I Was Shocked..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi, Normally people blame others when they don't like something. Here also, think that when she gone with the guy, she was well aware that 'something' is going to happen and she also wished to go for it. She had an interest and intention to do whatever they shared and I am sure that she might have enjoyed it and she had a silent wish/desire/interest to do so. If she was not supported it could hot have happened. Ok, he might have initiated or asked her about it and if she was not at all interested, such an incident were not taken place. That means, which is happened with her full support and intention and she really wanted to do it. This is one side of the story. So, from the above it is clear that whatever is happened with a clear intention from both the boy and girl. Also, she like in whatever they have done and that is why she don't have complaints on him. As long as she don't have the complaint we should understand that she might have enjoyed the life with him and she was in need of it for whatever reason. We may think that it is so humiliating and an absolute injustice and cheat, for her it is nothing, but she enjoyed the life as is she wished. Again, such things are not a rare thing and happening around in millions of cases every day. People goes for such things for various reasons and all are different with person to person. Some people think it is a sin where as some are considered just like having a cup of tea and nothing more. All are depend on how we see the matter and how important for such things in our life. However, if a girl is so particular about herself, she need to think before going it and once happend something, there is no point in blaming any one, at any reason. In the life around us, the education system, s*xual awareness, our view on s*x and our family atmosphere etc. has major role in a girl's life cirucumstances. Mainly, our youner girls are not properly guided on s*x and a scientific approach is not yet emerged in schools or colleges. Movies, films, TV programs, and our social surroundings are much helpful for them to think on their own way and their concept would be not mature at their younger ages. None of the people (except mother) are influenced on her bodily matters and and our yonger generation won't accept the morale from their elders or parents. And that is another reason for such a situation. You said, you feel like finish him. But the fact is that in this case, both have equal responsibility and from your words what I understand is that she has enjoyed on whatever she experienced and if you know her personally, advise her not to go for a 2nd chance as there are possibility is more with this girl. Now, fortunately she is still lucky from all other problems and ask her to keep confidential about it for a better tomorrow. Lastly, if I were in such a situation, I never trust a boy on such matters. If I have some kind of interst on it, I will definitely enjoy and will not make any blames on anyone. Also, we are living in such a world where we have the full freedom and nothing is sin. Do whaterver I like, but no harm to anyone. This is my principle. If I do something and if it hurts someone, I will not go for it. Here also, if the girl like it and if I also have the same though, there is no harm in going for it and this will be pure and intentional. But we need to think all facts as we all re part of a society and it should not hurt anyone in any manner. If it happens, it is better to not to go for it. Anyway, we cannot be so impatiant, if both the parties have enjoyed their life. If you know her, better to advise her that do not go for a next chance as this will spoil her future and life and even her loved one also. I am not supporting him but just think how it will happen if she don't agree to it. Now think whether he only a culprit or both have the same responsibility.

So sad!! I will support her and not to the likes of him..hope he gets his punishment..

Love and like cannot taken by force. If the boy does not love that girl then better to let him go. If she forced him to love her and make a life with him, it will be like a hell. I think the girl is sincere with her love and that may be the reason she allowed him to make use of the opportunity. It was her mistake. If she didn’t made that mistake the boy should be with her even now. Hope she would have learned from her mistake. In case of supporting – nobody support such boys but my suggestion is girls should be wise enough to avoid such situations in life and protect themselves from cheaters.

Thanks for sharing, i am shocked too.

well, if both wanted to do it then why did she regret that she lost virgin? I don't think a man has a fault in here since she didn't mention that she is raped. Her life is not only a virginity, then she should be ok with what she did, accept it and move forward...

Poor girl, i feel sad about her especially that virginity is so important especially in your culture. I've heard that when one loses their purity outside marriage, she is automatically considered a $lut or someone who is indecent even though in truth she really is just a nice innocent girl. Its sad how she lost her purity at such a young age when young men aren't even in the mode for finding serious long term relationships. Things just happen in our lives, we can't really control it. Somehow, something will happen again and the problem will pass. Nothing is permanent in this world, not even problems. It too shall pass. Dont worry, the person were talking about, she will find love again.

Did she allow it to happen or was she forced into it? If she allowed him to become that intimate with her, then, why would she need to bother him again if the guy no longer shows up? Not unless she got pregnant, then you can run after him for support for the child. Otherwise, she should just leave the guy alone. He is not worth it. She just needs to be sure that next time, she knows better how to deal with the situation.

Actually, she only have to blame herself for losing her purity. Had she denied her boyfriend with that, then it should have been intact and would not grieve when she breaks up with him. She would have been so proud that even if they broke up, she's still pure.

hi, if i am in her situation yes i can cry as i wanted to release all pain i feel but after that i will moving on and think positively that there is someone who will more deserving for me,i will not waste my time to grief and sad because of that guy.

Hi friend, sad to hear about her story. Both of the persons are responsible for the mistake. Your friend must be very careful about her virginity, but she lost it with a wrong person. Anyway she found that he is not a correct person, as you mentioned she still loves him, i think she is interested with him. There is nothing wrong in conveying this news to his parents and seek justice from them.

Well, I think, if what is over than it's over. If I am her friend, I will just advice her to move on even if her virginity was already lost. She will not do anything about that anymore. Just be careful next time and choose the man she will love, the man who will not left him and will take advantage of her weakness. I know that virginity is a treasure for us girls but I do not think that killing her boyfriend is the solution. Just leave it all to "karma".