Dealing with evil people....
By ctryhnny
@ctryhnny (3460)
United States
February 19, 2013 7:46am CST
I really can't think of anyone I've ever met that I didn't at least get along with and like as a person. I'm a very easy going person and love MOST people. Now my son has a mother in law who is just full of evilness. She seems to make it her job to disagree with every little thing I say. She says she's very religious but it seems she is religious only when it suits her. She loves to rub it in when she is asked to babysit knowing I live ten minutes away and should be asked first since she lives 3 hours away and has to stay overnight when she sits for them. She is 10 years younger than me and loves to bring that fact up in front of other people. It doesn't bother me that I'm 65 and expect respect from people younger than me. I've had to delete her from my fb friends because of the nasty remarks she used to leave on my page. When I'm in her company I have to be very careful not to say anything when she starts in on me. Thankfully if my son hears it he will say something to her since he doesn't like her either. Her own daughter really doesn't like her but you can tell she just tolerates her. She is so bad that during the bad experience her daughter had giving birth the hospital staff actually threw her out of the hospital! She has a boyfriend who is ugly as sin and her daughter doesn't' like at all but she constantly brings up that I have no boyfriend and if I had to settle for hers I would rather be alone. How would you handle a woman like this? Do you speak up or let it go to keep the peace?
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@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
19 Feb 13
I also know people like this and it is sad that that they are like that but in my case the person has now passed on as for what you say we should always respect others no matter if they are younger or older then us and they don't have a right to but into our lifes and no matter if you have a lover or not it is outright none of her business if she continues have a chat with your son and tell him if she stays on this path you would be having a talk with her and telling her to stay out of your life wish you the best good luck
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@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I have repeatedly asked her to stay out of my business. According to her she isn't doing or saying anything wrong. From now on I just ignore her and my son has told me time and time again that she's an ignorant, rude person and do as I am by ignoring her. Let her say what she wants they are only words. (but I want to punch her sometimes..lol)
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@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
19 Feb 13
hitting her will only land you in jail so best to just stay out of her way and you be the better person
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@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
19 Feb 13
She sounds like a rather ugly person to say the least. It's hard to suggest what a person should do because we all don't have to be in her company as you do.
There was one person that was just out right nasty every time I saw them. Found that staying calm, cool and collected tested my patience to the end; but it did work to my benefit in the long run.
Wish you luck there, truely do. It's not easy to be around difficult people but you can be thankful that she lives 3 hours away!
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
19 Feb 13
I'm not one to sit back and ignore remarks, especially if they are stabbing remarks. I like to play games with people like that. When she talks about babysitting tell her she is very lucky and agree with her all the way. When she talks about how she has a boyfriend and you don't, agree with her and tell her AGAIN how lucky she is. Just reverse the situation and when she see's it doesn't bother you, she'll stop. She's only doing it because she KNOWS it bothers you.
What I don't understand is if they don't like her so much, why do they have her babysit so often? And why was the party at her house and not yours? They must like her a lot more than you think. She lives really far away and you are only 10 minutes away, so I don't get it. Plus, they have her sleep over. 
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@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
19 Feb 13
It seems like my son leaves the babysitting job up to his wife and if she just mentions the need for a sitter to her mother she insists on doing it and of course she has to stay there because she lives so far away. My son for some reason really lets his wife 'wear the pants' in the family and he doesn't have much say in anything. I have no idea why the party was there but think it might be because she has more relatives there thus being able to have more people at the party. I can see her point there!
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
19 Feb 13
She doesn't sound evil. She sounds boring and poorly educated. Or, in other words, she sounds like someone I wouldn't have space for at my table unless I was in a very charitable mood.
I generally don't have to deal with such people anymore. I have made a point of not living near relatives, and our regular social circle pretty much only includes people with a B.A. or higher. Oh, who am I kidding? It only includes people with a B.A. or higher.
She's your son's mother-in-law. Your interactions with her should be limited. She wouldn't get to you so much if you felt that you had more going for you in your life.
When I do have to deal with such people, I don't have to feel in competition with them. There is simply no competition. They are flailing in a puddle, and I am swimming along like a mermaid in a decent-sized lake. What competition can there be?
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@meumeu25 (913)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Feb 13
I'm sorry to hear your story, when I encounter people like this I just pretend that they don't exist, and in my young age I already encountered a lot, I thought this behavior only occurs to young people who are disrespectful and attention seeker. Maybe the saying, getting old is inevitable but growing up is, is true after all. 
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
19 Feb 13
I am in a similar situation with my sister-in-law and have been for 8 years! I, in the beginning, defended myself...but now I do not, as I just can't, in all honesty stoop to that level! Her denigrations, to me seem childish and immature! Goes to all lengths to promote "anything you can do, I can do better!" And sadly, this is one of the few times I find my son, with no backbone..so rather than accentuate the situation...I ignore, and surprisingly enough, now that she seems to be coming to her senses, somewhat..she is doing less and less to ruffle my feathers.
I am not at all proporting my actions...I am simply saying that in my circumstances, it seems to have alleviated some of the familial strife! Not being able to wrankle me seems to have toned her down!
Best of luck...and yes, I am your age, and I thought before this, I had fought all the battles I needed
to, in life! @shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
22 Feb 13
me to we are got them in ever family she could of say no but me want to put that in ur head find some one eles to babty sit that is and say nothing but when ppl do it to me i just walk away
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
21 Feb 13
I believe evil do exist and you have one arround you. It's good you deleted her from your fb because she's only a stress for you. I understand why her daughter tolerates her, because if someone respond to her, she responds back with so much stress so she'd rather ignore her. Maybe you should stop or avoid her too before you lose your patience for her and it might just a big problem for both families if you are stepping down to he level.
@Laurenlynn (712)
• Canada
23 Feb 13
Oh my dear sweet person,I can really relate to you people can be hateful and hurtful,trust me when I say as hard as it is, be the bigger person. I have went through almost the same situation as you and it can hurt! I have found that what will really make people back off is to love them even more. I know this may sound crazy but for me it has worked. Just be your loving self and they eventually see that their smart remarks are not effecting you. I always found it is how we react if they think they have upset us they will continue,but if you just let it go for some reason they will hopefully treat you better. I hope this helps none of us should let people rob us of our joy!
