When playfulness becomes abuse

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That's kind of an odd start to a topic, but it pretty much sums up what I'm thinking about. I remember quite a few years back seeing a news article about a young boy who'd been tickled to death. Obviously, the person doing the tickling didn't think they were causing (or even could cause) harm, but it still happened. Even though the child was begging them to stop, they continued, thinking it was all fun and games. Therein lies my point. If someone is doing something to you and thinks they're playing, but it makes you uncomfortable or even causes pain, but they don't stop when you ask or tell them to, they have crossed the line into abuse. Immature people seem to have a harder time drawing the line. My daughter was diagnosed with fibromyalgia last year after undergoing extensive testing. Things that don't cause pain to others hurt when done to her. Her now-ex-boyfriend apparently did not understand this. She could be crying, begging him to stop wrestling or whatever, but he'd laugh away and keep going. Only when she finally got mad and yelled at him did he stop and then he'd get mad that she was upset at something he thought was no big deal. Just like with sexual advances, if the person doesn't stop when asked, they have ventured into the abuse zone. This BF became an ex before he figured it out.