do you like being critical...or reciprocal?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (15934)
Philippines
April 22, 2013 12:37am CST
What do you feel when you see your brother going out with friends whom you consider bad company? OR what comes to your mind when your mother cooks a dish that you hate eating? Almost always you will feel CRITICAL.
Dictionary defines "critical" as "given to judging or finding fault." Feeling critical is almost normal; every home or family members goes through some situation where someone becomes displeased with every body else.
there are two common ways of criticizing. BACKBITING is attacking somebody who is not present. FAULTFINDING is the destructive habit of pointing out weaknesses and faults in another person, especially those which are just petty. these two not only hurt family members but also do damage to the one who fosters it.
3 responses
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I hate myself sometimes, because i cannot control it to be critical, when i see or hear a thing that is gross or really wrong.
For me, i feel guilty if i would not say a word when i see something so wrong.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
good day to you cherigucchi,
with reference to your post, honestly, i am trying to rephrase words before saying it as i don't want to hurt others' feelings. thus, thinking first what to say rather than giving my outright comment which is not pleasing to the ear. hence, i believed that it is amiable to express polite words as well as to hear it from others.
@fatimaobien (156)
• Philippines
22 Apr 13
I want to be honest but kind. Like for example, if mom's cooking is not that good, I can say, "Mom, i think there is something lacking in this. Maybe adding this may improve." Rather than outrightly say, "It sucks". If I need a deeper and longer discussion on some issue, I need the proper forum like dialogue or meeting and open the topic politely. I don't need to be brutally frank and hurt people. Neither I need to flatter the. It is a matter of choosing the right word and the right time and place so we can discuss things properly without hurting other.
