Buried in the wrong spot!
By Sandy KS
@rusty2rusty (6771)
Defiance, Ohio
September 9, 2015 11:15am CST
My Uncle Robert died last year. He had a plot already purchased before his death. Come to find out, the graveyard buried him in the wrong spot.
If it was your family, would you have the graveyard fix their error? Would you sue for grievance being a year later and it still not done? How would you handle this?
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
9 Sep 15
That is totally wrong.
I hope someone got some compensation for it Sandy.
My cousin had to move her sons grave as vandals vandalized it.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
9 Sep 15
Nothing right now. I am going to help mom to see what can be doen about it. I plan to be there for when the graveyard moved my Uncle to his final resting spot. As I fear they may change the headstones but not really the coffins.
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@TiarasOceanView (70020)
• United States
9 Sep 15
@rusty2rusty Yes good thinking Sandy..wouldnt trust them now.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
10 Sep 15
@TiarasOceanView I don't trust them at all. It really bother me they did this.
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@GardenGerty (169439)
• United States
9 Sep 15
I think it would depend on if there was a family grouping, and if he was included in any part of it. If the place he is buried is actually a plot purchased by someone else this could turn into a serious problem for more than one family. I would ask them to fix it, in no uncertain terms.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
10 Sep 15
He was suppose to be buried in the family plot. Instead his plot sits empty. As he was buried somewhere else. I am not sure if it was someone elses plot or not. I think he needs placed in the family plot that was bought for him. He doesn't deserve to be alone like that. His grave should be peaceful not upsetting. ultimately I am leaving it up to my mother. As it was her brother. I will do what she chooses.
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@AmbiePam (120606)
• United States
11 Sep 15
If they remedied the problem with no extra cost, I would let it go. If they didn't do it as soon as they realized their mistake then I say all bets are off. I might not sue, but I think anyone would have a justification for doing so. I would probably go to the local media, and they love stories that expose people into fixing their wrongs. I think the negative publicity would hurry things a long. I would hope so, at least!
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Sep 15
The place is willing to fix their mistake. They also have no issue with mom and I being their watching while they fix their mistake. We do not plan to sue. Getting a hold of the media sounds like a good interest story if nothing more.
@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Sep 15
Mom wants him moved to the family plot. The place is ready to do that. We do not want someone who is family placed in our family plot. All the graves were previously bought up. So, we can be placed together.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Sep 15
After a years time, the place is willing to fix the mistake. I can't wait til it is done.
@yukimori (10193)
• United States
9 Sep 15
You know, I was peeved when I contacted the cemetery my dad's buried at and didn't hear back from them regarding replacing the vase on his headstone...
I think I'd be more forgiving of something like this if it was a plot I'd picked out, or if I knew for a fact that the deceased wasn't strongly in favor of being buried exactly in that spot. If it was something the deceased had specifically chosen? You bet I'd be strongly encouraging the cemetery to fix the error in a timely manner.
I'd probably start off with a strongly worded letter, then go from there. I can understand not taking care of the matter immediately to some extent, and if they wanted to wait until they had the equipment present to open another grave I could tolerate waiting. But to put the matter off for a year? That doesn't seem reasonable to me.
I don't get why they wouldn't be willing to deal with the matter, though. Doesn't the plot they used belong to someone else? Wouldn't they prefer to straighten matters out before they're making an already emotional situation worse for another family, too?
I bet the local news station would love a story like this.
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@owstalaga (4825)
• Philippines
9 Sep 15
Oh that's a terrible error of the people supposed to be responsible for graves. I would be angry of course and have them fix it as soon as I realize it no matter how late it's been. What, I was grieving right so maybe I might not notice it plus they are the ones who should know which and where a body should lie too before having anyone buried in it.
@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
10 Sep 15
I was not may aware of the mix up at first. I am trying to help my mom get it fixed.
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@Rollo1 (16676)
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Sep 15
I think it would depend on where he was supposed to be and where he ended up. If he had a nice plot under a shady tree next to his beloved wife but was stuck in a crowded location with a bunch of other people, then I might want to make them move him. In any case, his estate should get paid back for whatever he paid that was more than what he got.
@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
10 Sep 15
He was moved across the road from his family plot. His plot was bought years ago. It sits empty. Not sure why they didn't bury him in it.
@Carmelanirel2 (8085)
• United States
11 Sep 15
I don't think I would sue and I'm sure the cemetery would be happy to correct their mistake, especially if the plot he is in is another's plot.
@jstory07 (148720)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Sep 15
i would make them move him to where he is suppose to be.
@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Sep 15
That is what we are doing. I believe he deserves to be buried in the family plot that was paid for.
@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Sep 15
That really depends on personal beliefs. Some people believe a person spirit will not rest til they are at peace in their final resting spot. He knew where he was suppose to be buried. He bought he plot. He deserves to be buried in his family plot. Among his family. Not a half mile across the road. My mom wants him moved. The cemetery is willing to fix their mistake.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Sep 15
@jaboUK I think everything will work out in the end. Just takes some time.
@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
11 Sep 15
We have decided we are not suing. As the place finally agreed to move him. It has been a long and stressful process. At least they are willing to move him now.
