Get married without love
By srisahara
@srisahara (4508)
Indonesia
October 23, 2015 12:52am CST
What is your opinion about a loveless marriage that occurred between the two brides. Perhaps their marriage because of an arranged marriage or any other agreement. Could they build in love after they get married.
Is this condition threatens them fall to divorce? Please give your opinion. Thank you ...
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7 responses
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
23 Oct 15
Many countries arrange marriages for their children. I think they learn to live with it after awhile and a lot of women just have kids early on so they have someone to love. This is their way of live and I might not agree with an arranged marriage it still happens. I respect all cultures and their ways and this just happens to be one of their ways. It happens quite a bit. They think it helps to protect their daughter. They are right on this one. In these countries thee isn't so many rapes on women and women to have a lot more protection from their families.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 15
You are right, for a certain community arranged marriage become a common thing and get married without love has also become a regular thing, but not for other people. arranged marriage into something forced and get married without love is something painful.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
23 Oct 15
@srisahara Yes I know this happens a lot in certain cultures and the women are helpless to do anything about it. I feel for them but this is their religion and their culture and it has been like this forever. How can you change this now. I don't think anyone can.. Not unless you can figure a way to leave your country to go to school someplace else and stay there and fall in love and get married for the right reason. I don't think this one happens a lot either.
@LeaPea2417 (40020)
• Toccoa, Georgia
27 Oct 15
It depends on the situation. I think some arranged marriages can lead to love and work out well.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
28 Oct 15
One of some situations that influence of married without love is culture of community that arranged marriages can lead to love and work out well. Thank you on your opinion.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 15
I agree with you, get married without love is a hurt thing. Imagine, a couple that get married with love can divorced after they pass some years of their marriage. So, what about a couple who get married without love...
@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
24 Oct 15
I think it depends not only on the individuals in the marriage but the culture they are from. In some places, it is the norm and many arranged marriages turn into love over time.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 15
Yes, you are right. Culture in a community often play important role than an individual choice. So, somebody can not avoid a culture that develop in their community, if they take different behavior of the culture maybe they can't live comfort.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
23 Oct 15
I think arranged marriages last longer than free love marriages.
At least both parties are committed to the marriage, and they never think about getting divorce.
I think in a marriage, romantic love is not as important as responsibility, commitment and frugal budgeting.
Many marriages break up because of money issue, though they both claim to still love each other.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 15
I don't agree with you that romantic love is not as important as responsibility, commitment and frugal budgeting. Because responsibility, commitment and frugal budgeting without love is something that presses a couple, although there are many marriages break up because of money issue.
@Tita417 (1228)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
24 Oct 15
I think they can if they are willing to try. If that is the custom in your country. I know a friend of mine married to someone that she never knew but she married him because of family tradition and they are doing fine.The only person who coud decide about tis is the bride herself. I fhse wants to follow her parents or not.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 15
Yes, you are right, we can do if we believe we can do. Everything depends on the intention and the will to achieve what we want to. Thank you for your respond. I love it.
