As much as possible I don't want to react and get angry...

Anger wont resolve any situation, try to investigate what is the reason behind and solve it with calmness and right solutions. Do not be stressed with things in life. It is how you see things, and try seeing it in the positive perspective and all will be fine and smile! wee!

It's a psychological phenomenon that when people get angry, they tend to act in the way they can make others angry or upset, too. Everybody cannot hold their emotions all the time, but it seems that somebody can hold it all the time:) We are not those "somebody", so try to concentrate on your own business, let your ears be deaf, let your eyeview limited only to the screen, let your heart purified as a child. Life is gonna be much easier and pleasant:)

I have been in that situation a lot of times. It was my mother in law ranting about her other grandson who is in his teens and is of course, most of the time out of the house and comes home late. I don't know what s with her, but she would always call me up and tell me these things about his grandson. Also, if there are proven issues about him, my mother in law would always be saying that maybe her other grandson in envious of my eldest son. blah blah blah

airasheila This sounds like the age old story of the man who can't shout at his boss so he goes home and kicks the dog.. Point is sometimes when one can't express anger at the source of their anger, they take it out somewhere else..and often at an innocent bystander. Sounds like that is what is going on in the family you describe. My advice is to remain detached as much as possible and not get sucked into the drama. One has choice of how they will think and react and although it's hard to do and requires a lot os self control, no one can MAKE you angry without your permission...

Hello Ai ! Yes don't counter his emotions , you have done the right thing instead keep away from him and do something enjoyable and productive . There is no point in listening to his murmurs , you'll get nothing from it but all negative , if you will talk with this man while he is still in height , it is so futile for he will not listen to any explanation or reason . All in his mind now is he is mad , he is the right ! If his murmurs can't be tolerated and can really fire you then better leave for awhile , keep a distance then talk to him if he already subsided . A wrong can never be corrected by another wrong thing. You have just done the perfect thing. Have blessed Sunday..

Anger wont resolve any situation, try to investigate what is the reason behind and solve it with calmness and right solutions. Do not be stressed with things in life. It is how you see things, and try seeing it in the posistive perspective and all will be fine and smile! wee!

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well yes emotions have to be handled and take care of properly for sometimes they never go in our favor and by the time we realize its too late. We are the owner of our feelings and emotions and hence we should not allow it to take control over us in anyway. What say?