responsible ones. :) perks of being the eldest then, you tend to be more systematic with life. :)
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
6 Jan 13
I was the firstborn and am the only one of my siblings who takes responsibility for anything. My sister was after me and she was always the black sheep. My brother was the baby and now in his 40's he still acts like one. It's the same way with my kids. My older daughter takes responsibility, my middle daughter has always been the black sheep and my son...my precious son will always be a baby to me!
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
I don't think that what you have said could be true. Although maybe there would be coincidences among a few people. But that is not the case in my family nor in my husband's family. I think that the personality of each person differs which is affected by their relationship to their family themselves and to their environment.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
7 Jan 13
They are just stereotypes after all. I honestly don't want to believe them especially that they have really bad connotations on middle children. No one would want to believe that they're the black sheep or the problem child. I'm happy about testimonies such as this that go against what people judge others with. Thank you so much for this.
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
The birth order of a child doesn't determine if he will become the black sheep or a big leader someday.
It's actually how she was brought up by his/her parents that more or less hones what he will become someday.
I am the eldest and so is my husband. Although he is six years younger than me we are both responsible people. We both want a clean surrounding always. And we always make it a point to be prepared the night before of what we will use and carry on our work the next day. 
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
7 Jan 13
Wow, that's very nice to hear, it's actually surprising that you have so much in common and that you are able to work it out even though your birth orders aren't what the stereotypical masses would suggest, I agree with the upbringing though, it will depend on how the children are raised. it must have been that the way children were raised had similarities thus the birth of the stereotypes. Thanks or this response.
