I Just See Red!
By Catherine
@bluesa (15022)
Johannesburg, South Africa
December 11, 2015 6:52am CST
I have a temper, yes, and when I see even a hint of bossiness I see RED! I can't stand bossy people, to me they are bullies with a veneer of fake sweetness! I have always beat my own drum, gone my own way, I will not be led around by the nose.
In fact, someone get's bossy with me, I thumb my nose at them. Who gives anyone the right to tell people what they should do? Or how they should do things?
Just because I like doing things a certain way it doesn't give me the right to tell people to do things that way too!
I have no problem with a friendly suggestion from people I care about, now and then, it can show they just care.
But, if someone wants to remain anonymous, it is their right! If someone doesn't want to reveal their gender, it is their right!
To question, push or nag at a person to conform to your idea of how things should be, or into revealing something about themselves they didn't feel they needed to share in the first place, is wrong! Right?
Why can't everyone just live and let live already? And what infuriates me even more, is people flock to these bossy people.
They see a do this, or this is how things should be done, and there they are, happily being told what to do, what to conform to. I will ignore a bossy person flat, I have no time for them.
Then again, I suppose there are those people who like to be told what to do and be bossed around. It takes all kinds.
Anyway, I have vented here, because someone I care about was made to feel they needed to prove they are what they say they are. Because certain people feel they have the right to tell people that unless they are doing things their way, they are doing it wrong.
I will now count to ten, stick my head in the freezer, and then go about my day. I sincerely hope everyone enjoys the weekend ahead.
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@DaddyEvil (174277)
• United States
15 Dec 15
Okayyy! The first post I read from you has to be a rant??? I wouldn't have guessed it from the title, although on second thought, THAT should have crossed my mind! (I assumed you were going to tell us about something else, interesting.
Yes, I was mildly upset over Janet feeling she needed to "prove" she was a woman. I thought she made it very plain simply with what she said... In many of her posts, she talks about being a mother and about her husband... I believe her bio actually says she has been married to a wonderful man for however many years?
Good rant with a good reason for it! You go, girl!
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@DaddyEvil (174277)
• United States
17 Dec 15
@bluesa 
I would never call anything I say wise, Cat! I am just some guy who likes to help other people, if they will accept my help and there is something I can help them with. (Janet does that to me, too! I honestly wish she wouldn't... but I can't be upset with her, either! She means too much to me to do more than ask her to stop once in a while. (To which she always replies, "NO!" lol!))
Good! I am glad you can accept my hug without a problem! And thank you for the return hug! I do like those!
I would never call anything I say wise, Cat! I am just some guy who likes to help other people, if they will accept my help and there is something I can help them with. (Janet does that to me, too! I honestly wish she wouldn't... but I can't be upset with her, either! She means too much to me to do more than ask her to stop once in a while. (To which she always replies, "NO!" lol!))
Good! I am glad you can accept my hug without a problem! And thank you for the return hug! I do like those!1 person likes this
@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
15 Dec 15
Oh my, @DaddyEvil , I am truly ever so sorry that this is the first discussion you read from me ( hangs head in shame ), I am usually more, uhm, nicer than this, but very protective of people I care about and do not like bullies at all. I hope you do not think I am mean or nasty. I wish you had first seen something lighter from me. Going to now go stick my head in the freezer due to shame.....though thanks for the... "you go, girl".
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
16 Dec 15
@DaddyEvil , ha ha, okay, I will aim for that attitude. It is a wise suggestion. And thank you a ton for the hug! Even though I am not from the US, I have no problem receiving a hug. A big hug back to you, DE. :-)
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
21 Dec 15
Completely agree with you there.
There is nothing more annoying than self-righteousness and a misplaced sense of entitlement.
After all, someone else's business is someone else's business..not a whole lot to do with anyone else.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
22 Dec 15
@bluesa hope your friend didn't go and do what she got pressured to do. It's not like tax, we don't have to pay "our dues" to random people!
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@PainsOnSlate (21845)
• Canada
11 Dec 15
Nice rant, I'm glad it wasn't you being bossed about. Although the bossy one would have had a lot to think about if it had been you...
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
11 Dec 15
@PaintsOnSlate , thank you :-D. Yes, I do not give an inch and once my fuse is lit, kaboom!
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
13 Dec 15
I am not surprised that you are seeing red. I would be seeing red too. No one should ever try to force their way on someone else, it is wrong. Loved ones can point out our errors or our perceived errors but they had better do it carefully and the rest of the word should mind their own business. In my humble opinion.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
13 Dec 15
You are so right @BelleStarr , family or people we care about is one thing and also to a certain point, but the rest of the world, especially if they do not respect a persons rights, should mind their own business.
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@HebrewGreekStudies (1646)
• Canada
11 Dec 15
Mmmm, I hope you feel better soon:(. That is an interesting observation though, infact, a really great one, that ppl seem to flock to bossy people, or ppl with what they assume are stronger personalities-for some ppl they only respect that. I'm pretty chill...but I always tend to notice that some seem to thrive on it, for various reasons. But sometimes...well, ppl just don't really care that they are being that way. I have a fear that I'm too nice to certain kinds of ppl when the truth is, often, they simply don't care much about others. Still...I would rather err on the side of caution myself, when dealing with ppl...because I don't know what is really in their hearts...sometimes ppl just, are not good at communication. I'm guilty of this myself.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
11 Dec 15
@HebrewGreekStudies , thank you, my temper is from high to a low simmer now ;-). Yeah, I do not get why some people gravitate toward bossy people. I think you are great with communication, you communicate with many each day, and if you are too nice, well, that is because you are a wonderful person then. True we cannot always know what is going on in a persons heart, when they behave the way they do. All I know is that with me bossy people get my blood boiling, I am usually quite chill too, because I know my temper sets off and I will try to walk away from trouble, this time my top blew. I will do some deep breathing and move on from it. :-)
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
13 Dec 15
I sometimes get provoked by bossy students. I have one 3rd year student who asked me why pyrogens make a person have fever. I told him to read his book and surf the net. His answer all the more made my head burst, figuratively. "Ma'am I am asking you the question, you must answer me".
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
15 Dec 15
@ridingbet , that was very cheeky of him. You want him to study and to learn how to use his own initiative. I wish you much patience.
@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
11 Dec 15
I know what you mean. I just walk away after I give them a look. I am retired so thankfully I don't have to deal with people I don't like. It's really wonderful.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
12 Dec 15
@bluesa I was in the working world for over 25 years, had my share of those kind of people.
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@celticeagle (189792)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Dec 15
I don't care for bossiness either. I think a lot can be accomplished by a kind word. I think good communication is major also. If people know you don't like a certain approach and, they care about you at all then that approach should change. If not I would begin to wonder about the relationship. If I am communicating clearly that is.
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@garymarsh6 (23978)
• United Kingdom
11 Dec 15
I think I am aware what you are on about and I was disgusted by that behaviour how dare this other person even make such a suggestion. I have not found that persons post though otherwise I would have probably taken the same tack as you especially when it is someone I hold in high esteem. I am with you in the queue. GRRRR
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