" Don't want to offend him"
By ida123
@ida123 (6206)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
February 17, 2016 2:13am CST
Yesterday, I went to my parents house to visit them and bought them their weekly medicines and milk. It's my duty to do this, weekly and it's my siblings request, they send me money for my parents.
I never thought that my Dad was offended in doing such, he told me that he didn't need these things because he thought that we, his children don't trust him. He told me that if my siblings want to buy meds and milk for them, they have to send him money, not me to buy for them because he thought it's a great insult on his part.
So, I explained to him that, it's not that we don't trust him, I told him that we don't want him to drive the car because his already old to do this, we want him to be safe and thanks God that he understand us.
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@JudyEv (381762)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Feb 16
Your father must be a very proud man. It is sad that you and your siblings were thinking of his well-being but he read the situation as something else entirely. I think it is very hard for older parents to have to give up some of their independence but he and your mother are lucky to have such caring children.
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@louievill (28846)
• Philippines
17 Feb 16
Everything you and your siblings are doing is right and your dad knows it but he just does not want to admit it wholly simply because he is not use to being treated that way. Probably you could also consider thinking of something like a small task or activity for your father that's not dangerous or compromise to he's health but would bring him back some of his pride and self esteem. It's not easy transition if you have provided for your family all your life, defended them and stood for them then suddenly you feel like a toothless lion ( just my thoughts)
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
17 Feb 16
the elderly somehow have the attitude of feeling independent; they still want to be self-generating versus being isolated and dependent on others. (Erik Erikson's developmental task of adults as generativity versus stagnation).
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Feb 16
Yes, he wants to be independent and doesn't want us to help him on his transactions and there are times, he encountered bodulbodul group and this is the reason, why my siblings are sending money through me for their meds, personal needs and others.
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@nottoooldtowrite (2715)
• Philippines
17 Feb 16
I guess the older we get, the more sensitive we become. Glad that he understood you in the end. I am sure you and your siblings are only thinking of the well being of your parents.
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