More Car Troubles
By patgalca
@patgalca (18481)
Orangeville, Ontario
December 29, 2015 10:51am CST
I am so fed up with the money situation and the yelling going back and forth. Even if it is by text it is still yelling.
My daughter has been complaining since last winter that the tires on the car are bald and we need snow tires. My husband didn't do anything about it. Her boyfriend said he could get some, but kept stalling. We got a major snowfall last night and my daughter, who worked at 4am this morning left home at around 10pm last night so that she could make it safely to work in time. What a stressful night it was for her. She was driving the pick-up which has snow tires on it but found herself struggling with a hill. She had to fill the bed with snow to aid in weighing down the back.
I took matters into my own hands and called my other daughter's coach who works at a car dealership and asked if he could help me out. I have an appointment for this morning to get snow tires on the car. When I told my older daughter I got texts back and forth for an hour "yelling" at me. When she arrived home with her boyfriend, we learned that the cost of the used snow tires he was getting was not much less than the cost of the brand new ones I will be getting. I am using my mother's Christmas gift money to pay for this.
I'm fed up with the car troubles, money troubles, disrespectful daughter, total disregard from my husband about anyone's safety, etc. etc. We will get the snow tires on but come spring we will have to get new all season tires, plus we still have the issue with the gas valve that will need to be fixed before license plate renewal in May.
So I am abandoning everything but whatever makes me money. I don't care how little the amount. I need it. I will also get back to working on my novel and pray I have a best seller on my hands so I can earn some money from that.
How is one supposed to stay positive when you keep getting dumped on?
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11 responses
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
29 Dec 15
My daughter is 22 years old and has a very short fuse. I have given my husband heck for not telling her years ago not to talk to her mother that way, but he has been an oblivious parent. Like the old saying goes, if you want something done you have to do it yourself.
@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
12 Jan 16
Safety comes first. New tires will be helpful for your daughter and you can be at ease when she drives to work. 
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@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
29 Dec 15
I can totally understand your frustrations. In some twisted way, I say your family is lucky to have you in their lives. It seems to me like you're the center that drives it all, and you're the one that makes things happen for their own good. I hope that your family will soon realize the sacrifices and hardships you are making and facing for them. You are one strong woman and I know that you will be able to get through with this.
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@RichardMeister (5328)
• Otis Orchards, Washington
30 Dec 15
I don't understand. The money for the tires is not coming out of your daughter's pocket and her boyfriend isn't coming up with the tires, so why would she be upset? I'd think she would be happy just to get the tires on the car. It sounds like your daughter is working and living at home. If that is the case, where is all her money going? Does she pay you for room and board?
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@JudyEv (381760)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Dec 15
I hope things improve for you. Luckily we just have the same tyres season in, season out.
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
30 Dec 15
There used to be a time where we could use all season tires but the experts are saying you really must get winter tires for Canada's winters. Besides, the all season tires that were on the car are old and, as my daughter says, bald. I will probably have to buy new tires again come spring.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
30 Dec 15
I so understand how you feel, I wrote an discussion here about how whatever I do I am wrong. I can't stand the yelling anymore either.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jan 16
sounds like our family uses youto do all e dirty ry work wile the sit back and gro use about everything pity you cannot just take off for a week and l t them see how you are the fix it person. li
@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
29 Dec 15
Kind of hard when I asked my husband to follow me to the dealership and he refused, told me to take the shuttle home. The shuttle guy was on lunch. I phoned my daughter to come pick me up but my husband had disappeared with the truck! When he returned she said she would come and get me but then my husband said he would. Why the heck didn't he just follow me in the first place? Meanwhile I'm dumping my sob story on the lady at the dealership. She was such a sweetheart.
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@patgalca (18481)
• Orangeville, Ontario
29 Dec 15
Unfortunately, I have to think ahead. There will be more work to be done on the vehicle in the spring so that means not touching the money in my bank account and save it for that. Can't buy myself anything with the Christmas money Mom gave me.
