Grandma staying permanently
By LK2018
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
Philippines
November 6, 2015 10:10am CST
I've been baffled with a lot of worries lately, and distractions. And this is one of them, It seems that my grandma is truly coming home this month, permanently Though it's never been a problem with taking care of the elderly before, it's just that my grandma can be a bit demanding and expensive to things. Not to mention, she orders around like she owns the house, though they are good sides of her, Her last visit or any of her previous visits weren't something I want to look forward to. It has something to do with the fact she had upset every single relative abroad that she decided to come here instead. She claimed she wants to die and be buried here, but seriously i don't think she's ready to die with the attitude that she has. My moms okay since she doesn't bother much the way I do but grandma ponders a lot much and bothers almost everything I do.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
I don't know but I have told her what i feel about it. Last time they were here, they thought were rich and can buy anything we want, which is the opposite of our situation because were still paying a heck ton of bills. With her around, there's going to be more and more expenses.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
@rakski well, lots of foods to eat like a buffet and more tissue paper, as what she calls it.
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@rakski (156260)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
@Letranknight25 you mean she wants to buy a lot of stuff even at an old age? Oh my. Maybe your parents should to grandma and explain the situation to her. In that way, she will not be demanding too much.
@rakski (156260)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
Grandmas are like that because they like attention. Due to their old age and the fact that everyone has their own life now and not giving much attention to them causes them to be like that. And warn you, they are sensitive too. Since we Filipinos are close kin, i suggest you go with the flow with her rather than arguing. It will put you more burden if you will go against her will. BUT it does not mean you agree,meaning that will be your decision. You will just have to please her so that it will not cause you trouble at the same time you will not come home with a grumpy grandma.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
I wish she was like any other grandma, but she's not. in fact, the real reason she's coming home because every one hates her there because of the things she had said or how her relatives spread rumors about she thought of her friends. well, she will be needing my care now and ever.
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@rakski (156260)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
@Letranknight2015 good thinking for you. she needs you now more than ever. well just try to be more patient.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
Well, that was easy before but now she's gonna stay here permanently, @scheng1. I hope things would still be quiet even though she's here, it's just that the last time she was here, it was definite trouble for mom.
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@xstitcher (39011)
• Petaluma, California
7 Nov 15
My grandmother lived with my mother and I after my Dad passed away. :) It was for the last few years of her life -- she lived to be almost ninety-two.
When you get older you tend to be very set in your ways. ;)
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
I wonder what would myself be like when I reach that age, If i were going to reach that age. well, there's no going if i worry too much. might as well be with her until her time comes.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Nov 15
@Letranknight2015 In that scenario, I think, you guys should give her some good time. At least, she will have some peace of mind at her age.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
7 Nov 15
She had supported for as far as she could. In fact, she's the reason why we have a business. so i guess it's logical that this time we give her care in return since she's getting old.
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@vickyrose (2236)
• Cooma, Australia
8 Nov 15
@Letranknight2015 Yes, that's logical. Make sure that you have a life too, I know that they can really be demanding and engaging. Sometimes they sleep a lot. You won't be able to control her behavior but you can adjust yours towards her. I see that you are quite compassionate and keep it up.
@the_thinker (340)
• India
6 Nov 15
@letranknight2015 Sir / Ma'am, you should be happy that your grandma is coming. Do not panic.
We do not even know in our childhood, our grandparents tolerate us better than our own parents. They care and love us much better than our own parents. It doesn't look ethical to behave like this. Try to understand her point as well. It is likely that she can foresee that future which you cannot.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
6 Nov 15
No, you don't know her at all. I doubt she foresee a future were she has to come home since no ones taking care of her there now a days. I don't understand what you mean unethical to behave on something? sorry but I don't feel comfortable her coming home permanently, thats' it!
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@the_thinker (340)
• India
7 Nov 15
@Letranknight2015 Sir / Ma'am. But, she is old, so it is better you talk to other family members who shall find a way out rather than giving a shut door to your grandmom.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Nov 15
Having experience something very similar with an aunt of mine, I am sure that this is nosy and annoying, but then, she is your grandma and things can be resolved for good.
Maybe you should have a discussion with mom first about the whole thing. Many problems do happen because we do not feel like discussing them out with the people who can make a difference.
Another darker approach - stay to yourself and avoid getting too friendly with the grandma. And if needed, let her know you are grown up and you need your space. (I know, this is being rude, but then, when things are getting complex, this can be a last resort thing).
@vickyrose (2236)
• Cooma, Australia
8 Nov 15
My mother was like that when she approached old age. She must be obsessed with you.
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
9 Nov 15
No, i don't think so. it's more like she just wants to do things her way in order, but this is not her house and i hope she doesn't make changes or something. well, i hope she had change when she come home.
