Say What?
@just4him (323168)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
February 29, 2016 4:18pm CST
My older son told me he got a job and starts today. Great! He keeps talking about the fact he needs money and he needs to get his car fixed.
So this morning I get up to nature's call fully expecting he would be gone to work. Nope. He was lying on the couch - his bed - sleeping. I asked him why he wasn't at work. He said he had issues.
It must be nice to have a roof over your head and not have any worries about anything. I guess his need for money isn't as big a deal as he keeps going on about.
He's gone at the moment, but I have no idea where, but I know he didn't go to work, unless he changed his mind.
I do know if I was his employer and he not showing up the first day, it would be the end of his job.
He's had so many excuses for not working and not even going to school for his GED which he also signed up for, that it makes me wonder what his ethics are.
I know when I was growing up excuses weren't allowed or even tolerated. I don't think my father ever missed a day of work. I know he was laid off at one time, but even then he was doing something to supplement the income.
Times have sure changed.
How do you feel about missing work? Thanks for reading.
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26 responses
@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
29 Feb 16
My son has been at his job for almost 3 years and has missed 3 days when he had the flu. I am proud of my son. I hope your son gets his act together sometime. How old is he if you don't mind my asking.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Feb 16
@fishtiger58 Thank you. I'm counting down the days until he's gone - 31.
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@fishtiger58 (29819)
• Momence, Illinois
29 Feb 16
@just4him Yes at that age he should not be in your house if you don't want him there and taking care of himself. I can see why you are frustrated. I'm so sorry for your problems with him.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Mar 16
@sugartoes I ignored him when he got home last night. He's not here this morning, so I'm hoping he went to work.
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@Marilynda1225 (91013)
• United States
29 Feb 16
I had a very high work ethic and would drag myself to work on a day when I really should have called in sick. But, I worked with people who didn't take their job seriously and would just coast until they got fired.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Mar 16
@sugartoes I've seen that happen. My younger son was in that slump when he got fired from a job shortly before he moved in with me. He looked everywhere. That was when the economy crashed and people everywhere lost jobs. He got a phone call one day from someone and was hired and fired in the same call. The guy asked him how long he had been out of work. That ended that. He managed to get work for McD's where he had worked once before and has been there since. He has always had a good job record, unlike my oldest who hasn't been able to keep a job for any length of time and has been homeless or living off people all his life.
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@GardenGerty (169406)
• United States
1 Mar 16
I often let my work ethic interfere with family time and with my health. There is a happy medium, but he needs to get off your couch and get busy.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
2 Mar 16
He did go to work yesterday and today. So that's good.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
1 Mar 16
Are we not those who stuck to their jobs for years truly blessed? I am concerned for your son that he avoids going to work when there are so many out there struggling to get jobs
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@allknowing (153544)
• India
1 Mar 16
@just4him Hope you will be able to convince him about the joys of getting a job.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Mar 16
@allknowing He went to work this morning. At least I think he did. He wasn't here when I got up.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
1 Mar 16
I have a love hate relationship with work. I really dont like doing it. I want to be at home. but gotta pay the bills, so I go.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
1 Mar 16
@just4him sometimes that's necessary. If he gets military, I plan on working here for a while, then moving to wherever he is if I can. If not, will either keep working, or sell the house and move near gram or something. I do want to keep working, but will then be able to be more choosy and pick something I at least lightly enjoy
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Mar 16
@Jessicalynnt I see no reason why you won't be able to move to his base location. I know everything will work out for you. I can feel hope in your comment. 
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (18025)
• Torrington, Connecticut
1 Mar 16
Sounds like he is lacking motivation, this generation is lost sadly. I have a few family members who live at home with their parents and dont work either, it pisses me off to see them through their lives away wasting time and acting like they dont have a car in the world
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (18025)
• Torrington, Connecticut
1 Mar 16
@just4him yeah it was definitely a change for the better
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Mar 16
@BACONSTRIPSXXX Totally awesome
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
1 Mar 16
Maybe he has a problem that needs professional check or someone to talk to him. Missing school and work not a good thing
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
1 Mar 16
@just4him Keep loving him and never stop. Thats what we mothers got to give our children and it can never be traded with anything
Hope he will be alright though
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Mar 16
No it's not, but at this point it's his life. He's an adult. As soon as he leaves my home, I'm finished with him. No, I'm not going to stop loving him - he's my son. But I'm not going to help him anymore, he makes promises he never keeps.
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@penpicture (11)
• Pune, India
1 Mar 16
If he doesn't enjoy his work, he's bound to make excuses. But, at times to make the ends meet, we have to stop complaining and embrace things the way they are. Anyhow, tell him that life is not a bed of roses. the thorns will come and make him tougher.
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@penpicture (11)
• Pune, India
1 Mar 16
@just4him yes. Make him understand that. :)
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@moonchild117 (1990)
• Philippines
1 Mar 16
I personally feel bad about not going to work, not that I'm a workaholic but I know that if I'm given a job it's an opportunity to earn something for myself and my family.
I hope your son realizes that he's lucky to have a job. There are people who need it but are unable to have it.
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@DeborahDiane (40843)
• Laguna Woods, California
1 Mar 16
I'm sure you must be very disappointed and frustrated with your son. I hope that he gets whatever type of help he needs to start taking responsibility for himself. After all, you won't be able to take care of him forever.
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