The value of rejection
By Wendy789
@Drosophila (16568)
Ireland
February 16, 2016 6:25am CST
I've received a rejection email months after I've applied for this job. The letter was short 'n' sweet "we've decided to progress with another candidate."
I wrote back a "thank you" letter to the recruitment team, for they had bothered to give me the one thing rejections always bring. Closure!
Here lies the value of rejection. It calls for an end to waste more energy on a particular endeavour.
We do our own fair share of rejections as well, be it this product, that service, this friend, or that lover.
Rejection is part of our day to day.
So, why is the value of rejection so neglected?
What's your take and story on rejection?
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16 responses
@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Job rejections no longer affect me as negatively as once it did.
I used to be responsible for hiring people in my old job, so I know there are 99 reasons why a candidate doesn't make it through, and it's not necessarily all bad.
Rejection of a personal nature might sting a bit more, like that of a friendship or romantic relationship. But I guess, in those circumstances, one should really be grateful for not being "strung" along and waste more time "cultivating" something that ultimately wasn't going to work out. So I guess, there's value in being denied there as well. :)
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Tbh, I'd forgotten about my application until I've received this mail.
But, it was still nice of them to write back.
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@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
16 Feb 16
I guess its like a wake up call sometimes.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
It can be depending on the circumstances. I must admit, I view rejection as something that's quite common really, as much as we say "yes" to something, we say "no" to even more things.
@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
17 Feb 16
@Drosophila I agree. Plus rejection gives us more will to go on and move on for better things.
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@skysnap (20152)
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16 Feb 16
@Drosophila yeah. it's kind of like this. you learn or you win. and rejection stands in the you learn category.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
@skysnap I think even "win" can turn out to be a "learn". I've certainly experienced that!
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Yep, I guess like anything, it's easy to blow it out of proportion. Part of the fun has always been how to deal with rejections and setbacks in our lives in a balanced way.
@AbbyGreenhill (45490)
• United States
16 Feb 16
I think in one way or another, no matter how large or small, we face rejections quite frequently. Being rejected for a job, or being rejected by a friend or even a strange, it's part of life.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Agreed! Rejection occurs more frequently than we think it does.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Feb 16
@Drosophila yes few take to send rejection letter so applicants are left hanging.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
17 Feb 16
@salonga it's good to be rejected! than hanging
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
These days, am just glad to receive rejection letters, because most companies don't even bother with that.
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@maezee (41985)
• United States
16 Feb 16
Oh, it drives me absolutely crazy when potential employers do not have the common courtesy to send a rejection letter or e-mail. I am not new to getting rejection letters, in fact I keep a scrapbook of them (I also have the tendency to apply for jobs that are way out of my realm, too, though!) I recently applied for this job, went through a first-interview, and made it to the top 4 candidates. As in, I was 1 of 4 people they were going to decide to hire. In the end, a colleague of mine got hired instead, and because I talk to her quite regularly, I learned she got the job that way. However, I never received a phone call, e-mail or letter in the mail that I was rejected from this job. I found this to be truly annoying; as one of the top 4 candidates, and I attended 2 interviews, you would think that I would at least receive a letter. Ugh! Anyway, I hope something good comes up for you soon!
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Ugh! That's some ropey practice! As the final candidates, absolutely you should get a "thank you for your interest" email! That's very shoddy behavior, as we'd call it in UK. The recruitment process says a lot about the company culture, either this company is poorly organised, or they just don't care. The early can be improved, the latter only gets worse.
Ya, I found a job shortly after Xmas and am now gainfully employed, so I'd forgotten all about this company until they've decided to write me this mail 2.5 month after my application. Still, it was nice of them to have bothered.
@eagletrek2 (5514)
• Kingston, New York
17 Feb 16
It just part of life when I was in school I was the one who was all ways pick last.So rejections from any thinkg else does not bother me
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@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
16 Feb 16
all too often companies simply say nothing nowadays - a letter or e-mail is useful for the unemployed to prove they are job-searching but often companies don't send even the old standard 'Dear John' letter of rejection
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
I know right!! I was quite touched they bothered to email me to let me know the outcome of my application. Although I did apply in early December.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Thank you! There was a time I'd freak out, but that was long long ago :)
@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Agreed! I applied for this position back in the beginning of December 2015, it's taken them just over 2 months to get back to me with a "no"..
Tbh, I had forgotten I'd applied with them before I got the email". Nonetheless, they could just simply ignored my application.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
17 Feb 16
That is absolutely true. every time we say "no" it is invariably a rejection, we just dont see it as such.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
17 Feb 16
@Scindhia lol.. how about the times we active reject
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@Scindhia (1906)
• India
17 Feb 16
@Drosophila Its better we don't realize in most cases. Otherwise we would be disappointed continuously.
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
Lol! I'd actually forgotten all about the application until I got the mail. I've applied at the beginning of December? So just over 2 months.
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (18042)
• Torrington, Connecticut
16 Feb 16
I dont like rejection personally, if I contact someone and feel like im a bother to them then I wont ever bother or talk to them again
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@Drosophila (16568)
• Ireland
16 Feb 16
In a personal situation, I must say, I persist a bit more. But if it becomes increasingly clear that my contact is neither welcomed nor appreciated, then ya I would do them the courtesy of leaving them alone.
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